Hi there hunni,
Im really sorry that you feel like this. I think its terrible that you should have to feel this way and feel that you have no choices. I am a little confused as to whether you have sent this letter/email to your parents or not. If you havn't then I think it would be a good idea to let them know how much you care about them and how you feel about the situation. If you have sent this then have you received a reply? Also, does your boyfriend know how you feel? What are his feelings on the matter? Perhaps a compromise can be found? For example, moving to a state half way between Florida and Iowa such as Kentucky or Tennesse? I am unsure why he is so adament about living in Iowa.
I ceertainly dont think that you are stupid in anyway. We all have to make our own way in life eventually and there will be times when we feel we have made a mistake and times when we know we have made the right decision. This is all part of the learning process, but doesnt make you stupid.
You know that we will always be here for you to give you the support you want and need whenever you want.
Im sending you big hugs from the UK
Hi HCS, I am so very sorry that your still feeling this way . No one should have to make a choice between family and a relationship. Those that do feel like they had to make this choice usually end up resenting the person that they feel are responsible. This doesnt make for a happy relationship.
I dont think you are responsible for your parents getting sick. They are adults and should know how to take care of themselves properly. I am sure they miss you terriably but I dont think that it is wise for them to put pressure/guilt on you to come home and or make you feel like the things that are going on with them is your fault. If this is the case? What you are responsible for is making your own choices in life...you had to have made the choice to move instead of thinking your bf made you do it.
It is obvious that your not happy where your at. Talk to your bf about this and try to make him understand how your feeling. If it gets you no where then you may try moving back to flordia for a while. Hopefully, then he will get the hint and decide that he wants to be with you as much as you do him and move there to be with you. You have to do what makes you happy dear and it doesnt sound at all like your happy in Iowa.
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