Post Edited By Moderator (djdaz_1985) : 11/21/2008 5:45:46 AM (GMT-7)
I live in a tiny town about a half hour from the city where he gets in trouble. He used to go to college in the city, but had trouble and dropped out. He maintains "friends" there, some okay, some I don't know. I try to keep him around here and involved here with friends from church and AA but I cant force things. When he's normal, he likes it here. we do alot outdoors.
I did try to get his bond on a minor charge revoked so he could dry out, but the police station illegally refused, claiming bond was only applicable until first appearance, which is very illegal. They told me there was nothing I could do. I told my son that he better tell his friends mother to take good care of him because if anything happened to him in her house I was holding her responsible because I had explained to her myson had some problems.
I dropped him at this house where his friend who is still attnding college went. Apparently, he went to another "friend"'s house and did some rap music using his laptop. After he left the house, someone from there followed him back and he was assaulted by them, hit in the head with a hammer and his backpack stolen with his laptop, all his music and all his ppa epilepsy medicine.
After several ER visits he admitted to hearing converstations that were not there. He is now in a treatment center for mental illness and rehab. I hope he is okay.
Marji, Can you keep your son in this mental facility for a while? He really needs meds and a neurologist and psych dr. to properly diagnose him. My son has epilepsy and I have gone through all possible means to keep him safe and on his meds. He has an excellent neurologist and is on 3 different meds. He is stable and has not had a seizure in over 3 yrs. He works and is able to drive. But he does everything possible to keep himself safe. One thing that is very harmful to a person with epilepsy is alcohol. Alcohol causes seizures. He has to stop the drinking. Also, can't you get an order of protection against this woman who is influeincing him so badly? You say the police know about her. You should persue this. You say you live in a small town. Is there any big city where you can take him to find a neurologist to get him help? It would be worth the trip. If he is metally sick and doesn't work then he should be eligible for medicaid and for SSDI. You should call Social Security. You can look them up online and get the 800 # and call and try to find your closest SSI office. If you want your son to get better it is going to take a lot of hard work on your part to get him there. I had to do this with my son, but then my son always had cooperated and has never touched alcohol and does not like having seizures. He lives a pretty normal life now. So all is possible - you just have to put a lot of effort into getting him help. I hope I don't sound too preachy but you need to step up and help him. Too many seizures can result in death for many reasons and I know you don't want that. Keep posting to let us know what is happening. I only wish you and your son the best.
Marji, I will keep y9u in my prayers. As I said before he absolutely has to astain from alcohol especially if liver disease is in your family. Most meds you take go thru your liver so he doesn't need the added stress of alcohol. I hope you will get some aswers from SSI and from medicaid. He should qualify. It is important that he get an EEG as that test can tell alot of what is going on with him. Please post again and let me know how things are going. You will be in my thoughts as well and do, please take care of yourself. You can't be as much help to your son if you are not in good shape. I know it's a tall order but try to give yourself some down time - a bubble bath or a nice walk. Walking is a good way to relieve stress as it releases your endorphins. Take care.
Marji, I am glad you saw some improvement in your son today. I know how the holidays can mess up the mail and getting into a dr. I hope all gets done. In the meantime, do take some time off for yourself. You need some relief from your stress. Do you have somewhere to go for Thanksgiving that will get your mind off this situation? Do you have friends or family members to talk to? It would help if you had someone to go to who would listen to you. I of course, will always listen and post to you. But I do wish I could do more even if it was to just hold your hand or give you a shoulder to cry on. I know from experience how bad this can get. I was going thru cancer treatment when my son's seizures went haywire. So it was a pretty bad time, but we did get through all of it and we are both doing fine now. I do have to admit that my son's epilepsy meds do make him a bit crabby and hostile. But it is just something I have to put up with to keep him seizure free. And I do have the added benefit that he would never touch alcohol. You will be in my prayers and do try to get out and do something. Hope you can have a peaceful Thanksgiving. I will keep in touch and you let me know how it goes. Take good care.