Do you ever find yourself just sick of everyone?

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ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/17/2007 4:02 PM (GMT -7)   
I know that us with depression tend to hide out and not want to deal with anyone.
But, I find myself just having no patience with anyone. I don't want to be around anyone,I just simply want to be left alone.
I am so tired of my b/f's family. I just can't stand it anymore.
I don't see my family all of the time,my kids live 2 1/2 hrs away,they both have jobs so it is hard to schedule a weekend with them these days.
His family is just basically in my face all of the time and it drives me insane!
They have to know everything. And my family is not like that. We don't talk about how much money we make,we don't talk about what bills we have to pay ect ect.
His family knows everything about everyone,and they beg for more information and get upset with me because I feel it is none of their business.
If my b/f and I have a fight, I swear that within one week his mom or dad is saying something to be about it!
The last time his dad said " Well, he told me about your meltdown the other night"...I about slapped everyone one of them right there. I could not believe it!
So,I don't want to go out to eat with them. I do NOT want to schedule a trip to Florida this winter to hang out with his parents. I just can't find it within myself to do it. And I am stubborn and figure I have been through too much in my life to have to do things that I don't want to do. Simple as that.

I want a vacation,but I want to be in a hotel by myself,no phone and none of them bothering me ie: my b/f for one week,then maybe I will feel better.

I dunno though.

Just venting,it is more reality when I type it all out...although I still do not feel better..

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MMMNAVY
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   Posted 10/17/2007 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Clearly your bf is gossiping about your relationship and not in a good way. Shame on him for doing it and shame on his family for listening to him.

In case he missed one of the rules of fighting fair:
Don't invite the family into your marital/relationship problems.
One of the biggest mistakes that couples can make is sharing their personal problems with their respective families. If all your parents hear is that your husband won't clean up behind himself or that your wife likes to party too much, they'll build a case against your partner. You and your spouse may make up, but your folks may still remember the hurt your spouse caused you.
Take it private and keep it private!

Something here smacks of a lack of emotional maturity on his part.
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   Posted 10/17/2007 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Shy,
 
I bet you did want to slap each and every one of them, starting with your boyfriend and then coming back and hitting him again just for the heck of it.  Your relationship is between the two of you and he'd best learn that real quick.  How you pay your bills is none of their business either.
 
I'm sure it is a learned behavior with your boyfriend, but if he can't set some boundaries with his family, I don't think you will be able to live with that.  You certainly can't change his family, but they could learn to respect your boundaries and his if he could get the guts to set some.
 
I worry about you because I want to see you happy as you deserve to be.  We all care about you here, Shy.
 
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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/18/2007 1:31 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Shy,

Like Granny, I prefer to spend my time alone but its not a depression thing... its just my personality I think. It sounds like you need some time out from everything to get your head back in gear and sort everything out. Have you considered a weekend break? If you book them last minute (Like on Friday) they are really cheap!!!

Thinking of you

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ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/18/2007 4:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there
I have thought about just going away for a weekend,but he is so insecure that when I tell him I want to be left alone he freaks out.
I don't get it.
I told him last night,I am not dating his parents!



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floralie16
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   Posted 10/18/2007 4:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Shy,

Its not you with that. I Hate nosy mothers and fathers in law. My mother in law (love her to death) is so nosy when it comes to my husband and I, and especially our kids. She has to know EVERY little detail of our lives, and its annoying to say the least. But, what is worse, she is very hard to explain things too because she only hears about every 5th word, and I am not kidding or exaggerating!!! So, you end up explaining yourself several times in order to tell her one simple thing. I love her to death, but good Lord it's an pain in the tuckas!

So, when you book that trip to florida, can I have the room next to yours?? I'd like a week off to. :)
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/18/2007 3:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Let's go Floralie!!!

I am so ready!


Shy
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How can you talk without a brain?

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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 10/18/2007 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   

I get so sick of people alot. I don't really know why. Most people just seem so annoying to me. I almost hate to even hear people talk because I am immpatience and annoyed. I used to not be this way. Now I just want to be left alone. I like it that way. And a vaction sounds really great! Get away from the noise and all the people. I get so tired of being around people and always having to do stuff. I feel like I never get a break. I am always busy doing stuff I hate to do and don't have a lot of me-time. I just want to be left alone with nothing to do in the peace and quiet! But, like I said, I used to not be this way at all.

