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   Posted 12/21/2007 8:00 PM (GMT -7)   
 

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Wifeofdepression
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   Posted 12/21/2007 9:20 PM (GMT -7)   

More,

You are doing a great job recognizing that you are depressed and working on a solution. Making an appointment for help is a great first step.

WofD


ShynSassy
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   Posted 12/22/2007 6:43 AM (GMT -7)   
More

Welcome to the forum,I am sure you will find the support that you are looking for.

Can you talk to your parents and see if you can get to a counselor? You can even start with the counselor at school,they can talk to your parents for you if you want.
Shy


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Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam

Have been med free for 2 years now.

I will scream with you,Cry with you and hopefully laugh with you.


stkitt
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   Posted 12/23/2007 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear More,

Hello there, I am glad you felt comfortable coming here and posting.

I am sorry for your problems but your right, depression can get better with lots of hard work and a good therapist.  Medications are another tool that are sometimes necessary for some people.

You posted:

 "but now I came to realize that all my problems lead back to my dad.To him im nothing."

IMHO, it is not about your Dad but about how you let yourself feel inferior and this is your self-esteem. Yours needs some work as you are a good person, but you need to know that.  You do not need validation from others.

Your self-esteem is the way you look at yourself. If you have good self-esteem it means that you like yourself and you believe that you are as 'OK' as everyone else. If you have poor self-esteem it means that you believe that you are not OK, or that you are inferior to others.

Your self-esteem can affect how you feel, how you relate to other people, how you deal with challenges and how relaxed and safe you feel in your daily life.

Start with baby steps and working with your therapist to learn to build on your worth and not let what others say or what you think they feel send you into depression.  Believe in you...........you are a good and decent young man.

I am very sorry about your sister.

Kitt

 

 


 
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More
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   Posted 12/23/2007 10:36 PM (GMT -7)   
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 12/24/2007 5:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi More

It is good that you are getting this out. I know how hard it is to talk about what is going on in your mind sometimes.

You are a very mature 16 year old that is for sure,and if you keep up the state of mind that you are in that you are getting better then you will do it.

Keep posting all you need to .
Shy


Mod- Depression

Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia
Meds I have taken throughout the years:Wellbutrin,Tranxene,Paxil,Prozac,Valium,
Lexapro,Zyban,Buspar,Clonazepam

Have been med free for 2 years now.

I will scream with you,Cry with you and hopefully laugh with you.


TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/24/2007 9:48 PM (GMT -7)   

More

Its really strange to read this and not think of myself. I am also 16. I have been through this also. I have had these same thoughts as you, but have never written them completely down as you did. Mine started before yours and was a little ahead of yours. You said Oct was when you decided you had a problem and wanted help I guess. Mine was in June and July. It got really bad then and I have never felt so down as I did those 2 months. It was awful. I know just how you feel. I hit a point where I realized what I was doing was a horrible thing. I could not stand to live that way any longer. I tried desperately to call out for help. My school counselor was no help to me. She was great at just talking, but not taling about my real problems. Everyone seemed as if they were no big deal.

My parents did not listen to me. I took it upon myself and this summer, I found this place. I noticed you felt better after posting. I did as well. Its great to find a place that is full of people you never knew existed that are just like you. Everyone here cares so much. They understand. Its a free place to be in. In my imagination if this place were real, the atmosphere is so warm and relaxing. Everyone understands. Everyone listens. We are one. We are all the same.

As for me, it has gotten better. I did go to to the doc for another health issue and I am on meds. I have felt better on them. And I dont feel so bad anymore. I still feel discinnected from the world around me, but I just think of it as a good thing! I make the most of what I have! I think I have gotten away from most of the bad. I pray that it gets completely better. And I hope you start to get better as well. Try your best to stay positive. Other people told me this as I am telling you, at the time I just said 'Yea right, how could I possibly be positive.' But, now I try and it really does help. Just remember that you can and will get better. Be patient.

