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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 12:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello I'm 15 years old, and 2 years ago I was put on Celexa, but last year I stopped taking it because it just made me feel worse
 
I would liek to go back on an AD because lately I've been feeling more horrible than I ever have before, I'm ruining my relationship that I love, I'm grouchy, I sit in my room, I don't ever feel liek eating, and I constantly need attention from my boyfriend.
 
A little backround this year, I made the greatest friends I have ever made, and even though they were boys, I was so connected with them, I was great friends, with them, and so happy, then towards the end of the school year, they started to ignore me, I wan't invited to anyhting, I didn't have a spot at the table anymore, and I sat alone, my Boyfriend is one of their best friends, but went to a different school and had no idea what was happening, I'm prett much living my summer with him and my job, and staying away from everyone because they dumped me, I really don't know what's wrong with me, and befpre i go on any AD's I want to see if I can fix it first, if anyone has any suggestions, on ways to stop these feelings without AD's or any other chemical, it would be greatly appreciated confused

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/17/2007 1:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there Kimmy and Welcome to HealingWell! yeah
 
There is no real quick fix for depression. It depends on what is causing it as to how you can go about beating it. There are lots of different forms of therapy that you can go through such as Cognitive behavioural Therapy (CBT) and sometimes pure and simple psychoanalysis works. Its reasonably well known that therapies work better what they are used alongside meds (Such as Celexa, Paxil, Prozac etc...) but it is possible to complete them without meds. I know this is still a chemical but there is a very popular thread at the moment about a natural remedy; Rhodiola Rosea. (http://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=19&m=831192) You might want to have a look at that. Also there are 2 resource pages on HealingWell that may also be of some interest to you: http://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=19&m=104218 and the http://www.healingwell.com/depression/ . You may find some interesting material there.
 
I am unsure what country you are from so it is difficult for me to advise you on other forms of help such as helplines and hospital treatment. I am from the UK so I know about how the NHS works etc...
 
Take care & Big British Hugs!
 
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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 1:20 AM (GMT -7)   
why thank you!
I really feel I need to talk to people about this stuff, and I liek that peoepl here will be willing to do so, I'm from the US actually, and thanks for that material

my big problem is, I don't know what is causing it, all I know is that it's there, I feel myslef slowly going insane and I can't stop it, but I really like that I can have peoepl here to talk to thanks again! I'll check out those links
If I could stay a day away from you I could but I can't, and I'm sorry


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   Posted 7/17/2007 1:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Again!
 
Your very welcome for the information. One of our other mods, ShynSassy is from the US (Ohio I think). She will know a lot about how the US health system works. You say you went on AD's to start with when you were 13? Can you think of anything that happened at the time to cause this? Perhaps a berevement or a divorce? I dont want to stir up bad memories for you but it might help me to understand and better help you.
 
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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 1:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Well my parents were getting a divorce and I was doing really bad in school.
my mom stopped cooking meals and my dad would stay at my uncles house and saying he had to work on his puppets, and I didn't have any friends in school.

(it was my moms second divorce, the first was when I was about 2 with my birth father who I haven't seen since then, and he had a mental disorder also that I don't know what it is called, but it was he couldn't see the consequences of actions, and when he would get in trouble he'd be surprised, and wouldn't understand the reprocussions of his actions, but that is straying from the point.)

but my mom started going out alot and was never home, my dad moved out, and me and my sister lived half with him and half with my mom, I was really bad in school, and got into a lot of trouble, not serious trouble, but then my mom started to leave everynight, and we'd always be home alone, and we were going to sell the house I grew up in, and I didn't want to at all, and then the man fixing our house lived with us, and would always get very angry, for us having friends around, and sometimes it would just be us home with him, and I didn't liek him, and then he stole all of our stuff.

but then the really bad times were over, and I started to get better, but now it's all going bad again and I don't know why, I kindof have seperation anxiety, from my dad leaving, and i think that since I was so young maybe it's coming back now to me, subconsciously but I can't be sure
If I could stay a day away from you I could but I can't, and I'm sorry
 
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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/17/2007 1:59 AM (GMT -7)   

awww hunni. Thats a lot for an adult to cope with let alone a 13 yr old. My sister had a spell where she was very badly behaved at school which got worse around the time of my parents divorce. I can relate to your story on several levels and this really helps me undertstand. My advice is seek some kind of councelling either through your doctor or directly through the hospital (If you can). Have you tried talking to your mum about these things? If talking to someone is going to make you feel better, your mum could be the answer seeing as she is part of the issue and she will understand more about what was happening at the time that a doctor.

Darren


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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:03 AM (GMT -7)   
I talk to my dad alot about stuff, and I weekly see someone, but she is there pretty much for me to talk to and I dont get alot of feedback or advice, but , my mom has never really been an option, I've never really felt comfortable with her, she's always kindof pushed me to do stuff, and she isn't really that warm of a mom anymore, but I'm sure she'll be back, she's going through a phase where she's young, acting very young, but it's getting better! becasue I used to have to check on her and stuff, and I was more of a mom, but now she's even coming back around, and buying groceries more regualr, and sometimes even cooks
If I could stay a day away from you I could but I can't, and I'm sorry
 
Everything happens for a reason, but why these things, for what purpose do they serve?


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Its good that you can still talk to your dad though. (And by dad, I am assuming that you are talking about your biological father). RE: Your councillor... It sounds like you need a new one! I dont see how someone can call themselves a councillor when all they do is "listen" and dont help you take the next step. As for your mum, maybe talking with your mum will help her as well as you then? I understand that it would be difficult to start with, but hopefully it would get easier as you do it more often. You may even need to persist sometimes but I think (In my humble, non-medical opinion!) it would help you both to talk properly. If she is on the road to healing, she may be more receptive anyway.
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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:15 AM (GMT -7)   
actually, I mean my adoptive father, he's always gotten along with me better than my mom has, and they got married about 2-3 years after my moms' first divorce, the last time my bio-dad called I was 4, my mom says I wouldn't even liek him, and that he had alot of mental problems, and I can tell that I am exactly like him, and I think it scares her, because she doesn't want me to have the same genetics as him
If I could stay a day away from you I could but I can't, and I'm sorry
 
Everything happens for a reason, but why these things, for what purpose do they serve?


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Unfortunately, you have half of your fathers genetics, whether you mum likes it or not. My mum can see a lot of my bio-father in me and doesnt like it but it is something that she has to accept as being true. If your mum thinks that you wont like him, then she is probably right. Mothers tend to have this sense which never seems to fail them! (I'd love to know what it is, coz I want it!) I would definately consider trying to start talking to your mum again though.
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kimmylucille
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:42 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks for the advice, I will try to talk to her, I never really have before, but I'll try
If I could stay a day away from you I could but I can't, and I'm sorry
 
Everything happens for a reason, but why these things, for what purpose do they serve?


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/17/2007 2:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Your welcome. Hopefully this can be the start of a med-free solution for you as you wanted. Let us know how you get on. We are all very friendly here and give each other great support. If you want to email me... feel free. My inbox is always open. Just click on the envelope icon on the left hand side of my posts.
 
Big British Hugs
 
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