Well, E, you have to admit you can be a bit "abrupt" at times. I'm beginning to think that's just the way you are but you need to understand that not every new diabetic is able to adjust to the new way of life overnight. I appreciate your correction of my wording.
You have a quick, articulate mind and you remind me of my brother. He's an engineer and very bright but the world looks entirely different to him than it does to me. He can't understand why people don't just follow the rules, right there in front of them (ie. speed laws, taxes, morals, health recommendations) It's all very black and white to him.
I, on the other hand, have a love affair with food, find exercise painful because of my fibromyalgia, sometimes speed when I'm in a hurry and am a so-so bookkeeper. I see and understand his way of thinking but he is very intolerant of mine. He thinks that if I could just be more like him my life would be so much easier... but that's not my makeup. So I have to fuddle along my own way and try to fake it until I can make it. Do you see what I am saying?
Everyone approaches their diabetes from their own point of view. We try to make the tightrope walk a bit easier by helping them where they are with the tools they have at hand. Not everyone can grasp all the intricacies of glucose tolerance, the glycemic index, carb vs. fiber content, monounsaturated fats, kidney protein balance and all the other stuff that makes up this disease. I have some nursing school, bacteriology, anatomy and physiology as well as psychology in my background. I try to help as best I can without burying anyone in med babble. There are others here that are much better at phrasing than I but they are also very defensive of the newbies who are just learning their way thru this mine field we call diabetes.
As my grandma used to say, "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar." ... but then my daughter said in response, "I don't want to catch flies!"
We are all just trying to help. Perhaps a gentler approach on your part would help you get your point across without offending anyone. Remember, not everyone learns quickly or has an
open mind to make the changes they need to make. We can only suggest. The choices are up to them.
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & FibromyalgiaI know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa "People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross