Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 12/18/2007 5:37:46 AM (GMT-7)
I understand your situation. I've been there myself. You need to look at things from a different perspective.
Which is best for your daughter???? An environment that is peaceful, or an environment where her emotions are torn because her parents are arguing all the time.
I think you know already what you need to do. You are just not willing to admit it to yourself right now. I personally suffer with depression, anxiety, PTSD and a whole list of other things, so when I give my advice, it is something that has worked for me.
Sometimes people who are depressed tend to make bad decisions in life. It is partly due to the fact that we are chemically unbalanced. I think it is also do to the martyr affect. People who are depressed seem to have a feeling of unworthiness, as a result other than our judgement is cloudy, we make decisions in life that will have a bitter bite in the end because on a subconcious level we feel like we deserve it.
I have found that I really need to be an analytical person when it comes down to decision making. Write it down. Weigh the consequences fairly...then make a decision that is based on a more realistic basis. You emotions lie....the facts don't. Every action has consequences. Some are good...some are not so good. In your case you should ask yourself "what exactly do I want for my child?" Then make a list of what you think is necessary to accomplish this goal.
No one can tell you what is right or wrong for your circumstances. Truly you are the only one who will know if he will fit in the equation to raise your daughter the right way.
However, if he hits you on a regular basis, then I will say with no hesitation....leave! Abusers never get better. Abusive situations only get worse with time. I do not know if that is your case or not.
I wish you well. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.