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teli
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   Posted 12/2/2007 10:56 PM (GMT -7)   
does anyone know a way to erase memory. and everyone keep saying memory is part of who i am and so on but no one understand the inner pain. i rather loose my memory than try to lie to myself and try to live life for everyone. and i just don't believe in depression medication.how can i erase my memory???? please help

AnnaxxLove
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   Posted 12/2/2007 11:27 PM (GMT -7)   
the only way i know how you can erase your memory is Amnesia, and you have to hit some part of your head to get it, however amnesia it can last a lifetime or just for a little bit so im not so sure you wanna try it

teli
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   Posted 12/2/2007 11:39 PM (GMT -7)   
i am willing to try anything to erase the memory of my ex who been cheating on me from the first day of marriage and now wants to get sex change and want to be woman and use plenty of make up and still tell me that he wants to be with me. he just totally screw my life upside down.

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   Posted 12/2/2007 11:47 PM (GMT -7)   
yea i know how you feel...except like not that extreme, my ex dumped me last year on christmas, day before our 7 months aniversay, and then dates another chick like a week later, he claims he didnt leave me for her...w/e i dont believe him, they finally break up in may of this year, me and him get back together, were together then he dumps me cuz he wants to take care of his father...which was true...but then 2 weeks later him and the girl he dumped me for the first time are back together, then just recently in sept me and him and my sis and my best friend all got in a car accident, i got the worse of it...i ended up breaking my back and having to get surgery..on oct 2 he asks me back out, i take him back, i find out i have to be on bed rest for 2-3 months cuz of my back...at first hes good about seeing me at the hospital, then i get moved out to somewhere that 30 mins away from where i live and gas prices go up, he doenst have enough money to come and see me, so 1 month later nov 2 he dumps me saying he doesnt feel a connection, well of course he doesnt he never saw me, me and him are "friends" but right now i dont wanna see him or talk to him cuz i gave my heart to that boy and he wants to destroy it 3 times....but i wanna forget him too...but then again i dont cuz he is a good person just confused about what he wants in life, but im not gonna wait for him to decide what he wants

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 12/3/2007 3:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Believe me,you don't want to lose your memory...
SnowyLynne


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   Posted 12/3/2007 4:28 AM (GMT -7)   
As far as I am aware (and this has not been scientifically proven but I strongly believe it) there is NO way of erasing memory. Just a quick note on amnesia... there are 2 types. ANTEROGRADE and RETROGRADE. Anterograde amnesia prevents the formation of new memories and retrograde amnesia appears to make old memories inaccesable. (Please bear in mind that in retrograde amnesia, there is no gaurantee that you wont recover from it, either partially or fully.) Please DO NOT ATTEMPT to intentionally cause amnesia as there is no guarantee of what will happen.
 
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   Posted 12/3/2007 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Teli

I am sorry that you have had to go through this.. I can't even imagine what you are feeling but..
it is not your fault that he is so confused on what he wants. I am sure that he is scared to come out and you are someone that he feels comfortable with..which says alot about you as a person that he knows you will not judge him.

You do not want to erase your memory because of this one situation. Think about all of the things that you have been through in your life, you want to remember those things.

This will make you a stronger person,and you will be able to move on. If he is making the depression worse,then it might be time to tell him that you can not handle it and that you have to move on.

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teli
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   Posted 12/3/2007 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
thank you very much for everyones comfort ... i am just at a point where can't go on. i promise my friends that will not hurt myself and there for got to keep my words but the feeling lieying to myself hurts eveyday. i really dont mind erasing the good memory too since i don't even remember them anymore..i thought erasing memory is better than harming  myself. seems like no council , med, advice helps unless i myself want to try but i just given up already. i don't like to be a burden and be like this almost like a vegetable. i just so tired of myself and hate myself
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Teli,
I am so sorry that you are in such a bad place.  I edited your post due to content and in accordance with our rules and guidelines which i have posted here. I also posted to you below. I thank you in advance for understanding the need to edit this post.
 
1. No discussion of any illegal activity or threats of violence. (ie. illicit drug use, including medical marijuana use, threats of suicide or self-injury, or threatened or intended physical harm).  Discussions of suicide or self-harm that are deemed negative and therefore potentially injurious to others are also not permitted.
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Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 12/3/2007 11:51:01 AM (GMT-7)


