I am so sorry you are having to go through this at the moment. I hope that it is nothing nasty. When she dies, there will be a lot of pressure on you to keep it together from the family more than anything. I hope you can find the inner strength to carry on. Im sure she woundnt have wanted you to go to pieces.
I will say a prayer for you tonight
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Hello, this is Kitt. I am so sorry about your cousin. Dealing with the death of a loved one is difficult under any circumstances. Remember this is her death and she needs to do it her way. She may be angry til the end or she may accept it. She may not want to talk about it or she may have unfinished business.
The best way to help her is to visit her often, sit with her but don't feel she doesn't care if she starts withdrawing from you. Some people try to help their family by pushing them away. They won't talk to family about their pain or how they feel.
You say what you need to say to her but don't push her. Most people don't want pity, they want to die with dignity.
I will certainly send prayers your way for both of you. Stay brave and know she cares. Gentle hugs.
Im sorry that your finding this so hard at the moment. Not being able to cry is quite normal but there will become a time when you can. I think that it is a shame that the family are in denial about this but they too will come to terms with this in their own time. This thread reminded me of a line from a poem called Remember that I thought was quite nice. "Better by far that you should forget and smile, than that you shold remember and be sad" Your cousin wouldnt want you to remember her all the time if it meant that you were sad all the time.
Starbrite, It sounds like your cousin enjoys the funny cards. Is it possible when you visit to talk about some of the silly things you all have done as kids and maybe laugh about those things? Do you have access to family photos that you could take over to her house so that the two of you could reminiscence and laugh or cry or whatever together. Hospice is wonderful! I can't say enough good things about Hospice. It's really too bad her family is still in denial. And you know what, if you break down and cry in front of her right now, it's going to be o.k. She's just going to know how much you love her and maybe you need to have that one good cry with her. It could be very healing for you.
My prayers are with you and your cousin. The two of you have been so lucky to have had each other.
I am so sorry you and your Cousin
are in My Prayers