I am so sorry to hear about your recent situation being so difficult. I do not know why people offer to do things that they do not want to truly do, I feel for you and your children. I know you are going through alot, but I would consider if I were you to search for some kind of aid that may help you and your children have a place of your own. In the mean time I would try to have a chat with your mom and explain to her your concerns regarding her yelling and the fact that you should be the disciplinariany not her, after all they are your children. Also, I am sure it is confusing for them to be disciplined by different people. I hope that you can find yourself some assistance to get you your own place and space it really sounds like you need it. Well good luck hang in there, I also tried cymbalta, it decreased my back pain, but did not do anything for my back pain. I just had surgery recently myself for a back injury and am temporarily out of work do to it and share your frustration. I was a pre-nursing student, which was a dream of mine and now I have to accept that my back will not be ab le to handle nursing at all. I have spent the last two years studying for something I can no longer do. Due to my back pain, I am working as a hostess at a restaurant and am making practically nothing compared to when I was a PCT at the hospital. My compassion for other people put me in a position of hurting myself when a patient fell on me, so I do feel your struggle regarding work and such. Things will get better for both of us in time. Just try to be positive and enjoy your children while you have the time out of work and take good care of yourself.
Hi Rehab, I am so sorry for all your going through. I moved in with my mom and her new husband of 6 months...3 years ago when seperated from my husband. I have had MS for 6 years. At the time I moved in I started to look for a house and apartments but got caught up in the divorce which turned out to be nasty even though we didnt have kids. So I stayed with my mom longer then I expected.
Then to my dismay one day I just fell sick...passed out in the living room. After being in the hospital for several weeks, having to get a pacemaker for bradycardia (hr was in the 20's) and extremely low blood pressure. Doctors found that I had an autonomic disorder. So, my brief stay at mom's turned into 3 yrs. It was rocky at first and getting used to having very limited space and next to no privacy was a killer. But that was what I had to do at the time to get by and make the best of the situation.
To me it does sound as if you need to speak to your mother about how she talks to your kids. I would set some boundries with her and let her know that even though you are living there you are still their mother and you will be the one who punishes them if they need it. Perhaps that will take some stress off of you and her...maybe?
I would think your best bet would be to file for disability now. Your living with your parents and have no income. If you start to work and have applied they will deny any claim you have filed. It is a long hard road but there are quite a few people who have applied and been approved on their first try. All you can do is see what happens...
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I read your reply and am thankfull for all your advice. I am glad to tell you I have finally decided to go for x-ray tech. I found a couple different schools, it should take 2-3 years, but is a much better option than nursing for me. What a relief, it feels good to finally be able to get past the idea of nursing. I hope that all is going well or at least better for you. take care and thanks again.
I am sorry that things have not imporved for you. I sure would like to see you look into the disability process as it takes a long time to go through all the documentation and forms, you should start on it soon.
It would certainly help you get back on your feet and win back your independence.
Take care of you.