Is there anything you do to prevent crying?

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Nats
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   Posted 5/29/2007 1:12 AM (GMT -6)   

It is 8:30 in the morning, and I am on the verge of bursting into tears. Last night I went to bed early, took a shower, did my nails and put loads of moisturizer around my eyes to try and stop them from dryness and getting red in the morning, determined to get to work looking fresh and pretty and NOT like a toad for a change. Its 8:30 in the freggin’ morning, work does not start until 9:30, and I am about to cry, and am just holding myself. I’ve logged on here, and now the urge to cry is gone, but I now I know my day is already screwed.   

 

I hate this, I hate having red eyes, nose and a puffy face, and I hate being unable to control my tear ducts. Sometimes I feel a relief to just hide away in a bathroom and bawl into the towel, but now it is starting to tire me out. I’m so scared that one of these days I’m going to start crying at the office, there will be no way for me to hide it.

 

I don’t know if any of you have these constant outbursts? If anyone saw me they’d think someone died! Do you often get the urge to cry? And if yes, do you somehow prevent it? I’ve tried counting to ten, telling myself not to do it.. but it just has a mind of it’s own.


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   Posted 5/29/2007 1:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Nats
 
When you really can't control it, alas there is little we can do..... but, I find that if I catch it early and know that I can put it off til I am alone at home or somewhere safe, I do lots of deep breathing and blowing (kinda like you see in movies when a woman is about to give birth lol).
Hope this helps.
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   Posted 5/29/2007 11:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Crying has been found to be the only way to quickly release the 'sad' enzyme discovered in brain chemistry. Saw this on the Discovery channel and it made me feel so much better. Doctors measured tears from peeps watching very sad (tear jerker type) movies and then measured tears form onion exposure as well as wind and eye irritation. They found the 'sad' enzyme excreted in the tears from the sad movie watchers.

This lead them to theorize that crying actually does make us feel better because it excretes this enzyme rather quickly and those who had been told not to cry showed higher levels of this enzyme in serum levels for days after the sad movie. I wish I could direct you to a website explaining this better, but all I can say is let yourself cry, blow your nose, wash your face and if anyone asks, tell them you have allergies. (Me, I'm allergic to being sad!) Hope this helps.
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els
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   Posted 5/29/2007 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Nats, I wonder if there is a reason why you are crying?  Do you have depression or a similiar disorder? 

I recall when my depression hits its high point I tend to cry often and mostly for no reason at all.  I normally know that when I get like this I need to get my behind into the doctor for a med change or adjustment.  But this is just me...


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Nats
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   Posted 5/30/2007 2:25 AM (GMT -6)   
I posted a few minutes ago answering that question, Els, on another thread. I don't think I am in a depression, but sure feel like I am getting there. I've been horribly stressed out lately, and yes it’s leading me to feel unhappy and bitter with everything around me. Little, pathetic things hardly worth while like a sentence here and there, my own train of thought and small screw ups at work…etc. Just drag me so low and to tears that it is crazy. I feel like I am out of control.

And here is the problem: I have heard before that a good cry makes you feel better. I completely lose energy. about 20 minutes ago someone passed on a comment that really took down any hint of good feeling I had woke up with this morning (yes. Today too. I posted this all yesterday, and today it is happening again. It seems to happen almost everyday now). I strained not to tear up, and then I did for a few seconds. Rather than feeling better, it is 9 AM, I have $!*^-loads of work to do, and now feel so knocked out, and in physical pain around my shoulders and head, and it comes from those two minutes of tears and rage.

I have to stop this. I have to find a way to look at these stupid, stupid, pointless things and just shrug and turn away without a care in the world. It feels like that control is beyond me. I could have easily ignored the small conversation and just continued a normal morning. But instead it sent my insides into such a rage, and triggered a headache and everything else.

What the hell am I supposed to do with this?