getting by
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   Posted 12/3/2007 11:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Teli,
You have to put this behind you and move on. I know this is a hard time for you but believe me, it is a part of who you are. It builds character, makes you more compassionate of others and you grow from these experiences (no matter how bizzar). You have to learn how to just file this experience somewhere in your mind. You need to get on with your life, not think about death. Life is special and so are you, these things actually make you stronger. If you don't like the way things are at this present time, direct your mind elsewhere. Somewhere good. It could be right in front of you and you don't even know it. Things do happen for a reason, good and bad. So please quit thinking about death. I have been there and believe me I am glad I am still alive. Life is so special and so short as it is. There is a lot of living for you to do. You have the ability to be happy sweetie, I know that. It is always darkest before the dawn.
Now that I have offered all these old sayings, I want you to know.... You have a right to have a good productive life. You deserve to be happy. You are special and you need to learn to love yourself. If you can't do that for yourself, think of the others around you. Love yourself. Don't hate yourself, youself doesn't deserve that. You are not a burden on your friends. And if you feel that way, you know that you aren't a burden here. This is what we are here for honey, remember that. I will talk all day to you if that is what it takes. But you need professional help right now. Do you take meds to help with depression? Do you have a therapist? You deserve to help yourself and you deserve to have professional help.
Keep me posted.
Hugs,
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Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 12/3/2007 12:04:32 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 12/3/2007 12:03 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Teli,

I am so sorry you are in such a bad place in your life right now.

I eidted your post but I have to say I am very worried about you and I am going to post numbers here for you to use so please pick up the phone before you make any bad choices.

PLEASE CALL THE NATIONAL HOTLINE (US-1-800-784-2433) for USA

 If you are in crisis please call your local mental health agency or 911.

I know things seem hopeless now but please do not give up on you, we are here to support you so take our hand and let us help you channel your thoughts toward making new memories, good memories.

Bless you my friend,

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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 12/4/2007 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt is right on this one. Please dont deal with this by yourself. Please get some professional help and talk to someone. As Kitt has said, we will support you in anyway we can, but we are not medical professionals and there is a limit to what we can do... especially over the internet.
 
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misspstink
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   Posted 12/4/2007 3:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Why do relationships make us depressed? Why do we torture ourselves over men who obviously aren't worth it? (and woman for the men) I think we have all been scared somewhere along the way. It gets better with time, but I totally get the wanting to erase memory of a certain person. They made a movie about that. It was wild, but very interesting.

I'm waiting for the day someone nice and wonderful comes into my life. I know it will happen someday, when I am strong enough to handle it. I just hope it doesn't take too too long. I'm nearly 35....no kids, no house. Just me and my dogs, and a ton of debt from my ex.

Chin up people.

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   Posted 12/4/2007 4:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Teli,
 
Thirteen years ago when my ex-husband left me unexpectedly, I thought I wanted to die.  I am so glad I am still here.  I have three beautiful grandchildren now and I would have been leaving two my wonderful daughters.  I know when you are in that state of mind, you are not thinking clearly.
 
Please don't think about doing anything to hurt yourself.  If you do not have a therapist, please, please get one and you may need to be on medication. Teli, you have no way of knowing right now what the future has to hold for you.  It could be something bright and beautiful.  I know that is hard for you to see at this point.
 
We are here for you.  Someone is around almost anytime.  Most of us have email addresses if you feel you need to communicate that way.  We really care about you here.  Please get the help you need and please keep talking to us.
 
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teli
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   Posted 12/4/2007 9:47 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you everyone. i mean it. it just not my relationship but also other things around that happening all i have now is my mom and 17 year old brother who is still in malaysia and should be here next year. while i try to step one foot ahead i just found out mom diagnose with cancer and for the past one week since i found out i been ignoring her phone calls i just don't know how to react. but the good thing is everything happen for a good reason so i guess once i lost everyone and everything i have no worries right? so thats the great part about this pain!

i really dont beleive in depression med helps since it put me in worse situation and i had 2 councelor quit on me told me they can't help me anymore.. so even if conselor quit it wont take my freind and everyone else to give up on me.

i totally understand time will ill everything and i should have something to look forward to but i just don't i just take one day at a time to keep my promise to my freinds that i won't hurt my self.

i am afraid tobe seen by human , i feel like a big looser and tired of being this way i should just move on yes i understand it simple but i couldn;t do it with eveytime i get push back down again.

i proberly bored everyone already better stop here. i am new on this web and not sure how to get others email add to contact. but sincerely thank you everyone. i guess just no one can help me huh just got to suffer and see thing s different .
 
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I have taken your email address out as we dont allow people to post their contact details in threads for their own safety. (Because these are public forums and there is also scanning software out there.) I appreciate you are new to the internet, so to add your email address to your profile so that others can email you you need to:
 
Click CONTROL PANEL in the blue bar at the top of your screen
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Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 12/5/2007 3:53:43 AM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 12/5/2007 4:04 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi teli,

I am so sorry to hear about your mum. It seems that all the nice people seem to be getting long runs of bad luck at the moment and its really sad. Have you tried a lot of depression meds? There are a lot out there and some of them dont suit particular people. Depression meds work by altering the balance of brain chemicals (usually Seretonin) called neuro-transmitters. Although IMO they are not the answer, they make people more receptive to therapy etc... which often is the answer for most people. Sometimes finding the right therapy and the right therapist can be hard but its worth sticking with it.

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   Posted 12/5/2007 8:44 PM (GMT -7)   

Good Evening Teli,

I am sorry about your Mother's diagnosis of cancer.  I can feel your pain in your posts and I hope that you will continue to keep posting and not worry about boring anyone.

