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Sadsong
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   Posted 7/5/2007 12:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
 
I haven't been on here in a while, since I have been feeling really good.  I've been out and about and doing lots of fun stuff like white water rafting and kayaking!  Plus, I actually have a date this weekend!  Now, I haven't gone on a date for about a year, since I've been so down.  I'm getting a bit nervous, but I think it should go well, since he seems to be really laid-back and we both like the outdoors.  So, we'll see.  I'm not getting my hopes up too high, but I am looking forward to it.  Wish me luck!  tongue (And it's not with someone I work with!)

Singer69
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   Posted 7/5/2007 12:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Sadsong - I don't know you (I'm new here), but it's GREAT to hear that things are going so well and you're feeling better about life. Thanks for putting such an uplifting posting here. We need more of these!!

Have FUN on your date,

Rick...
I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
But she's just like a maze
Where all of the walls all continually change

And I've done all I can
To stand on her steps with my heart in my hand
Now I'm starting to see
Maybe it’s got nothing to do with me

~ Lyrics from "Daughters" by John Mayer


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/5/2007 2:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Nice to hear that you are going out on a date! Try to relax and have fun like Rick said! GOOD LUCK! tongue
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   Posted 7/5/2007 3:45 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello,

I am Kitt and I love a success story.  Your an inspiration to all of the members.

I wish you peace and happiness and a lot of fun on your date.

 


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Sadsong
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   Posted 7/6/2007 9:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for your words of encouragement and support!  You just made my day!  :)

Sadsong
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   Posted 7/11/2007 2:33 PM (GMT -7)   

Okay, after getting really nervous about it, I really enjoyed myself.  It was great to go out and enjoy someone else's company.  I mean I think he was as nervous, if not more so than I was!  I had a good time, but I just wasn't that into him.  (He wasn't that dynamic, I kept blowing him away with my adventure stories and he couldn't believe his ears!)  But, the thing is I still felt down afterwards since he hasn't called or emailed me.  I know I shouldn't, but I kinda feel rejected eventhough it didn't seem like the case at the time.  I mean he specifically said he wanted to go out with me on a second date, but I declined to go out for drinks with him after dinner.  (I'm an extreme light weight and there is no way I can drive if I have more than one.)  So, I told him not to read anything into it and that I had a good time, but I haven't heard from him.  I know that in today's day and age that there is no reason why I shouldn't call him, but I would prefer to be chased rather than doing the chasing.  Maybe I'm old fashioned.  Maybe I just want to feel wanted.  Maybe I'm just lazy.  But, whatever the reason I just feel a little down because of it.  But, I definitely need to go out more often!   tongue      


Singer69
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   Posted 7/11/2007 4:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Awesome!! Congrats on 1) going in the first place and 2) making the best of it and having a great time. That's huge.

If you felt that he was into you even a little bit, I'd recommend calling him and just saying, "I hope you didn't read anything into that. I wasn't blowing you off. I'd be happy to see you again." What do you have to lose? Chances are he's just intimidated by you. Your call may loosen him up a bit and even feed his ego (not a bad thing!).

Rick...
I know a girl
She puts the color inside of my world
But she's just like a maze
Where all of the walls all continually change

And I've done all I can
To stand on her steps with my heart in my hand
Now I'm starting to see
Maybe it’s got nothing to do with me

~ Lyrics from "Daughters" by John Mayer


CRANKY 1
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   Posted 7/11/2007 9:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Sadsong,

Congratulations on getting out and having a good time!!! tongue    I know how hard it is to make plans to do something fun and actually make it happen.  I joined a local club of Jimmy Buffett fans (Parrot Heads), and have made it to a couple of socials, but I've missed both regular monthly meetings because I wasn't feeling well.  There's another get together Saturday night, and I really hope I feel well enough to go. 

As far as your disappearing date, guys can be either chicken and are too wimpy to follow up and say that they just aren't interested in going out again, or they can be juggling a bunch of dates at the same time, and have a hard time tracking who they need to call or email back. 

My ex-husband was a "chubby chaser", and when I decided to have a gastric bypass to improve my health, he started picking up a whole pile of friends on the internet and was getting things going with several people at a time.  The crazy thing was, he told every one of the women he was romancing a different story about his life situation.  How he kept the stories straight boggles my mind.  I quit working shortly before my surgery, and spent a lot of time on the home computer.  My ex has Aspberger's Syndrome, a form of Autism, and he was a computer network genius but had no clue about hiding or deleting files on a home computer.  I had set up all his accounts, so I was able to document all his activities, thus having all the proof I needed to kick him to the curb.

I hope your friend has just been busy and gets back to you.  Even if it isn't a love connection, it's always nice to have a friend to communicate with or do things together.

Let us know how thing turn out.

Leigh Ann cool


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ShynSassy
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   Posted 7/12/2007 4:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Sadsong
Ugh the dating game!! I have been out of it for 3 years now and am so glad. It is so tough that is for sure.
I do agree with Rick though,maybe calling him or sending him an email. Sometimes guys are sensitive and he may have taken it the wrong way. Or he may be thinking that he is too boring for you and that you would not be happy with him. Maybe explaining to him that you are not looking for a husband right now..lol



Good luck!

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Sadsong
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   Posted 7/13/2007 2:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to all of you for your words of wisdom and advice!  I did email him saying that I had a great time and that I hoped to hear from him soon.  I also explained to him that I wasn't blowing him off, I just can't hold my liquor!  Golly, looking back on my college years, I can't believe the amounts I used to drink!  Yikes!  Anywho, another guy recently asked me out too, so I gave him my number and we'll be making plans to go out for coffee soon.  It should be fun.  He's in the film industry, but likes to cook and play outdoors.  (Plus, he's cute to boot!)  So, we'll see.  Nothing too serious, but if ya don't mind keeping ya fingers crossed for me, I wouldn't hold it against ya!   tongue    Gosh, I love summertime!  

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   Posted 7/14/2007 5:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Have fun Sadsong!!

I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Let us know how it goes.


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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/14/2007 5:36 AM (GMT -7)   

GOSH you are popular!!! Have fun, take care and dont do anything your not ready for.


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Sadsong
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   Posted 7/15/2007 9:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks again for all of the support. I really feel like I'm taking control of my life rather than just going along for the ride. I mean in the past I would just date whoever was interested in me and not second guess it. But, now I'm really taking my time to get to know a guy before I jump into a relationship. (I'd never thought of getting to know more than one guy at a time could be so much fun!) Although, I'm finding that I like certain qualities in each one, but I still haven't found one that, has that has my mom would say, "makes my toes curl"!

I talked with the potential coffee date guy on the phone the other night and he doesn't seem to have a sense of humor. Plus, I felt he was interviewing me rather than trying to get to know me. He was cooking dinner when he called me, so he really wasn't paying that much attention to what I was saying. I find that extremely annoying, since I tend to focus on whatever I'm doing when I'm doing it.

Oh well, there are plenty of fish in the sea. I'm sure to find one that likes me for who I am and who "curls my toes"! I mean there's how many billions of people on the planet? I've got extremely good odds! :)

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/15/2007 12:51 PM (GMT -7)   
HOW RUDE! Phoning people while your cooking and then not listening! Id definately kick him to the kerb. As for your odds... the glass isnt half empty anymore, its practically overflowing! You go girl!

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