loss of my fiancee

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missingu
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   Posted 12/7/2007 5:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Greiving the loss of my fiancee she was only 35 years young smart, beautiful and loving i am so lost without her all i do is cry and pray.I have made my home some what of a shrine to her I miss her so much she was my life i adored her.She passed away from a heart attack caused by asthma we had just moved into our dream home now im in a big house all alone just me and the yorkie i bought her for christmas last year .I keep asking why she was so young and sweet. Im sorry if im upseting anyone with this post but i have to release my feelings of anger and hurt for my lover my best friend and my partner is now gone forever of this world and is resting in paradise with jesus christ

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   Posted 12/7/2007 5:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Missingu

First of all I want to welcome you to the forum,I know that you will find the support that you are looking for.

I am so sorry for your loss. I can not imagine loosing someone so close to my heart like that. I can tell that she was very lucky to have had you in her short life.

Grief is about one of the hardest things we can endure I think. We don't think it will ever get better,our lives feel meaningless. But, take it one day at a time. One memory at a time...


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missingu
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   Posted 12/7/2007 10:14 PM (GMT -7)   
thankyou so much for your email and your support godbless you and your family through this holiday season......................taking it one day at a time

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   Posted 12/8/2007 4:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Please keep us updated on how you are doing.
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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam

Have been med free for 2 years now.

I will scream with you,Cry with you and hopefully laugh with you.


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missingu
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   Posted 12/8/2007 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   
i will, thankyou so much for caring nobodyelse does

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   Posted 12/8/2007 3:53 PM (GMT -7)   

missingu

Hello, I am Kitt and I have gone through many losses of loved ones, the most painful was my 21 year old son.  I know of your pain.  You are not alone, we are here for you and I hope you will consider seeing a therapist to help you through.  I did not for many years and then one day I had a complete melt down.

I am sure this wonderful woman would have wanted you to be alright. So please keep posting and talk to us about how you are.

With deepest sympathy

Kitt


 
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   Posted 12/8/2007 5:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Missingu,
I am so sorry for your pain. I lost my husband to cancer a few years ago and it took a couple years to completely get through it. But I promise in time, each day does get easier and you will be remembering only fond memories.
You are in my thoughts and prayers,
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missingu
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   Posted 12/8/2007 9:54 PM (GMT -7)   
thankyou so much for showing me compassion and love......my fiancee was a great woman she gave everyone love and asked for nothing in return just kept giving i find some solitude in knowing jesus needed another angel for other people in need so he picked the best my Idanes that was her name so if you can add her in your prayers i would very much appreciate it....................thankyou and godbless

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   Posted 12/9/2007 5:38 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell,

I am so sorry that I was not able to respond earlier. I am very sorry for your loss. 35 is no age to die. As others have said, take one day at a time and dont try and rush yourself. Everyone grieves in a different way and thats perfectly OK. Please keep talking to us as you might find that it helps you work through this.

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misspstink
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   Posted 12/9/2007 4:04 PM (GMT -7)   
omg i am so very sorry for your loss. i wish things didn't happen like that to people. hugs to you. again, im so very sorry.

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   Posted 12/9/2007 5:12 PM (GMT -7)   
missingu,
 
I am so sorry for your loss.  I know it has to be especially tough going through the holidays without her.  It is good that you are able to grieve your loss.  It is the healthy thing to do even though it is so painful.
 
Kitt mentioned her meltdown later on after the death of her son.  I was 13 years older than my little brother and he died when he was 19, also in an auto accident.  I couldn't deal with it at the time either.  It took me seven years to start doing my grieving, and it was very hard.  I was going to therapy and went to an intensive week long grief work shop in another state.  I thought I was grieving for one of my dogs that was probably going to die soon and I didn't think I could handle it.  It took that week long grief workshop for me to realize why I had brought myself there; it was all about my little brother.
 
After he died, I cried for a solid week, then went back to playing racquetball not once a day, but twice a day, doing aerobics every day, walking every day with friends in the neighborhood, any sort of exercise I could do.  Then I would go into a deep depression on the anniversary of his death each year, but I still wasn't really dealing with it.
 
His accident was in another state, so a year before I went to the grief workshop, I went to the State Police Dept. in that state and got a copy of his accident report.  I waited awhile and found the curvy, country road and knocked on a door, which just happened to be next door to the tree he hit, I had no idea.  The lady who answered the door said she and her husband saw the accident, saw the car coming and knew they weren't going to make the curve.  She asked me why I was just now coming to ask about it.  I told her I hadn't been able to deal with it before, I didn't tell her I still wasn't.
 
So, the next year I found myself in this workshop, supposedly for my dog, Lily who I did love dearly and I finally figured out why I was really there.  I was afraid that my little brother never knew how much I loved him and after that workshop, I know that he does.
 
missingu, I am so sorry to be so long winded, but I wanted to let you know why grieving is so healthy.  Please keep letting your emotions out.  I am so sorry you did not get to have her in your life very long.  We are here for you on HealingWell.  There are probably no words that I can say that could make you feel any better right now. 
 
Please know you are in my prayers,
 
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   Posted 12/9/2007 5:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Carla,

Thank you for coming forward and sharing your whole story.  I know that takes a lot to do that kind of sharing. Hugs to  you.

missingu,

You have my prayers for Idanes and I know that she is looking down upon you and will watch over you.  You will always have your own special angel.

Gentle Hugs to you.  You are not alone, we are here for you.

Kitt


 
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