Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 7/5/2007 2:39:45 AM (GMT-6)
Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell!
Im so sorry that you are having to go through this at the moment. I cant begin to imagine how hard this must be for you. There are lots of people here who will offer you support and help. Some people will have also going through a similar experience to you so they will understand how you feel. I think it would be a good idea if you spoke to someone about what has happened. Which country are you from? If I know which country you are from I may be able to give you some places for you to ring or someone for you to speak to.
Take care and Stay strong
Like Goddess, I would love to hear from you again to see how you are getting on. I hope to hear from you soon
Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 7/12/2007 5:01:27 AM (GMT-6)
I totally know where you are coming from when it comes to feeling like your mother likes your sibling better. My mom is totally that way. She and my younger sister are very tight, and talk on the phone practically every night, even though my sister is 39. A few times my mom got really mad at my sister, so I was the "good" daughter for a little while, but it never lasts. It's just human nature I guess, and while I do take it personally, I know that I'm a daddy's girl, which is even better in my eyes. I have to argue all the time with my mother, and I never win in her eyes. I'm 42 and she accuses me of exaggerating details of a situation, totally making something up, or flat out lying. I know I'll never win, and it is really depressing to know that things will never change. I just have to hold on to the knowledge that I'm right, and my mother's inability to admit she is wrong is her problem. Heck, I hate to admit it, but I have three cats, and I do have a favorite. Luckily, the cats can't tell!!!
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
I'm so glad that you at least checked back in. As you can see, a lot of us have been worried about you. If you ever need to email any of us, you can just click on our names and most of us have email addresses available.
You are right, you are not alone in this. Just look how many new friends you have and God must have led you to us. We are here to try to walk you through this. You really do need to talk to a rape crisis counselor. Many years ago, I was a hotline volunteer for our local rape crisis center, taking calls one night a week from my home and you would be surprised how many people waited years before talking to someone. I am not a therapist. I just fielded those calls and met rape victims at the hospitals during the time I was on call so they could have someone other than just medical staff and police officers there for them. I'm afraid if you don't talk to someone and get this out, that it is just going to eat you alive. I know it's easy for me to sit here and tell you that you weren't the bad guy and that you have nothing to be ashamed of, but I'm not living with what you're living with. I can just feel that you are in so much pain and I just wish there was something I could do to get you in to talk to a therapist.
We all care about you here and hope that you will stay in touch!
Carla in Kentucky