I am sorry to hear about your frustration, especially being married for such a short period of time. I hope that you can try and understand that he is ill and does need help. You cannot fight his depression yourself, so remember that. All you can do is be there for him and if you notice any major changes in behavior try and get him to see a Dr. Just make sure that you stay true to yourself and still enjoy the things you like. My husband has not had a really easy time dealing with my depression, but he is there for me whenever I need him, we just celebrated out 1-year anniversary. I was not depressed when we first met, but I had a back injury over a year ago and have been quite depressed dealing with the chronic pain. I would just recommend that you stay supportive, but if you get extremely concerned or scared you might want to talk to him about going to a dr. Also he doesn't have to go to a psychiatrist, he can go to your regular family dr. and they will help with anti-depressants. That might be a hidden fear of his, many people are scared of the word psychiatrist alone. Love yourself and try to stay positive, in sickness and health we find out who we really are. He probably needs your support more now than ever. Take care of yourself, and keep us posted. Hang in there:)
I am so sorry that you are still having such a rough time. The situation regarding your marriage is very unsetteling. I do not know the answers to you questions, I wish that I did. You may be right it may not be a depression issue it may be just who he is. I am sorry you are finding this all out now, but I know that it is better to know sooner than later. Keep your head up, my thoughts are with you.