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~Liz
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   Posted 12/12/2007 8:59 PM (GMT -7)   
I usually stick to the migraine forum, but lately my depression has been getting to me.  When I first started getting migraines 4 years ago I went through some pretty severe depression.  I managed to finally get it under control about 10 months ago, but it's getting worse again.  I have a friend who's going through a bad depression period and being around her is kind of making me regress.  I can't just stay away from her because I know how important friends are when you're depressed, but now my depression is almost worse than when I first had it.  Even though I can't tell my friend this (or anyone else for that matter), being able to tell someone has helped a bit, thanks for letting me vent.
Liz


Dx: Chronic Daily Migraines & Chronic Depression
 
Daily meds: Trazadone, Norpramin & Cymbalta
PRN meds: Tylonal #3

Post Edited (Liz-hopeless) : 12/12/2007 9:16:53 PM (GMT-7)


behindtheseeyes00987
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   Posted 12/12/2007 11:55 PM (GMT -7)   
that's how i felt for a long time. sometimes my friends go through depression but mine is always constant-and i always hide it and never told them so that they dont feel worse. i just found it easier to get into counseling so that i could tell someone, and at the same time i felt a lot better and in return was able to feel better and be able to help my friends with crisis.

ShynSassy
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   Posted 12/13/2007 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Liz

Have you told your doctor what is going on with you? You might want to consider making an appt asap.

I know that you want to be there for your friend,but...at some point if it is making your depression worse then you are probably going to have to consider limiting your time with this person. For your own well being.
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   Posted 12/14/2007 5:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Can I just clear up a langauge barrier issue here? What do you mean by regress? I know what it means to me and it doesnt seem to fit what you are saying so it might be a UK/US language thing.

Either way, you need to talk to a doctor about this. He/She should be able to get you back on track.

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stkitt
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   Posted 12/14/2007 9:47 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning,

I am in agreement with the other wise ones who have posted before me.  You need to make an appointment with your physician to take care of your issues.

If watching your friend go through a depressive episode is causing you concerns and affecting your mood you have to take a step back and help her as a friend and not get so emotionally involved that it is tipping you into depression.  This sound like her depression is a trigger for you.

If your depression is becoming worse, you must take care of you first.  That is not being selfish.  Each person is responsible for seeking out help if they can and I feel you are a person that can do this.

Gentle Hugs

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~Liz
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   Posted 12/15/2007 4:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Behindtheseeyes,
That is one of the things that I'm afraid of; making my friend's depression worse by telling her that I'm depressed as well.
 
Shy,
I don't want to talk to my doctor about my depression because the last time I did that he related my depression and migraines to me being an attention seeker.  Of course, being called that doesn't help the depression at all.
 
Darren,
By regress I meant going backwards.  I went through severe depression, eventually got better and now I am going back into the depression.  Does that help clear up the confusion?
 
Kitt,
Knowing how depressed my friend is, I don't really feel that I can step back and worry about me first.  It would make me feel guilty, which is another depression trigger for me.
 
Thank you all for your posts, I really do appreciate the advice, even if I don't think I can take it at the moment,
Liz
Dx: Chronic Daily Migraines & Chronic Depression
 
Daily meds: Trazadone, Norpramin & Cymbalta
PRN meds: Tylonal #3


stkitt
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   Posted 12/15/2007 5:10 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Liz,

I am so sorry that we were not able to come up with a suitable suggestion that would work for you.  I understand that you are doing what you feel you need to do. Gentle Hugs.

Please take care.

Kitt


 
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getting by
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   Posted 12/15/2007 6:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Is there any way that you could tell your friend that you feel you may be causing eachother to get more depressed worrying about the other and you could both go into therapy, maybe group?
Just a suggestion.
Sweetie, it is impossible to help somebody else when you yourself need help. You really do have to think of yourself first, that is why I thought you could do something together. To be a real friend you need honesty, this way you could be helping eachother. Best friends can overcome.
Hugs,
be good to yourself.
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~Liz
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   Posted 12/16/2007 7:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Getting by,
That is a good suggestion, I had never considered doing group therapy.  I will bring it up with my friend the next time I see her, thank you.
*Hugs*
Liz
Dx: Chronic Daily Migraines & Chronic Depression
 
Daily meds: Trazadone, Norpramin & Cymbalta
PRN meds: Tylonal #3


getting by
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   Posted 12/16/2007 9:23 PM (GMT -7)   
You are so very welcome,
glad I could be of some help.
Hugs,
getting by
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