Post Edited (Really Trying) : 8/3/2007 3:54:55 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (faithfully4you) : 7/22/2007 8:55:25 AM (GMT-6)
Welcome to Healing Well and I am sorry we meet under these circumstances. You have made a wise choice in joining this forum as the members know where your coming from and what you have been going through.
Depression is a " mood disorder", according to many descriptions of the illness. That is a flagrant understatement. Depression does indeed seriously affect your mood, but that is just the tip of the iceberg. A clinical depression is a debilitating illness, affecting your capacity to perform tasks that require concentration and rendering you unable to work
Your husband is in a very bad place right now and he is in denial. He cannot be allowed to continue this way so I hope you are strong enough to get him back to the physicians and the therapy.
Please make an appointment for you to talk one on one with a therapist on how this is affecting your whole family. Yes it is a slow process with lots of bumps in the road but you cannot get started down the road until he is willing to accept he needs help. Talk to his physician and explain his missuse of his medications.
You mentioned your children want you to leave, are you saying they want you to leave and take them with you? How sad for all of you.
Stay with us and keep posting.
You have my support and hugs.
Im really sorry to hear that things are not getting any better for you. Your husband is in denial and its a terrible stage to have to go through, but a stage we all have to go through. The fact that he is seeing a therapist is a good sign. Like Shy, I only hope that he is able to see what he is doing to you and your children. Spending 6 days a week in bed isnt helping him either. I know its easier said than done, but getting him to exercise for an hour a day in the sunshine would do him a world of good.
Have Strength and Take Care
I am sorry things have not improved for you and your husband is still clinging to the bed. He must be pushed into going to therapy and somehow the physician needs to know he is manupulative in avoiding telling the whole story.
It is good you are going with him, if he won't go, you go without him and say it like it is.
You have our support and we care what happens so please keep posting.
Im glad your son seems happy even though he was so upset the day before. Did everything go well? Im sure I remember in the back of my mind someone saying to me about strange behaviour and linking it to Lepraxo, but it was only a temp thing for about a month when he first started taking it. As for the Britney Spears thing... I can possibly relate to that and it might not be as strange as it first looks. Its a case of reading between the lines. (Something I have learned to do very well!) His hair is thinning and you suggest a volumising shampoo. That says to him: "I agree your hair is thinning, lets change that because I dont like it" (That might not be what you mean, but thats probably how he sees it) So his reaction is to stop it thinning completely (I.e. cut it off, since a shaved head is accepted for men) I too, would rather shave my head once my hair starts thinning badly. (Which wont be long at this rate!)
I hope this is of some use to you and I hope things start to improve for you