Hi mommybean, welcome to healing well forum we are so glad to have you join us here. I am sorry for the difficult time your family is having now. I realize things most likely seem uncertain right now but I can see some positives in your post here. One is that your husband went to the doctor and sought help. That is usually a big hurdle with a lot of men, bigger for those that have ADHD. Second, that he would be willing to taking medication to help with these issues.
I understand that you feel isolated from your husband and wish for your life with him to go back to way things were before. With depression I am sure your husband feels isolated from everything and just perhaps life in general. That doesnt have anything to do with is amount of love for you and his children, it is just that over time when you have depression it tends to eat away at you slowly. It can take away from you the feelings of everything that you enjoy and hold dear in life but, the good thing is that with the right treatment and working closely with his doctor depression is completely treatable as is ADHD. My suggestion would be to do lots of research on this disorder and though it is difficult on you be as supportive as possible because having a strong support system is very important. Hang in there and please know that you are always welcome to post here for information and support...Take care.
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Okay well yeah sometimes the meds can be expensive so there are several options to that. One is that you call the doc and ask them to change the prescription to something your insurance will cover or is out in generic form. The other option is telling the doc that they are way too expensive and seeing if he will give out samples...if he prescribed something like Lexapro or Cymbalta which is the two newest on the market, I am sure that they have tons of samples from drug reps and most doctors do not mind giving these out to patients who cant afford the meds.
Another option is to look into prescription assistance with the actual drug company for which the medication he was prescribed. The drug companies know that insurance companies are making it more and more difficult for people to get and afford these type of medications so they have put in place assistance for those people so they can get their medications. If your interested in trying this route you can call your pharmacy and they should direct you or give you information on how to contact them.
As for wrecking your marriage by saying or doing the wrong thing...it sounds like he is responding to you with anger ...I am sorry for that. Of course you will have to decide what is the best option for you and your child/children but, perhaps sitting him down or taking him out to dinner (where it would be hard for him to yell) and explaining your feelings to him would be a good idea. It is easy to ignore the problem or tell yourself that hopefully things get better with time...but you should know that this isnt your fault and you dont deserve to be treated this way...regardless of how he feels, depression or not. And if things are this way then I would say yes, he most likely does need the meds and it would be very difficult for anything to change unless he took them.
We are here for you...