longtime depression

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Mulelogan
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   Posted 9/2/2007 12:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm not terribly sure where to even begin, its been so long. I've felt depressed what probably amounts to most of my memorable life. Its that old cliche, rough adolescence, blah blah blah. Somehow it carried into adulthood, not really sure how or why. All I know is that I've felt horrible for years, and I'm not honestly sure I can simply trudge ahead with life anymore.

I remember being happy once, a long time ago, can only kind of picture what that was like now. I think its really problematic being strong willed with a great store of mental toughness and inner strength while being depressed. You can't see whats happening to yourself... instead toughing up on the inside and lowering expectations to get through the "hard times." Slowly you loss your sense of self, forgetting what its like to even feel anything. You kill your emotions to not feel the pain, but really you only bury yourself in the process. Years later, after the pain has drained all that once was good in you away, all thats left is a shell of yourself that can't feel anything anymore. You emotionally beat yourself up just to feel anything at all, but eventually that even fades away. Everyday you wake up to disappointment of having even woken up at all.

I've been depressed for so long that I push everyone away from me... "really me," instead letting them only see a facade. I'm not a failure at life, not an idiot by any means, I know I'm intelligent and I know that there are bright things likely in store for me... I just can't let go of whatever this is. Depression has been with me so long that it is who I am... I don't know how to feel any other way... or at least I don't know how. If I didn't have some lingering religious beliefs towards Christianity, I think despite how bad I feel, I fear hell more... and I can't help but feel that despite everything, there is something I'm supposed to learn in life or what have you that God put us all here for, and that I'd be letting down my end of the bargain... I can't defend that or extrapolate further

I have friends and family, people I think really do care about me. I just don't care about myself nor can I seem to convince myself to. Even writing this now I can't defend why I feel this way. Its like a downward spiral... you should get help early on else end up like me where you feel how you do, buts its been so long since you originally became depressed you have no idea why you feel that way anymore. I suppose hurting my friends and family also weighs heavily on my mind... I wouldn't want to hurt them.

Its somewhat amusing... I'm that guy people come to for advice, that person that is "safe" and never really acts to hurt others. I honestly do care and feel things towards other people and have had people that are close to me that I have confided in. Its just ironic that the person that many of my friends comes to for counsel and advice is the one that is probably the closest to a collapse at any given point.

I once was really angry about this whole thing, feeling as though my childhood had been robbed from me. Then I felt like my young adult years had been robbed from me. Since, I've come to realize that some people are just not meant to be happy in life. There are lots of people that have been unhappy their entire lives (Winston Churchill for example... not many people know it but in the course of saving the UK from the ****s... Churchill routinely cried himself to sleep nor felt that he was worth anything, mentioning the "wolves in the shadows" that always prowled his mind).

I don't really anticipate a response. I just feel that my mental toughness is starting to fade, and I'm not sure that in 6 months even my fear of the mortal sin will be enough. Years of depression has broken me. I'm not the person I once was, and I don't know if I want to wait longer for this to pass.


I had to edit your post..please refer to the rule #
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Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 9/2/2007 6:23:17 AM (GMT-6)


ekalski
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   Posted 9/2/2007 5:03 AM (GMT -7)   
When I was going through my toughest time, I was holding in a lot of pain. What I learned in therapy is that there is a difference between knowing I'm in pain and feeling, and truly experincing the pain so I could get beyond it.

By taking just the intellectual approach, I could think I was helping myself through understanding. What I found out is that understanding is not enough. I had to allow myself to cry. I remember being in group therapy talking about mom's death, how I hadn't allowed myself to feel the pain, and that I had been tough through it all. I looked over at my therapist, and he had this sad look on his face that looked sinsere and all he said was, "It's your mom." Somehow that touched me to my core and I started crying like a child. Somehow, he knew with the look and those few words I would be defenseless. I went from being intellectual about mom's death to deeply feeling my loss and desire to have her back to talk to again.

Your post brought back those memories and I wanted to share them. I wish you the best.

Ed

Post Edited By Moderator (Admin) : 9/4/2007 4:30:02 PM (GMT-6)


ShynSassy
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   Posted 9/2/2007 5:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Mulelogan

First of all I want to welcome you to the forum,I am very glad that you found us and I am sure you will find the support that you are looking for.
Depression has many faces,and one of them is not showing others are true selves. It amazes me how we can walk around and put on a smile when deep inside we are hurting so much.
I pushed so many people away during my deepest depression,and I know I hurt my family. When I finally came clean with what was happening in my life I kept hearing "if you would have told me I could have helped"...sure but how do you come out and say "I am miserable"? not something that is a regular topic.

Have you been to the doctor to get some help with the symptoms of depression? Also seeing a counselor to help you with what sparked the depression in the first place.

Please use this board anytime,we all understand and are here to help.

Shy
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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam
Off of all meds at this time...woohoo!!
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Mulelogan
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Date Joined Sep 2007
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   Posted 9/2/2007 3:44 PM (GMT -7)   
ShynSassy

I've never been to a doctor about help for the symptoms of depression, but have spoken to counselors, etc several times in the past to not much avail. To be frank, the topic of what originally started it never seemed to come up.

I'm not terribly sure why I have such resistant feelings towards seeing a Doc about this. In answering the question for about the 50th time from a very close friend of mine, I finally admitted that to her and was surprised by her understanding response. I'd love to know why I'm so resistant to it so that I can let go of whatever it is that is holding me back. I know that therapists can help, and honestly I'm less resistant to that then seeing a doctor (I really don't like the idea of having to take medication for this).

On the bright side the Cubs won today yeah

Thx for the response Shyn and ekalski, much appreciated.

Mule

ShynSassy
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   Posted 9/7/2007 4:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Mule

One thing to keep in mind is this,you are not obligated to continue going to therapy if you find it is not working for you. You are not obligated to continue taking meds if they are not working.
You could just consider it a trial basis to see if it helps.


Shy
Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam
Off of all meds at this time...woohoo!!
www.healingwell.com/donate



How can you talk without a brain?

I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?

Dorthy and the Scarecrow-Wizard of Oz

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