Feeling Really Down

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/24/2007 4:29 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't know, I guess I just need some encouragment. I am feeling really down and I dont know what to do. I have alot going on, well it seems that way to me, but it really isnt a lot. But, there is even more going on inside my head. I just cant stop thinking about everything and feeling so down. We have been out of school this whole week, and I should have been feeling ok without the stress of school, but it has been the opposite. All I can think about is the stress of going back to school. I really dont want to, of course, I dont have no choice.
 
I just have so much going on in my head. I want it all to stop. And I dont know how to deal with it all.
 
I guess I could use some cheering up or encouraging words, or something. Just needing to vent. Thanks.  

djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 11/25/2007 5:11 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there Tennis,

I know that when you have 'down days' (Which sometimes turn into 'down weeks') it is hard to pick yourself up again. Try and think about all the things that you have achieved. I know you are young so this might be a bit more difficult but it is still do-able. Examples might include: Passing exams/tests or Winning a game (not neccessarily sports). They could be simple things like attending school for a whole week, doing all your homework or perhaps doing all your chores or not having an argument with your parents for a whole week. Hopefully this will help lift your spirit because you will be able to see that you have a lot to be proud of.

Let us know how you are feeling today

Darren 


Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/25/2007 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks.
 
I had a talk with my friend last night and she helped me sort through a few things. But, I am started to feel very stressed with school and the holidays. When we are out of school, it messes up my sleep pattern I keep while going to school. Getting up early makes me really sick, so I have to keep to a strict schedule as to when I go to bed and wake up. When we are out, however, I just sleep and sleep and sleep. That is the worst thing I could do, but I cant help it. I am so tired and just want to sleep.
 
School starts back tomorrow. We go 5 weeks I believe until we are out 2 weeks for Christmas. Until then, our teachers are going to be pushing us to get everything done before we get out. I have a lot of deadlines to keep and things to be doing. Its just I cant keep up with everything because I never feel up to doing things, ever. I am having a very hard time focusing on work and things I need to get done.
 
So, right now, I am just as down as I have been. Sorry.

djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 11/25/2007 11:26 AM (GMT -7)   

I understand what its like to have teachers pushing loads of deadlines. I am a university student and I have mountains of work also. My advice in dealing with that is to simply take one thing at a time and while you are focusing on one thing, dont think about the others... they will get their turn.

Darren


Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 


getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 40590
   Posted 11/25/2007 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,

Try and look at your demands as goals that you want to acheive. Take them one at a time. Break thingd down, write lists. That way they wont seem so overwhelming.

I know you are young, but you only go around once, learn as much as you can now. It will help you in the future.

It sounds like you should see a counselor or therapist. Maybe get on some medication. Are you ADD? That may be giving you some learning difficulties. It is a heavy load dealing with depression at your age, I went through it. I barely graduated high school, you sound a lot smarter than that. What grade are you in?

Remember that school is a place for learning and you need to learn all that you can while you are young. If the depression is keeping you from reaching your goal, you need to seriously talk to a professional at this time to get you back on track.

We really care about you here and want to see you succeed.
Keep us posted.
hugs,
getting by
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/25/2007 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   

Thank you.

I have set some goals. And One of my very important goals is to telll someone (an adult) what I am feeling and get help for it. I told my friend that last night. My goal is to tell befor Christmas. She said that was huge. And I told her I wanted to try my best and she needed to remind me of it when I am feeling down. We talked about choosing the right person to tell. I am either going to tell my school counselor (who I talk to once a week) or one of my teachers. She asked if I wanted her there, and I think that would be great.

The thing is, I cant say anything out loud. I talk to her in texts for hours at a time. But, I am not able to talk about it out loud in person. So, I told her we would work on that first. It would help if I could say everything out loud. I talk to myself a lot, I mean, what I would say to whoevere I decide to tell. She told me I should close my eyes and imagine I am telling it to myself. So, I practice all the time. But, I have a hard time saying it around someone, so my friend promised to help me. I told her and I have completely opened up to her.

She knows everything and I tell her everything I am feeling. She understands because she has been thorugh alot of it herself. So, we decided we would work on talking in person so I would be more ready to tell someone.

I don't think I am ADD. Although, its seems like it now. I am very smart. I have always done very well in school. But, now I am losing my passion for it. I am just finding it hard to focus on it or even care about it anymore, although, I still know it is important. I am in 11th grade. I was kind of upset the last time we got report cards because my grades have always been very very important to me. (because I want to be a doctor) I have made straight A's for as long as I can remember. This year is alot harder, I will admit. School has always seemed so easy for me. I have never had to study until this year. This year I have been fighting to keep up and stay on track. I made a B on my last report card. I was disappointed because I feel like I am trying so hard and working so hard, but I cant pull it off.

I am sorry this is so long. For the time being, I am trying really hard to make up for what I have lost. I have never had to study or anything, it has always been very easy, but that is all different now. But, I wont settle for that change. So, I am trying to work harder than ever to make up for it. I just dont know how long I can hold out.

Thanks for the support! Its much appreciated!


getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 40590
   Posted 11/25/2007 1:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey T,

You sonud so much like I used to when I was your age. And don't feel bad about talking to yourself, I do that too. That means you have too much on your mind right now.

I do better at talking with text than I do in person too. Especially here. There are things I can talk about this way that I could never say in person. I think that helps us be objective.