I used to live outside with friends. I enjoyed being around people and I was always the life of the party. I loved trying new things. I would some of the craziest things, but I enjoyed it. Now almost everything is unenjoyable for me. My counselor tells me that the wanting to be left alone and because I hate being around people is just my depression, she thinks. I also have the desire to sleep all the time. But, it is my way of getting away from the world. I have no worries when I am asleep. Except the very annoying dreams I sometimes have about my condition and such. That is bringing reality into the dream, I hate that. But, she says by working on it I can start to enjoy people again. Doubt it, but why not give it a shot.

Sorry for the vent, just needed to let a little out.


ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/19/2007 4:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis
I know what you mean,just hearing someone talk can make me flinch and tense up!

I too used to love going out and being around alot of people. But know I just want to stay home in my comfort zone.

Take baby steps,go to the mall for a little bit when it is busy,and once you can't take it anymore then leave...baby steps are good!


Shy
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How can you talk without a brain?

I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?

Dorthy and the Scarecrow-Wizard of Oz


ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/19/2007 4:02 AM (GMT -7)   
You know..it still amazes me that I can type my "weird feelings" on this site,and have people actually understand and relate!!

Never in a million years would I have thought that would happen anywhere.



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How can you talk without a brain?

I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?

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stkitt
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   Posted 10/20/2007 4:27 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Shy

How much do you care for this b/f? I also feel he does not fight fair.  In a relationship that is between two people the third parties should be left out.

I feel he goes behind your back and tells all, blaming the "meltdowns" on you and therefore putting you on the spot. Have you tried to sit down with Him and find out why he feels so insecure?  I would also spell out my expectations of your relationship.

You may have to verify that he understands your  expectations. :)

Do I just get plain sick of people..................Oh my yes, I get so sick of people that I could hole up in a fancy hotel with WiFi of course and just my puter...............hee hee.
 
Must have CMT on the television thow to help me chill and a good John Sanford Book to boot. Throw in some chocolate and let the world go on without me for a day or so.  tongue
Hugs to you Kiddo.
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/21/2007 6:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone
Had to deal with the family yesterday due to his nephew's birthday party. I basically just hung out and played with the kids,and then demanded that we leave right after. So,it went ok...the drama was still there but somehow I stayed away from it.
We have to visit my mom next weekend,and I am going to point out how much less drama there is.

I did have a long talk with him about the 3 rd party crap.
I also pointed out that he always tells me that after a few years of dating the girlfriend would just refuse to deal with his family. I said,I am not at that point yet,but could be until we get some type of line that we draw and stick too it.
He agreed...for now anyway.

He is very insecure,and did everything he could when we first started dating to show me how he was not insecure and jealous...yeah right!

Lalala..

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How can you talk without a brain?

I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?

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stkitt
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   Posted 10/21/2007 3:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Shy,

You got spirit girl and you keep it.  You need to be loved for yourself and you do not have to be raked over by his family.  He needs therapy perhaps to build up his self esteem and then he would not have to go to his family for reassurance that his is ok.

Take care and Ihope you get that holiday you deserve.

Hugs to you kiddo.

Kitt


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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/22/2007 2:53 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Shy,

I hope next weekend is better for you... your mum obviously has some common sense. Like Kitt, I hope you get your holiday! He obviously needs help since he relys on his family for support, just dont let him drag you down too. We are all here for you.

Big Hugs from Britain

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ShynSassy
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   Posted 10/22/2007 4:42 AM (GMT -7)   
You know,my best friend is his Aunt (how we met) and before I even met him she would tell me about her nephew and how his dad was very jealous of him,how his dad was always very hard on him ect ect. So before I even came into this relationship I knew there were problems.
He does have a better relationship with his dad,but I hear things about his childhood that both his dad and his mom were a part off,and I tell him that it was child abuse simple as that. I am not sure anyone has ever said that to him before,because he was very eager to have someone listen for once.
His insecurity comes from never having his dad's respect.
I see them tell him what to do,and it angers me to know point.
I have been stepping up and pointing it out to him,and I tell him that if he does not like it then he has to put his foot down.
I have seen him do it once,but that is it.

Between the two of us we are a mess!


Shy
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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam

Have been med free for 2 years now.

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How can you talk without a brain?

I dunno...but alot of people talk without a brain don't they?

Dorthy and the Scarecrow-Wizard of Oz

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