Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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Phishbowl
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   Posted 6/15/2007 8:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Do I (spend more money than I think I can justify) to take the train to the next city, stay at a top hotel, shop all day, eat out all day, and dance and party the evening away with 3 other friends who want to include me in this Girl’s (over)night out?

It’s been over a decade since any of us have been able to consider this kind of get-away (young kids, careers, etc), but I’m having some anxiety over it all for a few reasons. Not the least of which being that I don’t really know how I’d best manage being thrown so far out of my routine and comfort zone for that long. I’m not so worried about the best choices to make but more about my friends’ understanding about it all. I’m a shadow of my former self, meaning, a lot has changed since I became Type1.

I guess I’d just hate to be the one to "ruin" everyone’s good time. What do you think?

Cheers,
Kris
Cheers,
- Phishbowl (Type 1 since Jan'05 - Levemir, NovoRapid)
"What's Not Measured Is Not Managed"

"It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows"-Epictetus


4sons
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   Posted 6/15/2007 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Kris ...

I hear you. I'm not the same person either ... and my diabetes is different than yours!

I'd say GO if you can talk yourself into being comfortable but STAY if you'd rather. Your friends love you for you ... not for your diagnosis. I'm sure they'll honor whatever it is that you need to do to take care of yourself!!

Have you stayed in close enough touch with these girlfriends that they know you're Type 1? Do they know what you deal with? Will you feel like a wet blanket, so to speak?

I wish I had an answer at the ready ... but I guess what I really have are more questions!! If you trust them, if you know they respect you then I say GO THEE HENCE!!! If they are looking for you to be your former self then I guess you have to decide if that's worth it to you.

Good luck with your decision!
Cheers -

Ruth/4sons

age 52/Type 2 diabetic/"controlled" by diet and exercise


AMM
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   Posted 6/15/2007 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I say you should go. Make sure you test. A little splurge once in awhile isn't the end of the world, just don't go overboard. I think the chance to get away will do you good in other ways. I think maybe you should have at least one person understand your diabetes, just in case. Test often, eat reasonably and have some fun!!! Don't let diabetes stop you from having a good time. All you need to do is keep an eye on yourself and make changes as needed.
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Phishbowl
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   Posted 6/15/2007 8:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Ruth :-)

Yes, all 3 know I'm Type1. I work with two of them and they've seen snippets of my routine (testing, injecting, fixing lows) and there've been a couple of social engagements where eating late and a bit of alcohol (on my part) were involved. A late meal here or out there or a glass of wine here... have all been manageable. I've never done the whole day away from routine thing.

I think I'm worried most about being the wet blanket in the evening when they won't understand that I'm not out (able) to "tie one on" and go crazy drinking and dancing all night. I think that's the part of the trip they're all looking forward to most - freedom from responsibilities and "feeling good".

The pendulum will swing until I come to a decision, I guess. Thanks for the input :-)

Kris
Cheers,
- Phishbowl (Type 1 since Jan'05 - Levemir, NovoRapid)
"What's Not Measured Is Not Managed"

"It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows"-Epictetus


Jeannie143
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   Posted 6/15/2007 9:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Buddy Kris,
Guess what? They have changed in the past few years, too! I think by going on this fun visit you will find that the more things change the more they stay the same. Plan for a fun time, lots of happy tears and laughs, take some photos of the old days and your life as it is now. Good friendships need to be nurtured and that's what you are doing with this visit.

Everyone there will be having anxious feelings about gained weight, a new wrinkle, a broken marriage, lost dreams, unfulfilled expectations, life's disappointments. But friends build each other up and support. Here's how I see friends vs. critics in life... I call it rocks and sticks. Might work for you. I like to visualize the peeps I know in this way:

Been thinking about moving along my life path, my friends and the problem people who kind of get in front of me. I decided to just keep on being my own self and look upon my detractors as stumbling blocks in my life. I need to walk around and avoid them. They are not valuable gems that I need to pick up and carry. Every time I think of one of these people I picture a sharp rock, say a quick prayer for the poor rock and stay on path. If I picked up every heavy rock I saw I would never finish my journey. For me, you are a walking stick. You strengthen me, prop me up, keep me from stumbling and assist me on my life journey. You do not lead me or follow me, you are beside me, helping me, and I hope I am the same for you.