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   Posted 5/31/2007 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Nats,
If your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain, as mine is, then perhaps some medication would be in order to help you get things back in balance. I'm diabetic and take pills to help my blood sugar levels. I'm chronically depressed and take an SSRI (selective seratonin reuptake inhibitor) to help control my seratonin levels in my brain. I take Lipitor to help control my blood cholesterol. All of these medications improve my quality of life.

Only your doctor can really help you with this but I would suggest an emergency appointment to get in and get help. The sooner you talk to a professional the sooner you can get this straightened out. I've tried to do this on my own and with medication. I do much better with medical help. Good luck to you.
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   Posted 5/31/2007 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   

Nats,

Hi this is Kitt and I know exactly what your going through. At my worse during my 26 years of depression I would wake up in the morning in bed and start to cry as I did not know what to do next, I could not make decisions.

I cried while putting my make-up on when getting ready to go to work. I cried on my way to work, and then I put on my mask and pretended I was great..............I knew I was in serious trouble and med changes were not working.

I fianlly broke down at work and hid in a corner of my office. I called my good friend and asked her to come up to my office...........when she saw me she went and got my boss who drove me home...........Guess what I am still alive and did not die of humiliation even though I thought I would.

I was in a deep depression, I needed to get into therapy and work with Pdoc on meds.  I also took early retirement.

You can hold the tears in but somehow they have a mind of their own and the darn bursts.

I spent days crying and hugging my dog and praying for someone to help me. I woud wash fae and take a big sigh thinking I am ok now and the tears started all over.

I truly agree with Jeanie, you need to see a physician and get to the cause of your tears and the rage you are feeling.

You have the support of all these wonderful people, let them help you and keep posting.

Gentle Hugs.


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   Posted 5/31/2007 9:50 PM (GMT -6)   

Another thing- I figured out a way to trick people into believing that my eyes were teary because of allergies.  I tried to keep things around that I could be allergic to.  I claim perfumes and lotion scents, dust, cats and dogs and flowers.  At pretty much any time I can claim I had come into contact with an allergen.

I did end up getting on medications.  The first several meds and dose combinations did not work, and only added side effects to my "sadness."  For the last medication change I felt better, even on a "high."  I got impulsive, "spendy", testy with my children and my husband.

I don't know if medication is always the answer, but it can help.

 
 
Christina
 
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nature lover
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   Posted 6/5/2007 9:51 AM (GMT -6)   
TO Nats: I have struggled with the same thing my whole life!!! I have no idea what I cry about sometimes. Sometimes there are reasons but most of the time there is no reason at all. I cry about every single day, I never know when it's gonna happen but it always does, and I have no idea what the answer is, I sure wished I did. It's sad, exspecially when there's no reason.  Suez

LG
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   Posted 6/5/2007 8:03 PM (GMT -6)   
To Nats and also Nature lover
I also have spells of sparatic crying. The rest of my family has more or less decided I am emotionally unstable but I guess to some extent I am. But i still get upset if one of my sisters tells me its weird im crying for no real reason. I also wish i knew the answer =/ LG
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   Posted 6/5/2007 8:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Myself, I do the same thing, getting emotional outbursts, tears, crying. I have been to doctors for many years, took many (20-30-40) different types of meds. I also have cardiomyopathy. (bad spelling) and a pacemaker/defibulator. (I'm 47) For me, when the water starts pouring, I will listen to, write or play loud music, (drown the pain) There are oodles of musicians and artists that I can identify with. I also do a bit of sci-fi writing. Putting it on paper, doing a homegrown jam, for me works better than finding just another soft shoulder. Smoking an illegal substance took away the problem completely. Do not follow MY bad example! I am now clean as a whistle. I am doing reasonably well. I look at it as an aid to creativity. James Brown wasn't always faking it. Best wishes and prayers,
Steve

emotionalgal
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   Posted 5/10/2012 11:36 PM (GMT -6)   
i thought m the only one who cry so much..i feel so embarassed since i hv been crying so much in public..if anything goes wrong or anything not in my favor even ifits a smalllllll thing...i shed tears..i tried ma bes to control but i cant..

emotionalgal
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   Posted 5/10/2012 11:37 PM (GMT -6)   
thanks for all ur post..i think i l also visit a doctor..

