New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

ayjay
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 6/17/2007 8:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
 
Just joined today; found the forum after searching the web for info on Effexor XR withdrawal (trying to quit...again...and just wanted to see what others had to say about it...again).  One thing I noticed in surfing around different threads this morning, though, was the comment "If you were diabetic, you'd take insulin..." (or some variation thereof).  So the thing is, in all the years I've been taking EXR (and other drugs before that), I've always had this thought that one day I would be "well enough" to stop taking any anti-depressants at all...but if depression is the same thing as any other chronic illness, e.g., diabetes or whatever, then there is no "cure" and I do have to take the meds forever. 
 
I guess that's my question, if anyone has an answer -- is depression something that requires meds forever?

djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 6/17/2007 1:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there and welcome to Healingwell!
 
There are loads of people here who have different experiences and stories to tell and you should always be able to find an answer to a question or even just support.
 
IMO, Depression and Diabetes are not comparable. For the simple reason that you are enquiring about. Diabetes (for those who take insulin) requires life long treatment. Depression does not. There are plenty of people out there that have depression and stay on AD's for their whole life. But the majority do not. The cause of the depression is often removed / dealt with and therefore there is no need for AD's.
 
I hope this answers your question
 
Darren
Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 


Haapy
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 11
   Posted 6/17/2007 2:26 PM (GMT -7)   

Jay,

 

I have been dealing with my depression for 24 years and most likely all my life.  For the first 10 years I self medicated and choose not do deal with the depression at all or take the prescribed meds. Then for 10 years self medication was on and off and I dealt with the depression on and off as well. At the end of that, 10 years I went through a personal hell.  Today and for the last 4 years self medication is not an option and my depression has been worse than ever. Partly due to the hell I went through and partly for the first time in my life I believe I am feeling the depths of my depression. Recently I have been put on Effexor and so far so good.      

 

So, for me right now I will do almost anything to stop the pain and confusion I have been in lately and if that includes taking meds for the rest of my life so be it and bring it on.

 

Ron


bluemeanies
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jun 2004
Total Posts : 1372
   Posted 6/18/2007 12:55 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had depression most of my life. I am currently taking two antidepressants and will most likely be on them for life. Personally, I don't have a problem with taking meds forever.

I would disagree with the moderator who said most people do not need meds throughout their life. Situational depression will go away eventually but if you are depressed because of a chemical imbalance then it will not go away and you will need meds long term.
 


ShynSassy
Veteran Member


Date Joined Dec 2005
Total Posts : 3036
   Posted 6/19/2007 4:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Jay
welcome to the forum I am very glad that you found us and I am sure that you will find the support that you are looking for.

The thing with depression is this,meds help with the physically and some of the mental effects of depression. But you have to figure out and deal with what triggered the depression in the first place. That should include some type of counseling.
Once some people are able to do that,then they find that they can begin to heal. And then eventually get off of meds.
It all depends on the person, and how deep the scars go.
When you start taking meds your goal is to heal.


Shy
Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Currently taking none.
www.healingwell.com/donate


www.myspace.com/ShynSassy315

"I am woman,hear me roar one day and cry the next!!!"


ayjay
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 6/20/2007 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone for your comments; I think they do answer my question but I don't know if it's what I wanted to hear... :-)  My depression is a mix of situational and chemical, so I guess I'm stuck with the meds...I don't have a problem with that per se, but the issue (at least right now) is that it makes me feel trapped in my job (see, I have health insurance that covers a huge chunk of the costs, and if I didn't have that, I couldn't afford the meds, so I'm afraid to leave this job in case I can't find another one but I'm freakin' miserable here--which, obviously, is the "situational" side of things).  But I appreciate the feedback.

bluemeanies
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jun 2004
Total Posts : 1372
   Posted 6/20/2007 12:41 PM (GMT -7)   
There are many programs to help you pay for meds if you have no or bad insurance. I got them at a very low cost or free from a behavorial health center. You can also try to get them from the manufacturer, they have programs to help too. If you are unhappy at your job start looking for another one. You may find another company that has pretty good insurance.
 


ayjay
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 6/20/2007 1:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I didn't know that...I mean, I've heard of programs to help with meds but I didn't think they'd apply to depression meds (I don't know why...the "stigma" thing, I guess...or I'm just slow :-) ). Thanks!

mogli
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1191
   Posted 6/20/2007 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   

Oh ayjay,

I have been where you are-completely!  I am bipolar and I was in a job that was making my illness impossible to fight.  To this day I know for a fact if I would have stayed at that job on more week, I would have landed in the hospital for awhile.  So-trust me there are options!  However, I didn't think there were at the time I left.

It all started when I began this Bipolar support group through my hospital.  My pdoc referred me, and each week I found myself in tears telling everyone how horrible ppl were to me at my job (my managers), how I didn't have any rights there (w/a mental illness).  Towards the end, someone there said to me "you have to leave, we can all see this is killing you, and the job is not worth your life"  (or my health, my well being!). 

