Chat Rooms And Depression

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veteran1
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   Posted 10/25/2007 8:59 AM (GMT -7)   
 
Chat Rooms on HW are meant as a venue for discussion of particular illnessess with ppl who understand and care about what you are going through. They provide a way of getting to know people who can offer advice and friendship. This concept often works quite well.Chats can be uplifting, and humorours too. I am often in a depressed mood when I begin chatting and find myself happy and less stressed out after chatting. So what's the problem?
 
I compare chat rooms to adult high schools. Were you one of the popular ones in high school? Did the other kids rush to be around you.Did you belong to that popular clique? No? Well you might revisit those ackward high school moments in some HW chats.
 
I have found myself on the "outs" in many chats, not because I do not have a particular illness, but rather because I found the conversation to be very gossipy or offensive. And I admitt to being a part of this behavior when I am in an "up" mood.
 
We have depression. Our emotional state can quickly change. If we are not quick with a joke or a quip are we not welcome in some particularr chat rooms. Sometimes the answer is no. All too often, A-type personalities take charge leaving the shy chatter in the corner.Sound like high school?
 
So what's my beef? Maybe chatting isn't for everyone. It probably helps to pick your rooms and know the personalities in them. But why can't the stronger more outgoing people make the effort to include those of a more reserved nature? It does happen. But not as frequently as might be expected.
 
All to often the strong dominate the weak. Being outrageous and obnoxious is sometimes a plus in chat rooms. While the quite may have more to say and be more interesting, they are drowned out by the loud bellow of a few. The pressure is on to be popular too.
Who wants to be known as the shy fly on the chat room wall? The quiet quipless? Not likely.
 
So are people who have fun in chatrooms like the high school "in group"? No i don't think so. So what is the answer? Buyer beware is the answer. All is not as it appears on the screen. You have to pick your friends. They are there waiting for you....funny, caring, sincere,helpful and loyal. They  will take your hand in time of crisis. They will share a laugh at life's absurdities. They will be there for you. They are your true friends.
 
Please share your chat room experiences.
 
Happy Chatting,
 
Vet
 
Diag: Recurrent major depression, with panic and gereralized anxiety.

Post Edited (veteran1) : 10/26/2007 12:20:10 PM (GMT-6)


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/25/2007 2:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree Vet. The chat-rroms should be a plce where people can talk and chat together, where no one person is more or less important than anyone else. Nobody should be penalised for not feeling a particular way and if they are then I would ask them to make a note of the time, date and username and email the complaint either to a moderator or to admin.
 
Everyone, please work together to make the chat rooms a friendly place for all people, where people can talk freely.
 
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veteran1
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   Posted 10/26/2007 11:29 AM (GMT -7)   
 
I did not intend my post to be a commentary on HW Chat Rooms. Just a participants point of view. Please tell me your experiences.
 
Vet

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/27/2007 5:36 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Vet,

My experience of the HW chat roms have always been good. I thought you were making a gerenal comment regarding the HW chat rooms and your experiences of them. it doesnt hurt to remind people of what to do when they find that someone is breaking the rules.

Darren


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veteran1
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   Posted 10/27/2007 7:21 AM (GMT -7)   

 

Thanks for reply Darren,

 

I was not looking for rule breakers in chat rooms. That would be snitching. Not something I do. I compared chat rooms to high school with its popularity-based culture. Chat rooms are often similar. What I was looking for was, "Do you find chats affect your moods either positive or negative?" I guess i failed to get that point accross.

Please let me me know if you feel chat experience affects mood (depression) in any way.

Thank you.....Vet

 


Dark
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   Posted 10/27/2007 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes it does affect my mood sometimes positive and sometimes negative

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/27/2007 9:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I think the chat session do affect moods. Mainly in a positive way I think but there can be times when they can get you down.

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Faith 4-ever
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   Posted 10/27/2007 3:35 PM (GMT -7)   
I suffered depression about a year and a half ago! I felt like life was hopeless, But when I found myself at the end of lifes road something amazing happend. I realized if I die right now I am not going to heaven. So I begged god and Jesus to give me another chance I would do anything. And god sent someone to me and they layed hands on my head and prayed, And god HEALED ME! took all my pain away. Then I realized what life was all about. There is no greater love that you will ever feel, then to be a child of GOD! A born again christian, It is so Real, And God loves each and everyone of us the same! I wish that you could feel what I feel in my Heart! That depressin would have to flee!

