After the fall of couse was the recovery at a rehab center for about two months in patient, then about 4 months outpaitient rehab 5 days a week. That said, it was obvious she would have some depression and was on meds for it then. The therapists would not say it would stay the same, get better or get worse.
Does she know this is going on? No she thinks I am perfectly happy with her at my side every waking minute I am avaliable. There are a few activities that I participate in outside of work that she stays away from. If I would tell her I wanted to go to the hardware store, and wanted to go alone she sould not understand. When I do take her she asks tons of questions, why did you buy that screwdriver, why didn't you park in the other parking spot, you have what you came for why are you looking at this stuff, what do you call that thing, OH look a trinket, I love that trinket, can't I just get it? Can we go to the fabric store after this?
Her mental capabilities are about as a 12 year old or less on some things. Aphasia, she knows what things are but canot name them so I spend a lot of time trying to coax out of her more desriptions of what she is trying to explain. She is good at math, good (but slow) at repetetive things.
We have a 19 year old girl. My wife remebers the better times when the girl was about 12 when they were best buds. She doesn't remember the last few years where the typical mother daughter relationships start to erode. So when the two get together, she does't always cope. The 19 year old lacks the maturity and patience to moderate her tones when dealing with the frustration of helping her mother deal with the confusion. If Mom is not included in a conversation it frustrates her and she feels left out worthless, when the in the real case the daughter is trying to avoid a hard conversation explaining everything that is going on.
I have a neice that is downs syndrome, she is happy as can be because she never knew any different, my wife however remembers that whe had great capabilities to function in a world that is not real patient.
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Thanks Elisha, Yes she did go through occupational therapy. She gets along fine with ability to do things, cook clean drive work at some jobs. She just needs extra time and instruction to start a new job. If she feels hurried, or there are a lot of people doing the same task, she feels in the way. Yes I know I will have to take the lead on getting her the right kind of heap. Her original rehab left me with no suggestions except she is yours now, have fun. Her medical Dr does't seem to grasp the situation, her psychatrist, or the other Dr seemed only to want to see her every month and rsubsribe the meds. Questions such as how are you doing were asked. Of course she was ok so the meds stayed the same.
We are in a small town, I am involved in work, and farming so I am real busy and not real good at finding her help. I knida wish there was an advocate that could talk to her, and understand her and guide her to the right arena. I know I sound selfish, I hope it is just burn out.
She had a rough time for a while, was on Lexapro, didn't help completley the added Risperdal. This calmed her down quite a bit. These meds caused her dizzyness so when the Lex ran out she stopped taking it. Now she is back to where we started. I think that when she gets balanced again life will return to manageable. She will still remain needy, but maybe not as depressed.
Is there hope that she can beat the needy, insecureness that she is experiencing? I cannot push her away from me to breath without her feeling abandoned.
Hi Roger, Shy has great suggestions on seeing about classes, or clubs she may join to keep her occupied. You said she stopped taking her Lexapro...is she still taking Risperdal? A lot of times it takes several medications before a doctor can find the right one that will work. Communication with the doctor on negative effects are important so that changes can be made.
Also, the more you describe your wife the more I have to wonder if perhaps she may have some sort of anxiety disorder. It may be worth looking into when she goes back to the psychiatrist. There are many anti-anxiety medications that could help with some of these problems. Do you go into her appointments with her? If not you may want to get her permission to go in with her then you are going to have to explain to her psychiatrist exactly what is going on with her. If her psychiatist isnt responsive to what your telling him/her then I would find another.
The psychiatrist should be able to suggest somone in your area that can help her with these other issues. Plus if you have a doctor recommend the help then it helps with insurance...Hopefully
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