Newbie And My Depression Just Got Worse

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SadMommy
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 5/28/2007 4:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi All..I'm new here....
I'm 45 years old and have been struggling with depression since I was 14 years old or earlier..Well it just got worse..My 22 year old daughter told me last nice after too much to drink that she was raped 3 years ago in her University dorm...This is over the edge for me...because of my crappy childhood I tried to make sure my kids were well loved and cared for...OMG!!! someone hurt my baby and I can't do a thing about it....I'm at a real low and have no one to talk to..I did join a survivor board to tell me what I can do to help her, but I need help also ....so here I am telling all....thank you for listening..

Melanie50
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Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 148
   Posted 5/28/2007 9:19 PM (GMT -7)   

I'm so sorry that you and your daughter have to go through this.  Raising daughters is so much harder than raising boys.  I have two of each.  My daughter was in a drunk driving accident on her 20th birthday and is now a quadriplegic.  Talk about going into depression!  I know how you must be feeling and you are probably trying to blame this somehow on you.  "What did I do wrong, didn't I do enough to prepare her for life - although you can never prepare someone for an act of violence".  Your daughter was violated but so were  you.  He did this to you wonderful daughter and you feel her pain as well as your own.  I've been there.  I don't know how a mother survives such traumatic events such as rape or drunk driving accident happening to their daughters.  My daughter's accident was 6 years ago and I'm still in pain.

If there is anything I can do, please let me know.  It just takes time but your depression might need to be treated by a professional.  It's not the type of depression that just goes away.  Please seek help when you can.

Melanie


Degenerative Disc Disease, Spinal Stenosis, Herniated Disc, Arthritis of the Spine, some kind of problem with the L5-S1 area, sciatica, diabetes, depression and anxiety.
 
 
Lord help me to remember that nothing will happen to me today that you and I can't handle together.


SadMommy
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 5/29/2007 7:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Melanie,
I do have a doctor and am currently working on my depression..Its been a struggle my whole life. This is day two of knowing about my daughters rape and I still have that cold chill over me..I wish life was kinder as we got older but its not and this earth plain we are on is not heaven..I am going to try and keep myself busy so I won't dwell on it.
 
Melanie, It real is sad about your daughter, Just when I think I have it bad I find there is always worse..Your poor daughter and how you must sacrifice for her for the rest of your lives..My prays are with you and your daughter..
Just Taking One Day At A Time


Melanie50
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Date Joined Oct 2005
Total Posts : 148
   Posted 5/29/2007 3:54 PM (GMT -7)   
We all have our burdens to bear - especially for our children as they are out hearts and soul from the day they are born.  I cannot imagine dealing with such a heart wrenching ordeal as what you and your daughter are going through.  Have the caught the monster that did this?  How is your daughter handling this?  What an awful secret she kept for three years.
 
Whenever someone does something to our children it hurts so deeply that you think you can't breathe and the whole world looks different.  I had a nervous breakdown 3 years after my daughter's accident.  Prior to that I was so busy just keeping things together for her and the rest of my family that I didn't take care of myself and I was even on antidepressants and going through counseling.
 
Please continue to take care of yourself.  The biggest hurdle I faced was blaming myself for what happened to her.  After several times of her telling me that it wasn't my fault, I finally let that burden go.
 
Please keep us posted on how you are doing because you are early on in the journey of dealing with this.
 
Melanie
 
 
Degenerative Disc Disease, Spinal Stenosis, Herniated Disc, Arthritis of the Spine, some kind of problem with the L5-S1 area, sciatica, diabetes, depression and anxiety.
 
 
Lord help me to remember that nothing will happen to me today that you and I can't handle together.


SadMommy
New Member


Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 3
   Posted 5/29/2007 5:25 PM (GMT -7)   
I haven't got to the point where we are talking about it to know what happened to the rapist..I do have an appointment for counseler session to help me help her and keep my head above water..I am using this forum to talk about how I feel and another forum where its just about her..This way I hope to keep my perspective..Today I did some meditating and then got on the thread mill for an hour to exhaust my body so it would be at the same place my mind is..just exshauted...

Just Taking One Day At A Time For The Rest Of My Life

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