Having to live with my folks at 44

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skeetercatt1
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   Posted 8/27/2008 10:38 PM (GMT -7)   
Well I am 44 and my epilepsy has gotten alot worse the last few years.. I have Grand mals,petit mals, and partials... over the last 5 years I have had to live with my mom and dad as I am still fighting for disability.. lately my mom has gotten real bad like trying to tell me I will never be anywhere else but with her.. My self esteem is gone and my depression is worse...Will I ever be get my own place? will the ongoing stress of living with others ever go away..I cannot stop crying and I cannot beleive my family is treating me like I have no brain left. can anyone suggest what I can do ?? to atleast get dasability? or something I have got to know I still have a life...
 
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skeetercatt

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 8/28/2008 5:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Skeeter,

There is nothing to say that you wont be able to get your own place. I think its a little irresponsible of your mum to say things like that when they are not true as that (As you have seen) has an impact on people mentally which can make epilepsy worse in some people. I dont know how the disability system works in the US so I cant help you on that front but I would suggest talking to your mum and being open and honest with her. Try popping over to the depression boards as well... you might find some more support over there as well as here.

Darren
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Gamma
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   Posted 9/1/2008 4:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi  Skeetercatt,

Number one, the most important opinoin about you, is your own opinion.  Doesn't your mother know how much she is hurting you with those thoughtless remarks?  I also think you two need to sit down and have a good talk.  Maybe she is just one of those people who believe in speaking plain.

As far as disability goes, it can be though.  My suggestion would be to call one of these law firms that specialize in disability.  From everything that I have read, everyone is turned down the first time, just as a matter of routine.  All the paper work has to be fille out just so, or they turn you down again.  Look in the phone book and call some of the local disability advocates and find out about fees and what you need to do to qualify.

Would you happen to have a friend or other relative that happens to have a "Mother-in-law" suite, or maybe an apartment over their garage.  Something where you would be close to others, but not exactly sharing the same space 24 hours a day.

Sorry I can't be more help.


Gentle hugs,
 
Gamma
 
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Teuneman
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   Posted 9/5/2008 12:21 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Skeetercatt

I wish I had a good solution for you.

I'd like to tell you is something good friends of ours told us the other day. They said, between the 2 points(meaning birth and death) in your life you have to find happiness. They explained it to me like this(they are rental agents just for your background:
They have a Townhouse complex they manage, Bico Villas. Two people were tenants in this specific unit at different stages and they both had more or less the same salary. The first tenant didn't respect the place, burnt he carpets, neglected the garden, literally pulled the place through his arse. He always complained about the fact that he is paying for someone else's mortgage and about the neighbor's pets making a noise. He wasn't happy with what he had. He had the ability to find happiness if he worked for it.

The second tenant however absolutely loved the place. Every month when he went to the rental agent's offices to pay his rent he could'nt stop talking about how amazing that complex was. He spent a third of his salary on the place, painting, gardning, sanding the skirtings and varnishing them, even though he knew the place was'nt his place, he spent HIS money on it.

The second tenant made it his home and the first tenant made it his prison. The point my friend was trying to make was that you have to find happiness in what you've got. Obviously you still have to strive to get what you really want, but until you get it, you can say you were happy, and if it is not destined for you to have what you want you at least had that happiness.

Good luck with the disability and home.
Keep us up to date.

T

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 9/5/2008 3:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Skeeter,

Just checking in to see how your doing. Havn't seen you for a while so I hope everything is OK.

Darren
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