I think people are just trying to help with their words and no one that knows how depression works thinks you can just shut down the pain of loss.
I feel it takes time to get over someone or to get out of a situation when your afraid there will never be anyone else. You are all worthy and not a single person deserves to be disrepected, not even under the name of love.
Yes you may have differences and spats but to be treated badly or abused is never right.
Warm hugs to each of you.