I climb the ladder of hope then after 5mins of happiness fall back to the bottom

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lil miss
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 5/5/2007 6:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Im hating every minute of things today. I thought my luck was finally changing when my solicitor told me the new social worker was on my side so my chances of getting my little girl back were higher than ever. Well yesterday things turned around for the worse o got statments from father,gf and paternal granmother all running me down and lying. There trying to say im a bad mother and wen i did have her i left my chil unsupervised and drank. These things that are being said are really hurting me and i now believe ive lost the fight to get my lil angel back. I dont know wat to do any more help me please!!!!!!! sad

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   Posted 5/5/2007 10:09 AM (GMT -6)   
eyes  LIL MISS!
You know that you may email me when you are in crisis!  I don't always check this everyday.  Anyway, sweetheart, this is not going to happen over night!!  I plead with you to remember my plight and how long it lasted.  This is a serious matter and will take awhile to overcome.  You MUST maintain your composure and self-control!!  I know it is hard, I have been there I want you to remember that. 
As far as what people are saying, that will happen, look at it this way, if everyone had good things to say to you, you would not be where you are now!  People are going to be cruel and say hurtful things whether they are true or not!  For whatever reason, you must prove that the information they are giving is not what you represent!!  If bad things are haunting you, overcome them, get the help you need for support both legally and clinically so that you will have a little easier time getting through this.
The main thing I want to express to you though is again, this will not happen over a day, month or maybe even a year but how it turns out depends on you and only you.
You are the focus right now so shine as much as you can!!!!  It is hard but a little ray of sun now will ensure a possibility of having alot more sunshine in the future!!
You know I know this!
Hugs sweetheart,
If you need to email me you know you can.

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   Posted 5/5/2007 11:08 AM (GMT -6)   

Dear Lil Miss

I am so sorry that you are in this situation and I know how painful it must be for you.

There are over 3 million Mothers in the US alone who do not have primary custody of their children.  A large and growing percentage of these women are fit and loving  mothers.  In addition to paying child support, having visitation denied, and having their relationships with their children minimized, non-custodial mothers also face society's knee-jerk reaction to think they must have done something wrong to have lost custody.  It is extremely difficult to meet new people or make new friendships  because non-custodial mothers are so qickly labeled before someone takes the time to listen and to get to know you. 

We are here to support you, and listen to you so please talk to us. Tell us your story and we will not judge.  We will extend a hand of friendship and take the time to get to know you, not rush to judge you.

Please don't give up your spirit or your goal of getting custody of your child.

Gentle Hugs


RN CCRN, Critical Care and Emergency Department Manager for 26 years.
Depression 25 years, Husband Crohns Disease 30 years
My Father and 5 siblings all died of Cancer. It is a subject close to my heart to help people with Cancer.
"If you doubt you can accomplish something, then you can’t accomplish it. You have to have confidence in your ability, and then be tough enough to follow through.”
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   Posted 5/7/2007 7:15 AM (GMT -6)   
Lil Miss
I am so sorry you are going through this.

Stay strong!

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   Posted 5/7/2007 8:22 PM (GMT -6)   
mad Lilmiss~
As you know, others here will care about you don't forget that.  I do want to say that in getting to know you, seeing the post about stats probably upset you.  You know my take on stats.  Stats are just numbers remember that.  To you and I we could be stats but WE choose not to be remember that! 
Stay strong and use my email!!!
Love and prayers,
Your Guardian Angel :)

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   Posted 5/9/2007 6:40 PM (GMT -6)   
I believe all that have posted have shown they care ...............and stats are stats
I lost my kids a long time go......
It took me a couple of yrs and plenty of tears to get them back....BUT I did ...Hang on ..

Thoughts and prayers are with you .....

Never think the negative hun you will be just fine you know that as do I ........
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