Hi Trishy. I am sorry you are continuing to have these problems. Most of what you describe does not sound like peri menopause. I am through menopause and have never heard of anyone experiencing what you do because of menopause. My best advice is to wait to get your tests done to determine or rule out anything going on. In the meantime, since you are feeling such anxiety can you ask your dr. for a mild anti anxiety med to take as needed for a short duration? I am sorry to hear you lost your job. Can you get unemployment benefits? Were you let go or fired or downsized? If so you should be entitled to unemployment insurance. After all you have paid for it over the years when you had your job. I lost my job too last year, although technically I had to leave due to the job being way too physical for me. I have been looking for part time work but there is nothing and I have many years of experience and very good skills. No one wants to hire anyone my age, not that I look very old, but when they see on my resume that I have more than 25 yrs office experience they can figure out that I am at least 50 or more. (definitely more!) I hope all goes well with your son. And if your daughter lives in NJ she's not too far away. I have a son getting married in Oct. and I am very excited about it. I have such a small family it will be nice to have a daughter in law. And she is lovely. I also have another son as I mentioned, the one with epilepsy. Wish he didn't have it, it would make such a difference in my life. Well, don't want to be writing a short story here so do let me know how your tests go and anything I can do to help support you. Wishing you a happy holiday too.