I believe that rocks choose to be rocks. Only God has the strength to pick them up and turn them into viable beings intent on moving toward Him. We are not strong enough to carry all the rocks of this world. We can only pray for them....


Thank you for being a stick.


Go ahead and go for it! Sit down when you are tired, drink diet soda or water with a slice of lime. Dance as much as you feel up to, be yourself. This is you and you have Type 1 diabetes. If they are going to remain your friends then they need to like the real you that you have become. I think they will be walking sticks and you'll have a great time. If your whole friendship was based on being blasted away on booze and acting like party girls... and you are so past that... bring that up with them via email and see if they are still stuck in the past. That should help you make your decision. I don't see you as a wet blanket. I see you as a smart cookie!
~ Jeannie, Forum Moderator/Diabetes & Fibromyalgia
~Please remember that 50% of all doctors graduated in the bottom half of their class! Yours may be one of them...
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Post Edited (Jeannie143) : 6/15/2007 10:35:35 AM (GMT-6)


Cali Jules
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   Posted 6/15/2007 9:49 AM (GMT -7)   
Here's my moto for you. NO darn REGRETS!

We gotta make our memories where we can. At the end of my life I want to make sure I have tears of joy running down my cheeks from not giving up or in.

I may run a bit in debt sometimes, I may make some silly choices but until someone proves to me otherwise that this life is only a test run I am going to squeeze in what I can and bring anyone along for the ride.

(that said I too over analyze what people may or may not think....but then I read posts like yours and remember.... NO darn REGRETS)

Looking forward to seeing the photos of you swinging from the 5 star chandelier

Hugs

Julia
Ulcerative colitis - Remission May 29, 2007, FM, AS, Type 2 Diabetes, PCOS, sober since 6/92, PTSD, Chronic Urticaria, Hypertension, High Cholesterol, GERD and a partridge in a pair tree.

My labels may give you insight, but they don't define me. JAFA

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Phishbowl
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   Posted 6/15/2007 11:05 AM (GMT -7)   
OMG... you guys are all fantastic! I thank you for your wonderful insight and advice.

I find with having to weigh so many choices on a daily basis sometimes it just gets overwhelming or you run in circles like I've been doing with this thing. I also worry about the "unknowns" and should know by now that no matter how many ways you can look at a situation, sometimes you just have to make A decision (or educated guess), even if doesn't always turn out to be the best one.

If you knew how long it took me to put that post out to you all, you'd think I was crazy. Or maybe you already think I am :-)

I also have to work on the "asking for help thing" more. You guys made me feel a whole lot better about this. Thanks :-)

Kris

p.s. Jeannie.....wonderful analogy. Made me smile as I read it. Thank you for that :-)
Cheers,
- Phishbowl (Type 1 since Jan'05 - Levemir, NovoRapid)
"What's Not Measured Is Not Managed"

"It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows"-Epictetus

Post Edited (Phishbowl) : 6/15/2007 12:08:20 PM (GMT-6)


gelchick
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   Posted 6/15/2007 11:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Well if they're all going to get ripped, unless you're sitting in a hotel suite, they're going to need a designated driver- just raise your hand!  My high school girlfriends got together for a pre-reunion weekend before our 20th- and let me tell you- none of us were the same party girls!
 
What a wonderful opportunity you'll have to share memories. Just take care of your needs in a routine matter-of-fact way and you'll have no chance of being a wet-blanket.
Wishing you lot and lots of fun!
sandy
I just want to live happily ever after-every now and then. Jimmy Buffett

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