Hi MerlotMoon and welcome to HealingWell,
It is normal for people who suffere from depression to hit out and be generally horrible to those closest to them. For most people it is a security thing. He is secure in his love for you (Deep down, although he may not show it) so he feels safe in hitting out at you. As for what you should do... I would try to get him through therapy (with or without meds) in order to help him heal. Although there does have to be a point where you say enough is enough. But it sounds like you are some distance from that.
Good Luck and Keep us posted
Wow! Reading your post and thinking to myself, "she's talking about me" If it had been a few years earlier, you could have been my wife looking for help with me. I could just copy/paste your post to explain what my wife had to go through. It's exactly the same.
I know for me that I was just a hatefull, miserable person when in my "moods" When I was out of the mood, the emotional pain I felt for what I had said or done would just tear me apart. It's almost like two different people. I'm tearing up right now thinking of what I used to put Michelle through.(my wife) She's rubbing my shoulder right now, which doesn't help.
Michelle would be a good person for you to talk to.
Let us know if you would like to talk.
Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 9/18/2007 6:23:24 AM (GMT-6)
Hi there Moto and Welcome to HealingWell!
I feel your pain as I read through your post and I feel so sorry that you are having to cope with this. Your husband is obviously very ill and needs professional medical attention. You also need to be careful of your own health. I admire the fact that you are sticking by him where others would run a mile, but also be aware of your won health as it can deteriorate without you noticing and suddenly it hits you. Feel free to ramble here any time you wish. We will all help support you in any way we can.
Great idea Big Bear. I think you are right on as CBT has helped so many. Take Care and keep on posting to all.