I remember talking to you on the fibro forum, I forgot. Do you think that fibro fog could be interfering with your thinking? Also pain? I really hate to see you struggle so much in school, you are almost done. Try hard to keep your grades up. Just keep reading. You are smart and it would be a shame to mess up graduating when you with our help could maybe get you back on track.

Good luck to you, keep trying, you CAN do it, I have faith in that.
Hugs,
Karen
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/25/2007 5:15 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks.

I can type how I feel better than I can say. Its just easier. I get really scared when I say things out loud. Sometimes just texting or typing about certain things, makes me scared and I start to shake. But, its easier this way.

I think the interferring is partly fibro fog (if I truly have it) and the fact that everything has gotten so bad that I never stop thinking about it. I am constantly thinking. But, never focused on anything. Like during lunch, I sit with friends, but I usually dont care about what they are saying and just sit thinking. I hate being depressed, I hate worrying about things. I just wish for once I could be calm, relax, and enjoy life the way I should.

Yea, I have always done very well and it would be horrible if I messed up at the end just because of this stuff. I hate that it keeps me from being all that I can be. It holds me back from my full potential. I wish I could be myself.

Thanks. I guess I better go, school tomorrow. sad Yippy.


getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 40590
   Posted 11/25/2007 5:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Did you know that the person you would like to be is who you actually are? You just have to bring that person out. That will come when you are ready.
I hope that you talk to your counselor or teacher,whichever you are most comfortable with.
And remember when you are talking to yourself, you are talking to a great person.
Hugs,
Karen
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/25/2007 6:56 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks.

Yes, I knew that, thats why I am fighting so hard to get better, so I can show my true self. My goal is to tell 'the right person' before Christmas. If I stick to it, I will be telling someone very soon. I really hope I am able to.

Thanks so much for your kind words.


djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 11/26/2007 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tennis,

I hope you have a good day at school today and I am glad that you hve set golas and targets. Just remember to keep them realistic and add them to your achievements list when you complete them! You can do this! Just take it slowly, but remember to push yourself a little bit... otherwise you will go backwards

Darren


Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 


getting by
Forum Moderator


Date Joined Sep 2007
Total Posts : 40590
   Posted 11/26/2007 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Good morning Tennis,
I hope that you have a great day in school.
I think I will do a shout out for you on the fibro forum, you could get some answers about the fibro fog and the pain that you are going through. There are a lot of people that care about you both here and there and we want you to succeed. At least maybe with input on both forums, maybe we can get you through until your Christmas vacation.
Hugs,
Karen
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, clinically depressed and allergies


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/26/2007 7:17 AM (GMT -7)   
I had a setback. I couldnt go to school. Its very hard for me to get up in the mornings and go. I get sick most mornings. Some worse than others. Today was worse. But, hopefully, when I start feeling better, I am going to check in so I dont miss anything important.

TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/26/2007 3:52 PM (GMT -7)   

I posted a thread in the a/p forum about the school thing if anyone would like to read more about it. I wasnt feeling up to explaining this morning. I am only feeling a little better now.

Thanks.


djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 11/27/2007 4:29 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tennis,

Im sorry you had to miss school yesterday but Im glad you are feeling a bit better today. Hopefully you will be back at school before you know it!

Darren


Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 


TeNNiSd0C09
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jul 2007
Total Posts : 1303
   Posted 11/27/2007 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   

I went to school yesterday at about 10:30. So I didnt miss much. But I had to go, I did not want to miss my more important classes. I was scared this morning would be like yesterday. At first it seemed like it, but I gathered some thing to do on the bus. I did not do my homework last night so I did it on the bus. I listened to music. And when finished with my work, I did the Sudoku puzzle in the paper. I dont know if it was all that, but I felt ok. I never got sick. Not once, although, I felt like it most of the morning, nothing ever happened. Eventually, as the day went on I started feeling better. Now I feel fine. I am just hoping tomorrow will go as smoothly! I felt bad yesterday all day, even last night, so I took a pill that was supposed to help my stomach, so maybe thats what helped. I took it before I went to bed.

But, today has been low anxiety so that could be why I didnt get sick. Not sure, but I hope it doesnt happen again!

 


djdaz_1985
Veteran Member


Date Joined Jan 2006
Total Posts : 2408
   Posted 11/28/2007 3:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there,

Im glad that yesterday was a good day for you. Perhaps doing homework / sudoku on the bus is the way forward to stop you feeling sick? Perhaps you just need something to occupy your mind?! (BTW If you can do sudoku, you are one up on me!) Hopefully things will get better as you start to go to school regularly as well.

Good luck for tomorrow

Darren
Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
Moderator - Epilepsy Forum
Co-Moderator - Depression Forum
 
Help support the forums so we can support you:  http://www.healingwell.com/donate
 

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Wednesday, December 07, 2016 7:22 PM (GMT -7)
There are a total of 2,734,410 posts in 301,211 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 151329 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, OleMiss1990.
373 Guest(s), 9 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
OleMiss1990, Rikky1, Ravineman430, Sarebear89, Wytrbt, Xmaslover, Suffering34, LiveJoy, k07


Follow HealingWell.com on Facebook  Follow HealingWell.com on Twitter  Follow HealingWell.com on Pinterest
Advertisement
Advertisement

©1996-2016 HealingWell.com LLC  All rights reserved.

Advertise | Privacy Policy & Disclaimer