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wmnak
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   Posted 7/22/2007 2:47 PM (GMT -7)   
i am a 61 yr-old male.  i have muliple health issues including chronic debilitating back pain (laminectomy and follow up operation december 2006), copd, bi-polar disorder, and chronic depression (i think i was born depressed under that rock where my parents found me).
 
my problem is that i seem to want to cry all the time.  anything will set me off - a sad song or a song from the 60s that has meaning for me, a sad movie (h*ll,m if i saw mary martin doing peter pan - you know that last scene where tink is dieing and you have to say "i believe" over and over and over - no, maybe most of you can't remember that smurf .  probably just as well.  look how my genreation turned out.  no.  better not.  can anyone here remember deciding to go or not to go to woodstock?  but i digress.
 
i don't know.  tears are usually just under the surface for me.  i know that i'm depressed.  ok.  nothing new there.  not ready to off with myself - today.  my wief has lost a few body parts to cancer surgery and we're having to leave deep south texas to go to alabama to be closer to the kids if anything more happens.  but, h*ll, i've lived and travelled in england and western europe - even driven around hyde park corner - successfully (that's for my british friends).  why should moving now be any different than any of the other moves i've made (in my 62 years i've made 33 moves).
 
any insight you can give me would be greatly appreciated.  oh.  i'm of the geberation that was taught "men don't cry."
 
warren
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   Posted 7/22/2007 3:28 PM (GMT -7)   
hi wmnak...its ok for men to cry or anyone ...its better to let out then hold inside ...i do alot of crying somtimes hours but i usually come out of it and feel much better in the long run...if you hold it inside i think from my experiences that you become full of anger ...and im sure your move to be closer to your family will help you in more then one way ...and remember men do cry !!! i wish mine would at times!!!
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georgialady
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   Posted 7/22/2007 7:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Warren--I think just my old brain--if we couldnot cry it would be a sad,sad world women
men,goats,cats or just horny old frogs--I think remember i am a depressed old southern
lady think ''crying'' cleans all the bad thoughts away and makes redeyes 'yes'-but ''what
a great feeling a good old cry does for us all--the move sounds like a goood idea and a
new adventure for you and your wife--sweetman sounds like you have made lemon-aide
from alot of lemons-think of this move as a ''Tbone -steak move--''god bless and best wishes.
crohns since 1994-retired--imuran,remicade infusions--now severve crohns
fistula on terminal,high blood preasure diabetes,thickening around the upper stomach wall to bottom--have had asacol,carafate,coreg,dyazide,aciphex,ambein 10mgs. lopid and glucotrol10mgs.zanax.05 and now perocet-5---never stops sorry,


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/23/2007 2:40 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Warren,

When I think  about the differences (socially and technologically) between my generation (I am 22yr old male) and your generation it makes me stop and think because the difference is sooo huge. When people tell me the world hasnt changed much in the last 50 years, I wonder sometimes whether they walk around with their eyes closed! As for "Men don't cry", thats all a myth now. I cry a lot. We live in a world now where feelings are more readily acceptable (to everyone except those stuck in a time warp) and mental illness has become much more acceptable. (Although I still feel it has a long way to go yet)

Big British Hugs

Darren

P.S Even though there is nearly 40 yrs between us, I still remember the part of Peter Pan you are talking about! Some things span all generations! (And thanks for the Hyde Park reference... Its one of many beautiful parks in London)


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   Posted 7/24/2007 4:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Warren
crying is the bodies way of relieving some of the stress that you are experiencing.
If you did not do that you would probably be very angry all of the time. And I think that would be worse.

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this...you have so much pain in your life right now. Life throws us so many things,I wish we could all just have a breather for 1 week to get our strength back!


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wmnak
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   Posted 7/24/2007 7:58 PM (GMT -7)   

thank evveeryone for their posts.  and shy, i'll take that week.  h*ll, even an hour!!!!!

about 6 yrs ago my back was hurting so badly that i laid out all of my pills and started taking them a bottle at a time.  fortunately, my wife saw what i was doing and stopped me.  a quack had mufed an eipdural steroid injection and i just couldn't take that much pain any more.  on a scale of 1 to 10, the pain was off the scale at about a 15.  it was at this point that my dx took on bi-polar in addition to chronic depression.

yes, i am filledf with anger.  i had worked my whole life to get into a position of authority and control and i had finally made it.  with less than 6 months i was unable to walk, let alone work.  one company offered to provide a bed for me to lay in if only i would let them use my knowledge and experience.  i was in too much pain to think cleraly, let alone make detailed echnical decisions.  anger?  yes.  maybe i am mourning for myself?  i don't believe in that crap.

daz, god bless you and keep you.  i have grandkids older than you.  :-)    actually, my friend, the technology is window dressing.  the basis of behavior, the love and hate, the motivation haven't changed.  we still can be defined acurately as the only animal that can chose to make love face to face.  what a distinction!  in some ways, the technology only serves to highlight the problems that we, as human beings, have.  hate-mongering can now be spread across the world in less than nanoseconds on the web.  didn't al gore :-)   give us a wonderful toy?  i devoted my entire working life to it.  what a wate. 

sorry.  i shouldn't go on-line when i'm down.

warren


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ShynSassy
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   Posted 7/25/2007 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Warren
I have been online when I am down so many times,and since I found this site it actually turned out to be a good thing!!

You keep posting

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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/25/2007 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Warren,

You are right in saying that, deep down, we are all the same. On a basic level, we are all animals fulfilling a desire and a social need to reproduce. It is the manifestation of the behaviours that has changed. When you say " i devoted my entire working life to it."... what do you mean? I am very interested.

Darren


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