I want to welcome you to HealingWell. I hope you continue to post and let us know how you are doing. I think you will soon begin to feel like you are part of a big family here, at least I did not long after I came on board.
Are you seeing a therapist or a psychiatrist? If not, if you are seeing your regular doctor, maybe you could talk to him about your symptoms. While I am not a medical professional, it sounds like some talk therapy would do you some good. As far as you not wanting to take medication, why not let a doctor make that decision for you. I take Celexa myself and have for many years. You may not need medication, but it does sound like you at least need a professional to talk to so you can start working your way out of this sadness.
We are really glad to have you here. Please stay in touch.
Big Hugs to You!
Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell,
Like Shy and Carla, I would recommend a trip to the doctor; both for you and for your partner. I guess I have to admit (being male) that men are harder to change than women because we tend to be very stubborn... That said, it is possible but as Shy said, it is rare. I definately think that professional help is needed if you want to stay together... otherwise you run the risk of dragging each other down.