Here where I live, I left my job with a letter from my pdoc stating that due to health reasons, I was no longer able to work.  With that letter I was able to go on Unemployment, for Sick Benefits.  Government options may be different where you are.  This was available to me for 15 weeks, at which point I decided I need to go back to school to get a career that is going to suit me medically.  I am applying for the goverment to fund my schooling.

I am MUCH better now that I left the job-So please hear me when I tell you, there is a way...And as another posting suggested, the next job you have may have better coverage.

Now-meds.  This also is something I would like to share with you...Currently I am Bipolar.... I tried and tried, and the meds just seemed to make me worse.  So, for now, I am not on any.  When I made the decision in October to go off meds, I knew I would have to try to cope extra hard in other ways.  Hence, the Support group (ask your pdoc! or counsellor).  I learned a ton of coping skills that I am still practicing today.  It became a little harder once the Support group ended, but now I am awaiting counselling. 

So, make sure you really think about things.  Talk to your pdoc, ask about your options.  Try not to be scared to make the right decision.  Meds may be long term, short term...It truly is different for everyone, and it changes throughout the course of the illness.  I might be back on meds one day, and it may be sooner than I think.  But for right now, I'm trying to deal without them. 

Hope that was some help, please take special care.


Mogs
 
Bipolar, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
--currently not on meds for bp--


ayjay
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 6/22/2007 7:27 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Mogs,

Thank you for your encouragement; yesterday was an especially bad day so it was nice to read your post this morning and get a little ray of light.  I think the thing that makes this so painful is that I'm very good at my job--that, in fact, I'm doing the jobs of several people and doing them well (yeah, my company is really lucky that my depression just happens to be coupled with an overwhelming compulsion to never let anyone down...).  I don't even like most of what I do, but I still produce good results...and here as things are clearly coming to an end, I'm somehow the problem because I keep asking for others to pull their weight.  Even my boss, who used to be someone I could go to for help, is now making excuses for the people who aren't getting their jobs done and then wondering why I'm not happy.  I feel like I've done so much to try to make things work -- I take the meds, I go to therapy, I've taken all sorts of suggestions on different techniques to deal with different people and different situations and it's like it's all just ignored or taken for granted and I'm being sucked completely dry by people who then complain about me not being an oasis.  Sorry...having myself a little pity party...  I know, I have to make a change; I just keep seeing how difficult it's going to be on top of how difficult it's been already--i.e., as bad as things are at this job right now, at least it's "the devil I know".


mogli
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1191
   Posted 6/22/2007 7:34 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey ayjay,

I completely understand what you're going through.  I know how scary it is to make change.  And it's not something you can do unless you are ready.  And if you're not ready that is TOTALLY okay.  This illness is SO overwhelming (that is my favourite word to describe it) and you're right, change on top of everything else, might be too much right now.

You are in my thoughts, and you are doing a tremendous job at trying to push through.

Hope your day is better today,

Take care...


Mogs
 
Bipolar, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
--currently not on meds for bp--


ayjay
New Member


Date Joined Jun 2007
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 6/22/2007 7:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Y'know, that's the nicest thing I've heard in days and I needed that (I'm about to cry now, but it's a grateful kind of crying).  Thanks for being here.

goddess0728
Regular Member


Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 81
   Posted 6/22/2007 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
>>>(yeah, my company is really lucky that my depression just happens to be coupled with an overwhelming compulsion to never let anyone down...).<<<<

Oh boy ayjay does that sound familiar!

I'm not sure what type of company you work for, and I know the thought of losing your job is scary but I think if you can't leave your job, you'd better start telling them NO to some things or you are going to lose it one way or the other......I SO understand the need to please everyone but you can't take everything on!

mogli said :You are in my thoughts, and you are doing a tremendous job at trying to push through.

I feel the same way, you are holding on and trying to make it through, that is HUGE!

Have you ever read anything or heard about co-dependency? I am at work so I'm sorry I don't have time to write a longer post, but the need to please everyone at the expense of yourself is very co-dependent..I should know since I am struggling to work through that myself...I actually had the nerve to say "I can't take that on with everything else" whne the boss asked me if I would research a new cell phone for him.

Take care I hope you feel a little better today. I've only been coming to this forum for a couple of weeks or so, but it has helped me enormously already.

You are in my thoughts today as well. :)
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Monday, December 05, 2016 11:52 AM (GMT -7)
There are a total of 2,733,060 posts in 301,078 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 151233 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, Blazenky.
357 Guest(s), 13 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
81GyGuy, countess18, Tick41, reminder, Huddie, Tudpock18, iho, omar brarou, JackH, hatter15, julymorning, iPoop, minnietoty


Follow HealingWell.com on Facebook  Follow HealingWell.com on Twitter  Follow HealingWell.com on Pinterest
Advertisement
Advertisement

©1996-2016 HealingWell.com LLC  All rights reserved.

Advertise | Privacy Policy & Disclaimer