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Kelatron
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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 5/2/2007 5:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello all ...
I am 28 years old and have struggled with anxiety and depression on and off my entire life.  When I was 6, I began exuberating symptoms of OCD which was later diagnosed as Trichotillomania.  I've experienced severe manic episodes only periodically through my life.  I've only recently been making a strong effort to try medication.  I gave birth to my son almost 6 years ago.  His Father and I divorced 4 years ago.  I since have remarried to a wonderful, loving man.  And his Father has also remarried.  However, my mental history was used against me in assigning custody of my son and my son's Father has residential custody (although they still term it as "Shared Parenting").  I see my son only every other weekend and we alternate holidays and such.  My husband and I purchased our home last year.  I also transitioned to a new job at this time.  I had to go through a bankruptcy due to the previous attorney and court fees from the divorce and custody battle.  I have often been traumatized by change.  As of late, I have been out of work for a month now.  I had what I classify as a "nervous breakdown" and am now trying to gain employment.  My primary physician tried me first on Cymbalta.  I took this for approximately 4-6 weeks.  Once I had a very bad day of depressive and hysterical behavior, my Mother and Husband took me back to my doctor and she prescribed Prozac (20mg 1x a day) and Xanax (5mg 2x a day).  Initially, I felt this wave of energy come over me.  I finally had the desire to get up and go.  Now after about 3 weeks on the Prozac (and I've ended up only taking 1 Xanax a day to stretch it out), I'm basically going comatose immediately after I take it.  I'll crash out for a few hours and wake up groggy and then not be able to sleep at night w/o the help of sleep aids.  2007 has been a difficult one at that.  I was involved in a minor car accident, my son was put on ADHD medication (Focalin 5mg 1x a day), my Grandfather passed away, I got married, my son was rushed to the emergency room for chest pains, resigned from my employer, etc.  And with my son getting older, he's missing me more and more (which only adds to how much I already miss him), I feel alienated parentally by his Father and Step-Mother.  And I'm wanting to take legal action to show change in circumstance since the intial judgment was first ruled. 
So Q #1:  Is this delayed side effect normal?
    Q #2:  Have any other Mothers been discrimated against for having needs for this type of medication?
 

ShynSassy
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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 5/3/2007 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kelatron
First of all welcome to the board,I am very glad that you found us.

My ex told the judge that I was "mental" because of the depression. My ex still tries to use that against me to this day.
When I do break down and go into the "fight with him" I remind him that it is because of him.

My kids are ages 16 and 19. My son (16 yr old) has ADD. He gets out of control alot,and I finally had to make a hard choice for him. I decided that I could not control him,the environment was not healthy in my home,and he had to live with his dad.
Believe me that was one of the hardest decisions I have ever made. BUT
He is better,my daughter is fine. Even though I hate their father with a passion for all of the years of torment he gave me. I know they are being taken care of,and my son is better.
So,the question to ask yourself is: Are my kids safe,are they happy?
It is hard to let someone take full control of the caring of your kids,but as long as they know you love them,and you are a phone call away. You spend your time with them showing them that,then you need to give yourself a break.
If your son wants to see you more,then tell the father you are taking him longer.
If he does not agree to that,then it might be time to go back to court.


Please keep us posted.

Shy
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stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 5/7/2007 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello and Welcome,

I am Kitt.

A good friend of mine is bipolar and petitioned the courts for custoday of her 3 small grandchildren as they were taken away from her son and his wiife.

The children are 1,2 and 3. My friend is a single women 50 years old. The Social Services fought placing the children with her due to her bipolar and history. She was turned down on 12/23/2006.

The next day, Christmas eve she received a call from her attorney that the judge had over ruled social services and the children were brought to her that very day.

So yes the courts could very well change which parnet is award custody.

I know when children are involved it is heartbreaking but I wish you the best.

 


 
Respectfully
 
Kitt
RN CCRN, Critical Care and Emergency Department Manager for 26 years.
 
Depression 25 years, Husband Crohns Disease 30 years
My Father and 5 siblings all died of Cancer. It is a subject close to my heart to help people with Cancer.
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ShynSassy
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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 5/8/2007 5:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Kate,yes my kids were 14 and 17 at the time. My daughter had already made the decision that she wanted to live with her dad because it was closer to school ect ect.
Believe me,I love my kids with all of my heart and I am pretty sure they know it. My daughter and I are best friends,son and I are as close as a mother and son can get...boys don't like to talk to their moms about too much..it embarrasses him.
I am very sorry that you were not able to have kids...but it sounds like you are able to have alot of fun with your nieces and nephews. And to have a baby named after you that is very cool.


Shy
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ShynSassy
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Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 5/10/2007 4:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sure I just misread what you wrote,maybe not enough coffee in my veins ;)
I think that whatever you think is going to help will work. Don't worry about whatever anyone else thinks.

Good luck with your appt


Shy
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"I am woman,hear me roar one day and cry the next!!!"

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