I don't have it in my heart to give you a stern talking to- maybe just a think about it suggestion- My personality is somewhat all-or-nothing in that I am as stubborn as a mule.
In the past, if I decided NOT to eat something, nothing short of death would move me to eat it- until that sad day, when I gave in to my desires/needs...and then- get out of my way lest you suffer bodily harm if you came between me and my object of food lust.
When I was diagnosed, I realized that this eating behavior is potentially destructive. Also, not a good way to live the rest of my life. I needed a moderate approach that controlled my blood sugar, kept my carb cravings to a minimum, and that I could live with for the rest of my life.
I started with the link and balance approach that I have talked about here, played around with your nothing white but cauliflower plan, Bernstein. Bernstein raised my blood sugar and left me craving carbs in a very strong way. Your nothing white plan does the same- I find myself being tempted by starchy things I don't even like because so many things are off limits. Like a spoiled rotten bratty little kid who's mother just said no to me.
Currently- I eat most like the link and balance plan. I always eat protein: carb in an approximate 2:1 ratio. I don't eat grains, beans, or starchy vegetables in portions that raise my blood sugar significantly- but I DO eat everything-
I CAN eat fresh corn- 1/2 of a small ear with butter, I can eat fresh Loring peaches from my tree- 1 4oz portion at a time with my yogurt, 1/2 slice of fresh made rye bread- warm with butter and sugar free jam made from my berries and peaches; I can eat a small Cold Stone Creamery dish of soft serve after I walk the 2 miles to get there- in my mind, I can eat anything.
I give myself permission to eat as much as I need to of these items- slowly- one bite at a time until I can no longer taste the item- for icecream- it becomes "cold' not chocolate after about 3 bites; crackers taste like grease and salt after 2 or 3 bites. During my last 'binge" I cut a kahlua brownie into 6 bites- and ate just two- but in my mind 'I HAD A BROWNIE"
This approach might work for you too, Jeannie. From your posts I get the idea that you are very compliant with a very restricted plan for a period of time and then deviate big time- it might be easier on your psyche if you gave yourself permission to meet your increased carb needs in a moderate way.
A lady from my local group used to give herself every Saturday 'off' because she needed it for her mental health- she ate everything she wanted, didn't test, refused to feel guilty. I missed 3 meetings in a row this spring/summer- so I was surprised to hear her recently say that she still follows that ritual, but now she mostly doesn't deviate from her plan because the food has lost its appeal for her- if she has a craving, she knows that she can have the item on Saturday- but by Saturday, she often finds that she doesn't really want it any more. Maybe that would happen for you too.
Just some thoughts. I hope they help- you've helped me a lot over these past 2 years.
I just want to live happily ever after-every now and then. Jimmy Buffett