I am one of those persons too that gives 100% only to get nothing back in return...so I know you must be hurting and emotionally exhausted right now.
Your b/f dad should not have written such an ugly email to his son...some people are just that shallow and are only happy when you are doing things for them, but will act completely put-out if they have to do anything for you.
I hope that this situation won't cause a rift between you in the b/f. You guys have to remember that if you are serious about each other and love each other, then what other people think shouldn't matter because at the end of the day they aren't what made you two fall in love in the first place. They are people on the outskirts of the relationship, not part of the foundation of it.
Hi this is Kitt. I know how you feel as I have been in your place more than once and it is so painful to know you are a good person and someone is blasting you with both barrels. I had a very similiar experience.
My husband was single, right out of the military service and I was a divorcee with 3 children. His Mother was died in the wool Catholic. She nearly had a stroke but my husband did not ask but told them we were getting married and they were smart enough to live with it or lose touch with their oldest son.
I was very hurt because I knew how they felt about me and it was very sad but alas it turned out well and they love me now..............so there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I am glad you spoke your mind and have resolved some of this conflict. I know it is hard to just forget the pain and the tears but give yourself time.
I wish you peace and happiness but most of all I wish you love.