My son was diagnosed by an epilepsy specialist and neurologist. He has had CBT and he said it didn't help him and now he refuses to see any therapist. He will see the epilepsy counselor because I have told him he has to have help but he doesn't think she is a tradional therapist. He can't change his meds because what he is on is what controls his seizures. The OCD meds are ones that contribute to his seizures so only some type of therapy will work. He just doesn't seem to accept that life changes and that I won't be here forever. I am 63 and have had several serious health issues. I think he is too afraid to face up to the future. So you can understand why I am so distsressed. I am a believer that those who change do so by helping themselves but he thinks things will automatically change without him trying. I am truly at the end of my rope. Thank you for trying to help me.
Thank you Palady for your reply. I am looking for someone who specializes in treating OCD and I will try to work along with his neurologist to find the right person. I live in a big city so there is lots of help if I can just find the right place. As far as myself I do see a therapist and I do have a/d and anti anxiety meds. I will also speak to my pdoc and see who she knows that treats OCD. I realize he may have to fail to get going on the right path. I just think it is(I hate to say this) so stupid to be late for work when you live 10 min away. How can you get better than that. If worse comes to worst I will have to place him in a home for disabled persons. But please know I am trying the best I know how to solve this problem. And again thank you for your support. This is not a forum that offers much support. I usually post on depression and I have tons of help on that one. Take good care of yourself and let me know if I can help you sometime.
Hi Palady, My son's neurologist is an epilepsy specialist and is with a big teaching hospital here. I live in a very big city so I am not worried about finding the right people. The epilepsy therapist I am working with right now has already explained to me that there is nothing rational about his behavior and that from his point of view can't understand this. Everything to him is either black or white, there is no inbetween. I have given him examples of what would happen if he didn't pick up a pair of socks before leaving the house. I told him the socks would still be there and he could pick them up later. This of course sounds rational to you and me but he has his own way of doing things and he is having a hard time breaking these habits. He was not like this 4 yrs. ago. He just started to worry about germs and cleanliness after his seizures went out of control over 4 yrs ago. But he has not had one since. He is just so afraid of having another one that he has developed these habits. And his neurologist has explained that he cannot guarantee that he will never have another seizure but he thinks if he is clean enough he won't have one. We have checked into diability insurance and he makes too much money (which isn't that much) and he doesn't qualify for disability. And he truly loves this job so he wouldn't want to have to give it up just to get a disability check. At least he feels like a fairly normal person right now. He drives and goes out with friends. I just don't want his basic life to change for the worst. I am doing the best I can to get him help but realize that this won't happen overnight. I think we will eventually work this out but it just needs time. Also, he does have medical insurance, very good insurance but he will lose it if he loses his job. The neurologists at his hospital meet frequenrly to discuss his treatment and so far all agree he is on the best meds for him. He is on the highest doses. He takes lamictal, keppra and zonegran. He was on prozac but it was determined that the prozac was a cause for seizure. He has frequent EEGs and they are clean so I think we are doing the best that has been advised. I do have professional help, a weekly therapist and a psychiatrist so I think I am well taken care of.Thanks again for your efforts.