Faith 4-ever
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   Posted 10/27/2007 3:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi, didaz_1985

You are so right! we do all have gaurdian angels. God has sent them to us! And he gave them charge over us. This place we are in this world is not 4ever, It is just a dressing room to get ready to go to Heaven! Jesus is comeing back soon! And Heaven will be everlasting happeiness. have you ever read the BIBLE KING JAMES VERSION?

eureka
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   Posted 10/27/2007 6:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Vet. but in my case, I am not able to attend often enough to feel a part of the group. Some days I don't have the energy to participate, but need to feel the presence of others. 

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/28/2007 4:15 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there,

I have not read the bible king james version but do believe in guardian angels. I am thinking about changing the chat sessions to weekly rather than 2-weekly since they are proving to be very popular. What do other people think?

Darren


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Annabanana
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   Posted 10/28/2007 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   

  I think all chat rooms have your typical personalities,like any family or community.  You have the ones who give wrong advice unintentionally, you have the one who will "ask out" all available single chatters , you have the shy, the outspoken, the comedian, the ones who will only chat with certain other chatters.  I was a chat moderator in the past, on another site, I was pleased to be asked, since the site really leaned heavyly on the mods for advice. You have 2 distinct personalities come into chat for help, the one who listens and shares and feels better when they leave.  The other can lay heavy on  your heart, when they cant find anything positive in their life, and u try your darndest to help. As a chat moderator, i found this last one to be too much and emotionally draining at times.

  Overall, chat sites can be fun, with a chance to meet people from all over the world!

  Catch ya in chat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  ~~Annabanana~~


bionca
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   Posted 10/30/2007 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm surprised to hear that you have found yourself on the "outs" in chat conversations. I have always found you particularly enlightening in chat Vet. I'm sorry that people have made you feel that way, and if I am one of them, my sincerest apology.

Bionca
Diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, Epstein-Barr virus, and severe depression. Have been on Prozac, cylexa, Effexor, and Wellbutrin. Currently, I am prescription free and doing well.


Oxany
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   Posted 10/30/2007 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been chatting basically for last 10 years now in a number of different chat rooms but always remained with a couple of great friends I met in the very first chat room I ever visited!  I think it really depends on the room and site you are in.  I've been in rooms where all the chatting going on is friendly but nothing but joking around to rooms where people flirt and want nothing but to "cyber" to rooms where people are truly there to meet people and make new friends and take the time to get to know you and talk about everyday things....all are great depending on what you are looking for.
 
I've found that for the most part, chatting will lift my spirits and put a smile on my face at least for a little while even though there have been times when the general atmosphere in the room was "down" and everyone just seemed to be complaining about anything that came to their mind.....that's when it gets to be a downer for me.  Keeping in mind, there is a huge difference with just constant complaining and talking about your problems and things that are bothering you....the later does not bother me in the least and I can actually feel better by listening and helping out  friend who needs to share and/or vent.
 
I'm not familiar with the chat room here, Darren, but I take it you are in charge of it for the Depression chat room?  Personally I think having the chats open more often are better!  But then, I don't have to be here and moderating it.  I've been a mod in a community chat room and site before and I know just how time consuming it can be, so I definitely understand that part of it.
 
Oxany
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veteran1
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   Posted 10/30/2007 9:10 PM (GMT -7)   

 

Bionca,

Thank you for your reply. I do not really feel on the "outs" in chat. Most of the time I find talking to people like you to be very uplifting. Sometimes, however, the depression kicks in and I am unable to participate. It is people like you who make chatting more enjoyable.

 

Thank You Bionca,

Vet

Diag: Major Depression, recurrent w/ anxietyand panic

 

 

 

 


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 10/31/2007 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Oxany,

I wouldnt say that I am 'in-charge' of the Depression chats, but I am the one who has set them up and its generally me that co-ordinates them. I am always open to peoples feedback. I am going to start scheduling them for every week since they seem to be working well. I dont go to every chat session... when I am not there, they are self-moderated and if there is an issue, people email me. I try to get to as many as I can though.

Darren


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