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mystery
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   Posted 6/7/2007 7:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont have a problem with depression but my b/f does. he knows something is wrong with him but just keeps saying he's stressed. he has all the symptoms and his brother has it also. iv been trying to get him to see someone but he's stubborn to begin with and if i do bring it up he gets pissed. two months ago he got mad for no reason he also told me last week he has thought about it, what saved him was seeing me lying in bed. this week hes having a very bad week and its been extremely stressful on me he said he just needs time away from everyone which is fine i understand that. im going to be going by my moms in a few days to give him what he wants and ill come back in two weeks. but what scares me is this week he hasent been eating and i can tell hes lost alot of weight. im worried to death while im gone he might do something:( he seems to just want to be on the computer and ignores everything. he never goes nowhere and when we do have to do something he will put it off till the last minute. iv been leaving him notes and letting him know i love him and how special he is to me and that always seems to help him. but what else can i do?? i guess i need to understand whats going on in his head without bothering him too much so i dont set him off more.



I had to edit your post due to rule #1 of our forum
1. No discussion of any illegal activity or threats of violence. (ie. illicit drug use, including medical marijuana use, threats of suicide or self-injury, or threatened or intended physical harm). Discussions of suicide or self-harm that are deemed negative and therefore potentially injurious to others are also not permitted.

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Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 6/8/2007 6:10:30 AM (GMT-6)


mystery
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   Posted 6/8/2007 1:46 AM (GMT -7)   
wow i see this isent the place for help:(

ozfm
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   Posted 6/8/2007 5:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi mystery
I don't know that I can really give you advice, as I haven't been in your situation, but I must be honest and say that if someone was holding a knife to his throat, and thinking about killing himself, I would not be going back there until he had sought professional help.
I know that sounds pretty harsh, but he needs to realise he is really not well, and you need to understand that your safety is at risk. Perhaps you could call a telephone service or local health service to steer you in the right direction.

Best wishes
Deb
They say life is a bowl of cherries........... we just have to learn how to spit out the pips!


ShynSassy
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   Posted 6/8/2007 5:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Mystery

First of all I want to welcome you to our forum. I am very glad that you found us,and very sorry that you did not get a response right away. But,there is alot of support here with alot of caring people.

Wow,I am very sorry you are going through this. Depression not only hurts the ones that it has taken over,but it also hurts the loved ones.
Men are more stubborn about getting help. I don't know why it is,but they have been taught to be tough ect ect.

Now,since he is reaching out to you (talking about hurting himself ect ect) then I think it is time to take a different approach. Is his family near you? Is there anyway you can talk to them,tell them what is going on (don't worry about him getting upset with you,if he did end up hurting himself then his family will be upset on why you did not tell them what was going on) Tell his family or his best friend what is going on and tell them you need help.

If your b/f gets mad at you,you just simply say " I love you, and you are scaring me". What can he say to that?

Please keep us posted and stay strong!!!


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mystery
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   Posted 6/8/2007 6:11 PM (GMT -7)   
sorry about my last post didnt mean to be so rude just was a bit frustraded. his family knows something is wrong but he dont have to much to do with all of them. not sure even telling them would be much help cause his mother told him once he will either kill himself or someone else but i dont see him taking anyones life but his own. he told me last week that he has been thinking about suicide and the only thing that saved him was seeing me lying in the bed and whats bad is he told me last week he needs time by himself so im going by my moms for a few weeks :( i told him he should come check out the forums cause there are several people who are going through the same thing. he just said what am i a shrink now. hes not always like this only certain times of the year it seems so he wont get help. i did get a little frustrated today and told him he needs to seek help and do something about it cause its not going to go away on its own and i try not to say things that will upset him but sometimes its like walking on eggshells around him. also if i tell him im gonna leave him i think he will just get worse and to be honest i think that would push him over the edge and i cant live with that. deep down hes the sweetest most caring man i know and i cant leave just cause theres a problem. i just wanna be here to help and im hoping theres a way i can get him to open up and work on this.

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   Posted 6/9/2007 4:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Mystery
It is not fair to you that you are walking on eggshells. You have to take care of yourself.
You are not the one that caused his depression,and if he refuses to get help,then it might be time to think about yourself for once.
I know that you love him,but him having a knife while you are sleeping really scares me. I do not care that he claims that he will not hurt you.

Get some help for him. If you think he is going down the deep end,then call 911.
He might be angry with you,but better angry than you going to his funeral.


Shy
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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Currently taking none.
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"I am woman,hear me roar one day and cry the next!!!"

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