I would like to see you talk to your Mother as that may make you feel better to know that you are supporting her during her illness.  I know this is a lot to ask when you are already so down, but perhaps focusing on her will help you realize how needed you really are.

I agree about the antidepressant medications.  There are many new ones available and remember it will take sometimes as long as 6 weeks for you to get the full effect of the medication. Often adjustments in your dosage is needed, so as Darren stated if you can get control of the depression it will make you more receptive to therapy.

Never give up, life can be good, just take baby steps toward getting well.

We support you here and care about you.

Respectfully,

Kitt


 
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   Posted 12/6/2007 8:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Teli,
Everybody here is right, don't avoid your mom. You need to be there for her. Once you break the ice, things will come easier for you. It isn't as hard as it seems, but if you avoid her at this time, I know you will wish that you didn't later. Not all cancers are fatal hon, this could be a good learning experience for you. And it could take your mind off of your other problems.

I really think you need to get your ex out of your life, I know that you want to help him, but, it will only be a one sided relationship. Help somebody who you can help and that is your mom. Being there for her can be so gratifying, trying to help your ex wont. He has some serious issues and is only using you to make himself think he is okay because you are so understanding. To me, he is very sick and if he wants a sex change so be it. Maybe afterwards you can be girlfriends. But right now your mother needs you more than anything. If you don't at least let her know that you will care, you will be on a guilt trip for a long time and that wont help your depression.

We are here for you,
Keep us posted,
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ediekristen
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   Posted 12/6/2007 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
This reminds me of a movie called "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind". It's very good, you should watch it sometime!
Basically it's about a guy who gets involved with a girl and then after the relationship goes badly he pays a company to erase the memories of their relationship, but during the procedure he realizes there are a lot of memories that he doesn't want to lose and he starts resisting it. It's hard to explain but it was very interesting. Of course it was also fictional and there is currently no way to erase specific memories and no safe way to induce amnesia. I know that right now, losing all of your memories seems like a wonderful idea but it's just not the way to go.

I agree with what everyone has said so far and you should just focus on your mom right now... I'm sure it is awkward and scary knowing that she has cancer but she is still your mom, nothing else has changed. You should be there for her as you would have any other time and dont' treat her like someone who is ill, just help her out and let her know you care.

I feel like I'm being redundant but I think everyone here has given good advice so far. Just worry about helping yourself and don't worry about your ex, it sounds as though he's decided and you don't need to be around a situation that is going to continue to hurt you. Perhaps you can still be friends in the long run but right now you need to think about yourself.
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getting by
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   Posted 12/6/2007 11:11 AM (GMT -7)   
I think I remember that movie. Wasn't Jim Carry in it?
hugs,
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teli
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   Posted 12/6/2007 11:37 AM (GMT -7)   
yah i watched that movie too and once on june 07 60 min they talk about short term memory lost pill or somethig like that but i am not exactly sure how to get online to relocate that news to be a voluntary . so i did talk to my mother last night. and told her everything will be alright and doesn't matter how much time we will have but i want to make sure we spend it well. i already got her flight ticket she will be here feb 7 08 as for my brother still working on visa and paperwork from the college and loan.

yesterday my ex show up at work and i actually told him i got to go can't talk it was hard but i did it and later cry about it but my freind comfort me and i realize i really don't want him back in my life but just can't beleive as human how they can hurt another human? well i just hope he will stop coming once a week or whenever he have the convieniece to stop by and talk to me. after i let him go i been telling him for the past 3 week that "you choosen your life just be happy find yourself a boyfriend and forget about me" after all he was cheating on me too even before the wedding he had a girl friend in france and told her how much he love her and if she can't have him no one may.

i beleive with all the comfort i dont feel alone and take one step at a time i will make it. i did lost my father 4 years ago with cancer too. so i am pretty sure i can handle any lost.

just sometime i feel so down but i believe all my friends here and around me will give me a hand .

i am trying very hard and will keep trying .

just got to live life as it was create just for you right. its that simple......

after got in this online i actually feel wow there is still good people on earth thank you from bottom of my heart.



teli

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   Posted 12/6/2007 2:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Teli,
You are so welcome, we all care about you so very much.
It sounds like you will be just fine, may be a little work but I know that you can do it. You are very smart and we can see you are really trying.
So glad that you talked to your mom. You will not regret this, you are a good daughter to be there when she needs you. I feel that this will be a good outcome.
I am so proud of you!
Keep up the good work,
Hugs to you,
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   Posted 12/6/2007 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
teli, I'm so glad everyone here was able to help you even if just a little bit. Already it seems like you're making progress and that's very good. Of course it will take time but you are right, I'm sure your friends will give you a hand and it will certainly help to have them around.

Good luck and don't ever be afraid to post here for advice or just an "ear" to vent to
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125mg Imuran
 
Should also be on supplements and probiotics and other UC drugs but I'm just not good at taking pills...

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