There just don't seem to be any answers anymore just despairing

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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/7/2007 9:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I had a few good days.  4th of July turned out great.  BBQ with my boys and one son's girlfriend and went to fireworks after which were spectacular.  Haven't had a good 4th like that in years.  Was a little down yesterday so I decided to go to the movies by myself which I have never done before and it was fine.  I am no longer afraid to do that.  Problem is the movie was very sad and depressing so I came out of the theater feeling worse.  I did a little shopping and then went home and made dinner.  I'm all alone this weekend so feeling very lonely.  In fact, last night I felt so bad I called a depression hotline.  Boy what a mistake.  The counselor on duty sounded like an old woman and she was not very sympathetic and no help at all.  I couldn't wait to get off the phone with her.  I though hotlines were supposed to help people.  I am going out to dinner with a friend tonight so that will be OK.  I had  plans to go out today - garden shop and book store but I am so tired and it is so hot out I just don't have the energy.  I just don't feel that there are any answers anymore to coping with this depression and lonliness.  I think my only hope is to go to a retirement community.  Not an easy task as I have to get my son w/epilepsy settled in his own place then I have to sell my house which won't be easy and I just moved here 3 yrs ago.  Also, I am at the youngest age you can be to go to a retirement community. Well, I just needed to vent - hoping tomorrow will be a better day.

stkitt
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   Posted 7/7/2007 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Aurora,

I am very glad to hear the 4th turned out well. I know you have been dealing with issues with your live in son.

You say you just moved into your house 3 years ago, is it in the same town as you lived in before?  Also what kind of retirement community are you thinking of. Are there lots of activities and socials that you feel you will make friends easier and enjoy life more?

How about meds, are your meds working at all or is it time for a tune up?

Please enjoy your dinner out.  That sounds like a lovely evening to me.

You have my support.

Kitt


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Kitt
 
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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/7/2007 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Kitt for your reply.  The house I live in now is in the same community so I still have the same familiar grocery, stores, etc.  I really like my house - it is very comfy and cozy.   The retirement community I am interested in has many, many activities, events, social things to do as well as fitness center and beautiful pool.  There is also several dining rooms depending on how casual or formal you want to be.  The units are apartments that vary in size according to cost and all have kitchens and in laundry units.  It is very new.  They also have assisted care if you become sick or need more help.  The even have a store if you run out of milk or eggs.  It is really a great place and I would have people and activities all the time.  I would go tomorrow if I could get my son settled and sell my house.  Well, that isn't possible right now but at least I have a goal in mind.

stkitt
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   Posted 7/7/2007 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   

That retirment center sounds wonderful.  A pool and friends and activities...........settle that boy and start making plans.

It sounds like it would be good for you and it is your dream so think about you and how your going to get into the new community.

I am jealous.............. yeah

((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))


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Kitt
 
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Dx: Anxiety/Panic, Depression 
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 7/8/2007 5:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Aurora

I am sorry you did not get the proper help from the hotline. I have never called on myself but I just might just to see what they are saying. I have heard that before that they really do not help.

They need to come to this site to get qualified people to answer those phones!!


Going out by yourself is scary isn't it? I made myself go to a sit down dinner one night..I was very uncomfortable and could not wait to get out of there.

I am glad your home is confortable and I hope you hang in there


Keep us updated


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   Posted 7/9/2007 6:19 PM (GMT -7)   
I was also taken back about the hotline. I would think people would be more compassionate.... I have never tried calling one myself.... getting older has really been difficult for me... everything starts to malfunction lol .... I have been living in my house for so long. 35 years... I never want to leave I would prefer to die here... lots of good memories .... I wish you all the best.

Richard -- PA
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in the forest.... a beautiful bell hangs at the very top.... it only stops ringing.  When you come through the forests for your voice takes its place....   Richard

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