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blondie301
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Date Joined Aug 2007
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   Posted 8/5/2007 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello All:
   I just joined the site tonight and am feeling so down, I don't know what to do.  I've been dealing with depression for years and have been in therapy/on meds for years.  Although things weren't "great", they've been doable and I've been fairly happy.  I no longer see my psychiatrist (she was too far away and doesn't accept my insurance), although I am still on Lexapro.  I found a doctor that accepts my insursance but she only prescribes the meds.  She doesn't do therapy and all her therapists are too booked to take on new patients.  For the past few months I've been ok with just being on meds and not in therapy.  Back in June, I met someone (I'm currently separated with a 3year old son) and decided to go on birth control.  Because I am so sensitive to the estrogen.  He put me on Nuva Ring since it's supposed to be the lowest dose.  Long story short, I've been extremely depressed and my boyfriend just ended things with me.   I am so low, I don't know what to do.  I'm not going back on the birth control but still feel awful.  I've tried getting out of the house and doing things (gym, pool, grocery shopping) but I just feel terrible!

stm177
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 90
   Posted 8/5/2007 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry you feel so bad right now. Do you think this is a temporary bad spot, or are you stuck in a long trough?

faithfully4you
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Date Joined Jan 2007
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   Posted 8/5/2007 6:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome Blondie~
First of all you have found a place where people really care about each other.  You found us at a time in your life when it sounds as if you have many issues going on in your life.  Then when you have to deal with depression it is even worse.
 
The first thing that you should do is try to find a new doctor.  I know that this is difficult because of issues I experienced lately.  However, the first thing you have to remember is you do need that "professional" support for meds and therapy.  Without your meds and therapy the rest of your life will not get better. 
 
The relationship that ended will be traumatic for you and depending on how close your son was to him, he will feel both your anxiety and his.  It is one of the hardest things to do when you realize that the things you value most are disappearing.
 
It is all overwhelming now but the first thing you do is get feeling better with your meds by finding a new doc.
 
A good source for locating a doc is the NAMI group in your area.  They are a good start.
 
Good luck and know that we are here for you.
 
Teresa
Teresa


blondie301
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 6
   Posted 8/5/2007 6:10 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks for your reply:

   I started the birth control about 2 months ago and have felt lousy ever since (a few good days were peppered in).  My doctor said that the side effects will get better after a few months but I haven't felt this bad in a long time. Now I'm coupling the severe depression with the end of a relationship (albeit a short one) with one of the only people who made me happy.  I can barely get through the day without crying my eyes out. 


Aurora60
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   Posted 8/5/2007 6:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Blondie,  I'm sorry you are feeling so bad right now.  It is true that you should have a therapist as well as your meds.  Talking to someone really helps.  I know as I have been depressed for years and am going thru a very rough patch right now.  Do you have a family service in your area?  They are often very good and usually accenpt a reduced rate depending on income.  The people here are very caring and will help you.  Post as often as you want - there always seems to be someone who can offer a word of encouragement.  One thing that is good is that you have your little boy. I always come to the forum when I am feeling low and someone answers and that picks up my spirits.  Please know that we all care. You have a good support system here.

blondie301
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 6
   Posted 8/5/2007 6:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Teresa:  I really appreciate your kind words and support.  You are right, I need to find a therapist.  I thought I could do it with meds alone but obviously that's not going to give me the full support that I need.  I feel like I just need to get through these next few weeks and maybe I'll feel more back to "normal".
 
Thank you again!
 
By the way, I'm Renee

oakley
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 358
   Posted 8/5/2007 6:22 PM (GMT -7)   
When you're
down and troubled...and you need someone to care....when nothing , nothing is going right....close you're eyes and think of em and soon I will be there to brighten up even your darkest night..........I don't know if you're a Christian...I truly pray you are, but lean on Him just once and you will know that He is always there....as am I and all of us here at healing well. We love you... Write back soon  and sign up to chat also. Annie  

oakley
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 358
   Posted 8/5/2007 6:23 PM (GMT -7)   
fixing a typo...close your eyes and think of me,  not em
unless you know an em and they can help too, lol
 

stayingafloat
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 87
   Posted 8/5/2007 9:49 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Blondie,
 
I know what you are going through, I myself have been down a lot lately.  We are here for you, it does help to get things off your chest when your feeling bad.  I am sorry that it is getting you so down right now, I am down too.  I think I am getting a bit better, but they say 4 weeks for new meds to help, it's only been a week.  Breakups are always hard and maybe you are having some hormonal issues as well.  I wish I could do more to help, try to soak up the sun, that usually helps.  I'm here if you need to chat.  Now your not alone.  Take care,
 
Afloat
 

djdaz_1985
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Date Joined Jan 2006
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   Posted 8/6/2007 2:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there Blondie and Welcome to HealingWell!
 
I am so glad that you have found us and I hope that you find al the support and help that you want here. We are like a close family and all support each other. You may even find that by helping someone else, you help yourself too!
 
I'd echo the idea of finding a new therapist. Talking therapy (IMO) is key to a full recovery... meds simply make it acheivable. I dont know much about the US health system (other than what I have picked up on here) but can you present yourself in an ER or ask at a local hospital for a list of therapists who are taking patients AND who would take your insurance?
 
Big British Hugs
 
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mogli
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Date Joined Mar 2006
Total Posts : 1191
   Posted 8/6/2007 7:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi blondie,

Welcome to HW, (((Hug))).  I am sorry you aren't feeling well.  I'm bipolar and have been experiencing depression lately.  I loathe the depression.  It makes everything so hard.  I am also sorry to hear of your recent break up.  Stressors are such triggers for our depressive symptoms.  I can totally relate to the whole birth control thing.  Honestly, as if our symptoms aren't bad enough at that time each month with all the hormones, but to add birth control to the mix I think makes it even worse.  I would go off if I could, but with this mental illness and with my current plans (school, career) it's not the right time for me to become pregnant.  My birth control is low in estrogen as well, but it still seems to have such affect.

I don't know where you are in the world, but in Canada, our options to find some kind of help for counselling or therapy is pretty good.  The "system" of course has limitations just like everywhere else...I wish I could help you out with that, tell you where to look, who to ask.  The only thing I can think of is the National Mental Health Associaton.  Again, it depends on where you are...

Your heart will definitely heal, I will keep you in my thoughts.  Good for you for trying to get out of the house and keep yourself busy.  That will only help you.  Take care, glad you found HW.


Mogs
 
Bipolar II, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
--currently not on meds for bp--


Pale44
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Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 11
   Posted 8/6/2007 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   
hi blondie.
I too got very depressed while on nuva ring. I had depression for years, but the ring seemed to pull everything out into the front lines. I am sensitive to estrogen too, and thought the new low dose would work, but I gained a lot of weight and was an emotional wreck. I stayed on it for a year, though. Good job for getting off it. Im sorry that things didnt work out with your boyfriend, but the plus side is that if he cant deal with the low times in your life, he doesnt deserve the good times. My insurance has made it very tricky for me to find a therapist too, but you need to. As soon as possible. The meds can't help you alone. Good luck!
"all I want is something good, it gets harder everytime"


blondie301
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 6
   Posted 8/6/2007 12:08 PM (GMT -7)   
You all are so wonderful. Thank you so much for accepting me into your family. It feels great to know you're all here. Today has been rough and I've been crying a lot. I'm trying to get out of the house but it's hard to put on a happy fake face. I just don't know how my now ex boyfriend can go on like nothing's happened and I'm sitting at home sobbing looking for a therapist. It's not fair. At any rate, every time I read one of your responses, it makes me feel a little bit better, so thank you!
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