I think we should have a lonely Ladies night out..........of course it could take us a while to get together. I know that lonely feeling so well and that is why I am online so much.
Please feel free to email me as I will respond.
There is something comforting about baring your soul to the members of the Depression Forum and still being able to be anonymous. If you feel like crying , go ahead as is cleanse the heart and then you can wash your face and get outside in the sun. Make sure you put your sunscreen on. :)
Get yourself a boxed lunch and go to a lovely park and just people watch. I loved to sit beside the ocean and watch people.
Give your self a big hug for me and come here and talk, we are here.
You know you may give yourself permission to stay home and not beat yourself up if your safety nets are unavailable to you right now.
I am sorry about your college friend but it sounds like she has some issues of her own to work through so she may not be the best friend.
Can you turn on some light hearted fun music and just listen to the music?
Thinking of you :)
Thanks for your replies Kitt & Carla. I should allow myself to just stay in my safety net. The problem with me is I am too hard on myself. I don't give myself much margin of error and that is probably why I struggle the way I do. I have always strived to do my best and not let other people down but I guess I don't realize that I am letting myself down. I raised my kids by myself and took care of my elderly mother for 10 years and never thought about myself. I know it is time for me. I just have to figure this out.
Thanks Carla for the movie suggestions. I just recently got the 1st season of Cagney & Lacey on DVD which I really like so I have that. I will check into Netflix as that is a good idea for getting movies. Thanks both of you for being so helpful and supportive. It truly means a lot to me.
I have the Netflix too and love it. We get the up to 3 movies as my husband likes action and he refers to mine as chick flicks...........but he watches them. It does let you plan ahead to what you will do in the evening. I love to read also.
Yes, you need to learn to put yourself first, be selfish.
Check out the link that Hopeful sent you on CODA. You should find all the information you need there and hopefully find a meeting in your area. I think CODA would be the best fit for you. As far as your question about Al-Anon meetings, they are open to anyone. If you can not find a CODA meeting in your area, you could attend Al-Anon meetings. They are both 12-Step meetings. When you are reading the Al-Anon literature, just replace the word alcohol or alcoholic with whatever issue you are there for. I bet you will be able to find a CODA meeting. Let us know what you find out.
There are no CODA meetings anywhere in my area. But there are lots of Al-Anon meetings I can go to. And they are close by and easy to get to so I think I will try that. You are right that it should be a good place to get support from others. Thanks again for all your help. I feel I can always count on you as well as so many others on this forum.