I hope you can find relief and get better soon. I know how it is and I wouldnt wish what I felt on my worst enemy. But, getting out of it is the best feeling in the world! I am still getting there, I still have down times, but I try to remember that I will bounce back. I hope you can find yourself, and get better. I hope you can start to enjoy life for what it is. Life has so much to offer and you should have the pleasure of enjoying it. Good luck on your journey and I wish you the best of luck. Happy Holidays!

P.S. Sorry this is so long. I ramble! Take care!  


"Sometimes when I say 'Oh Im fine' I want someone to look me in the eyes and say 'Tell the truth'
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"You asked what was wrong and I smiled and said, 'Nothing' then I turned around and whispered...'Everything'
"If I talk and laugh too loud...its because I am trying to forget that I am sad."
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 12/25/2007 1:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Very well said TeNNIs ..Thanks for your Input ..............
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stkitt
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   Posted 12/25/2007 4:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey there More,

Merry Christmas.  I am glad your writing. I am so sorry you are going through this however coming here and talking about this as well as sharing it with others is the best thing to do.

There is something comforting about baring your soul to the members of Healing Well and still being able to be anonymous.

When we are young our core values, our beliefs in who we are and how we should act are set usually with the help of our parents, teachers, peers and others we come into contact with.

Sometimes these values or beliefs about ourselves are inaccurate but because that is what we learned we do not recognize that those values really are not who we are.

Your family went through a very difficult time, a divorce and the family as you knew it broke apart.  IMHO it seems like you are just now starting to understand that you have been behaving the way you think people, expecially your Father wants you to behave.

In reading your post you want to please your Father but behaving the way he expects you to is not who you are or what your beginning to recognize is in step with how you feel.

The person you really need to please is yourself.  Not being able to say what we think, feel or want is part of low self esteem.

You are a good and deserving person.  Please feel free to keep writing here as we are here to support you.

I am wondering if you have access to a counselor through school should you feel you need someone to talk to in person other than your family.

Take care of you and keep posting.

Kitt


 


 
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Another Day
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   Posted 12/25/2007 5:26 PM (GMT -7)   
More,
 
As Kitt mentioned, your family has been through a lot recently and that includes you.  You have gone through your parents splitting up and the death of your sister.  It sounds like you were able to talk to your sister.  Thats a huge loss for you.
 
Please keep posting and talking to us.  I am glad you do have an appointment on Jan. 16th.
 
As for your relationship with your father, why not try just being yourself.  Let him know the real you.  It might be that the two of you would become closer.
 
Big hugs to you!
 
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   Posted 12/27/2007 7:34 PM (GMT -7)   
More,

That sounds like a winner. The more that you can be yourself, the less complicated things become.
Good luck with everything, I know that it is hard right now with the loss of your sister and your parents present status. But things will get easier for you.
Keep that appointment. This could really help.
I wish for you a wonderful relaxing evening
hugs,
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BeauBlue
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Date Joined Dec 2007
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   Posted 12/30/2007 2:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Tony,



I loved reading your story because you were just so open and honest, and i'v been thinking the same lately, about how everything is fake, it's not real. To be real right now is to be depressed, there's no way to be Really Happy in this screwed up world.



The reason i'm posting in depression forums though is because i know a guy who has the answers to why we're having all these problemslike depression, suicides etc and he has the solution to getting through and reaching happiness.







His aim is to make an organization where people can learn to be the best people they can be, and live in fulfilment. He has the answers as to how we can reach that place, the highest level of happiness.



This will clear a lot up for you



Peace


Hi Peace, I had to edit your post,due to the rule of our forum. If this is something you want to share then talk to the member and if they agree you can email the info..Thanks

www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=46&m=106997

Post Edited By Moderator (ShynSassy) : 12/30/2007 5:49:22 AM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 12/30/2007 6:20 PM (GMT -7)   
 

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