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Jeannie143
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   Posted 11/15/2008 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   
For those of you who have been around since a year ago you know that I spent October thru December with my daughter who became a paraplegic with the birth of her baby girl. She has spent this past year re-learning to walk and even her doctor says her progress is miraculous. But she can't go back to her physical therapist assistant job because her healing isn't complete and the job requires lifting.

So yesterday they got the foreclosure notice and they are losing their house. Her hubby works part time at the TV station, part time like everyone in Michigan!, and he doesn't make enough to keep them going... and to make a long story short, they will probably be moving in with us by Christmas and he can't commute an hour each way for a part time job...(sigh)

My stress level put my sugar through the roof yesterday and this morning I awoke to a 149... shakehead I know things are going to be tough for a while. I refilled the bird feeder and have watched them for a while because it makes me happy and relaxed. Got any ideas on how to lower my stress/glucose levels? I really can't afford to go back on the Lantus... and if these numbers stick around I'll be a basket case.

Suggestions please?
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa

"People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross


Howlyncat
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   Posted 11/15/2008 11:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Jeannie
I dont know much about the numbers in the states with glucose levels but
I do know that I also love to watch and play with my birds
It relaxes me as well

Some ideas
Know it is not going to be forever
Know once again you are doing a very UNSELFISH thing for your family
Take some YOU time for ONCE
You are always helping and supporting all .........self included
Count all your blessings( I know you do )

Come here and vent
Also with this you can come to Anxiety /Panic and
that may help if you vent a bit there with stress levels
KNOW we all are here for you and
Praying that you WILL get thru this

Everyone does CARE about you and your problems /health issues

Thoughts and prayers always

Email me if you want to talk k

I have been helped so much from you
I want to try and return the support I have been given

I hope I have helped a bit

Luvs
LYN
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LanieG
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   Posted 11/16/2008 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry for all the family troubles, Jeannie.  I think it's tougher to watch our kids having problems than for us to deal with our own.  There are a couple of things in my mind.  First, they are very lucky to have you and be able to live somewhere safe.  It might be a little crowded but you'll have your granddaughter there and that will make you happy.  I know you'll be a lot of help to them.  Now for the hard part:  your son-in-law will have to get some kind of job locally, anything, anywhere, to earn money. It doesn't matter what kind of job.  They need a financial plan as well.  Everything they have and do and buy will have to be re-evaluated.  This is important for them so they can get back on their feet.  (If there is some kind of assistance available, they will need to seek that out.)  After a bit of adjustment to the new arrangement for everyone, I think it's reasonable to expect your SIL to shoulder some responsibility in the house as well.  Now for you: you cannot afford to slide too far backwards.  If you get ill or have long-term complications from the diabetes, how will you be able to help them?  They will worry about you then and they already have enough worries.  If you're going off track with the diet, you have to remind yourself that you may be creating more and bigger problems down the road for yourself - and even for the rest of the family.  You need to be the strong one, for your daughter and granddaughter especially.  By helping take care of yourself, you're also taking care of them and that's what they need right now.  My thoughts.  Prayers sent your way. 

Lanie
forum moderator - diabetes
diabetes controlled so far by low/no carb diet and exercise; no meds


Phishbowl
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   Posted 11/17/2008 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow, Jeannie! Sorry to hear that Life has dealt your family a blow. I second what Lanie said in its entirety.

Having moved back in with parents myself and having "housed" siblings on 4 separate occasions, I can share with you that everyone was always most happy with an agreed-to plan before the move-in took place. Nothing heavy-duty or a contract but, a very clear understanding of how each of us could best get along for the agreed upon time we would live together. Set expectations.

The plan and the understanding & respect for each other will hopefully make your time together more enjoyable than not :-) The plan for SIL to get a local job should be first & foremost (IMHO). A "free" period of time was always allotted in my cases but, there was always "rent" involved at some point in time. (Especially for the long-timers :-). There were moments of tension but, all in all, they are now cherished times for each of us.

Don't let yourself take a back seat either, Jeannie. As Lanie says, you're no good to anyone if you let yourself slide. There's no reason to really. You're providing your kids a chance to get back on their feet without a mortgage/rent payment to make. That's a huge generosity right there. The rest is gravy. It doesn't absolve them of having to live Life (get a job, save, buy groceries, etc.).

Ask yourself what you are most stressed about and try to approach reducing that first. Is it meal planning? Financial security? Feeling taken advantage of? Try to narrow it down to something you can articulate in the plan or understanding with the kids & hubby, too.

Jeannie, you're always such an inspiration to others. You're there to give us the support and encouragement (and the kick in the pants) when we need it. I hope you can do the same with your new tenants; that they can get back on their feet quickly and with confidence because of the encouragement you provide. That's your goal (IMHO :-)

We're hear for ya! (Even if I'm a little slow to respond sometimes :-)
Kris
Cheers,
- Phishbowl (Type 1 since Jan'05 - Levemir, NovoRapid)
"What's Not Measured Is Not Managed"

"It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows"-Epictetus


Jeannie143
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   Posted 11/17/2008 10:07 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I'm in Grand Rapids and we've been crunching numbers here... It's a done deal. They can't stop this train wreck. We are just gonna have to salvage what we can and do our very best to be kind to each other. With the economy the way it is this situation in Michigan could last for the next 10 years or so... Just gotta KOKO! (Keep on keepin' on!)
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa

"People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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