I am Kitt. Sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to join in unwanted sexual contact or attention. We believe you and there are many men that are being found guilty of sexual assault in the courts here now.
Going with someone to their home does not mean you wanted to be assaulted. The people that are saying these things to you are ignorant.
You have my sincere apology for all the people that don't know what they are talking about. I am so sorry this happened to you.
Can you get a therapist? Bless you and stay safe.
you're not going to like what i have to say, but you asked "why" this can happen. first, sexual assault is cultural - it differs from culture to culture. remember clinton saying that he did't have sex with that woman? by the cultural standards applied, oral sex is not sex.
several yrs ago in saudi arabia a teenager was taking a sun bath in a two piece swimming suit behind the 10 foot wall in her parent's house/compound. a man crawled on top of the fence and watched the girl. the then raped her. they went to court. he was beheaded for raping her and she was given 10 lashes for enticing him to rape!
men get away with it for the same reason rich and powerful people getaway with things: because they CAN. there is noone to stop them.
by the same token, take the other side. during the 60s there was a case in which a man was riding on a public transport bus in LA. a young woman sat down next to him. she told him that if he didn't give her $50, she would yell rape. He didn't and she did. he was found guilty (must have had a public defendent lawyer) and went to prison for 10 yrs.
Warren is right in saying that rape is about power rather than sex. Although there is a sexual element to it, it is much more to do with being able to control someone and having power over them, knowing that their victim cannot stop it.
I completely agree with LifeChange as well. The law on rape is such a grey area because of the difficulty in proving rape, and there are times when innocent men are locked up and there are times when guilty men walk free. It makes me very angry to think that with all the technology we have, we still cant prove it 100%. It is the liars that spoil things for everyone. They are the ones that throw the spanner in the works.
As a man, I just feel disgusted about what happened. Men who commit violent or aggressive verbal, physical and especially sexual acts against women are cowards who are on a sick, warped power control trip. They are small in spirit and lack to ability to even know how to love someone. I despise them.
I don't know where you are from, but I hope you find justice and some small measure of peace.
Post Edited (veteran1) : 7/24/2007 11:07:46 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (stkitt) : 7/24/2007 10:13:15 PM (GMT-6)