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   Posted 5/11/2012 6:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Emotionalgal,

Welcome to the forum...

I am sorry that you are crying so. It is a good emotional release. It is cleansing. But sometimes we do need to talk to somebody about it. I think it would be good for you to see a counsleor or a doctor. Please keep us posted.

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Missee
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   Posted 6/6/2012 12:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there I am another woman who suffers from emotional crying outbursts and it is having a large impact on my relationship as my partner does not know how to cope with my crying and I really do not wish this to end my relationship as I love my partner dearly.When I was younger in my 20's I had quite a few bad relationship experiences marriage break up because my husband cheated on me,a stalking drug addict boyfriend next,a man who left me for another woman,a man who held a knife to my throat when I told him I loved him and a alcoholic all one after the other,I was a strong independent teenager but by my mid to late 20's I was seriously bulimic,had depression & had tried to take my life 5 times.I saw countless councilors and psychologists,then I met my partner now and he helped me so much at the start but then I suffered from tiredness,irritability,mild mood swings and depression so he had enough and he left me.about a year and a half later we got back together and all was well but the smallest thing made me short tempered and teary so once again he could not handle my emotions and left me again.Now we live on opposite sides of the country and still see each other every 6-8 months for 10-13 days I would love to be living with him full time again but he still says I am short tempered and I still get very emotional and either tear up all the time or actually cry and he still does not know how to handle it at all it makes him annoyed and angry that I cry so much and often its over nothing or the smallest thing.St Johns wart helps and is a natural treatment I found it works better than most of the anti depressants I was prescribed.

Missee
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   Posted 6/6/2012 12:29 AM (GMT -6)   
Does anyone know if plugging the tear duct stops you from crying I myself can not believe how much I well up over a scene in a movie,a comment from my partner,a happy txt from a friend,just because I'm tired,if I feel I can not do something or even if I just feel I am missing out on something(my partner rings me from across the other side of Australia telling me about the fun he has had with his friends and I cry because I feel I am missing out on that fun with him) or can anyone give me any advice on other treatments. Thanks!

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   Posted 6/6/2012 1:38 AM (GMT -6)   
When I feel like crying (at least 3 times a day lately) I just go outside, to the washroom or in my car and let the tears flow. The last 12 days I have been crying constantly, whether at work, home or somewhere in between. Sometimes we just need to let it out. I find if I try to stave it off I feel more and more like I'm crumbling - I'd rather have red, puffy eyes than that feeling of total "pletch".

My 2 cents.

Brian
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   Posted 6/6/2012 5:19 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Missee,

Welcome to the forum. I am so glad that you joined us. I guess it depends on the person. Brian says he cries at least three times a day. It is cleansing. But if you are not happy with this, I would talk to the doctor and let them know what is gonig on. You may need a medication adjustment.

I hope that you feel better soon. Keep us posted.

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JPson
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   Posted 6/6/2012 3:40 PM (GMT -6)   
If you feel like crying, DO IT. Then stop, pull yourself together and do something that you enjoy doing to raise your mood and spirit. Get yourself some tasty ice cream, listen to your favorite song and watch a few funny commercials. This should help :-) Cheer up!

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   Posted 6/6/2012 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
This may sound strange, but reading these posts I feel a little bit like I'm missing out because I only cry once in a great while. Sometimes I wish I could cry, and try to, but that doesn't work. Maybe crying would release some of my feelings of despair and bring a little releif.

lubdien
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   Posted 6/8/2012 7:41 AM (GMT -6)   
@ NATS how do you manage not to cry while working or in the office???
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