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RanMan
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Date Joined Feb 2003
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   Posted 12/16/2004 10:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Scott,
 I read your post on the bipolar board but I couldn't post there b/c the system was down. I usually post on the epilepsy board, same as your wife.
I don't have bipolar but my 18 year old son does(manic depression) so I know what you and your wife are going through.

My teenage son (Bryan) is 18yrs old, was diagnosed with manic depression when he was 12. Now he's 18 and his brain hasn't advanced beyond age 12. He's been going in and out of phases every season change, usually Easter weekend and then in late October.
We have been to all kinds of doctors and all kinds of meds have been perscribed but now he seems to be getting worse.
In June 2001,his manic phase peeked.....to the point where he told his boss to f-off, (then he got fired) dropped out of school, beat the crap out of some kid at school so bad that he had to be hosbitalized, and became very violent at home and destructive and threatened and assaulted his parents, even smoked pot in his room (typical teenage stuff-ARG) He even stole things from the house to sell to get money to support his habit. He stays up all night most nights.

A lot of kids tend to get very violent or get in trouble with the law, then they're autmatically labeled as a "BAD KID" when it's actually a medical condition that can be controlled with medication,



I totally lost control of him to the point where I felt like a stranger in my own house and sometimes, I was afraid to come home from work.

The police were called and he ended up in the hosp. for the whole month of July so he could be monitored and detoxed.

Now that he's been at home, he's totally gone the other way.
He hasn't been out of the house since Nov. 2002, no social life and what concerns me the most:


1) all he does is sleep all day.....wakes up for a few hours and then goes back to sleep.

2) constantly eating and the weight gain is incredible.

3) Lost interest in everything NO AMBITION AT ALL.

4) Very cruel to the pets.


5) He has become very very very annoying and loves to get on peoples nerves (he even has admitted that to doctors) because it's his way of getting attention.

 He seems to have developed Attention Deficite Disorder (ADD) and loses interest in everything.

Everybody is trying to help him but he won't help himself.

Now with his manic depression/bipolar and my epilepsy, it's hard to keep the stress down and you can cut the tension in the house with a knife.

Sorry for the long post but I wanted to vent.

Randy (Ontario)


Diagnosed with epilepsy and ulcerative colitis in 1979,
Been on meds ever since.
 
275mg-dilantin/day
120mg-pheonobarb/day
3,000mg-Mesasol/day


try2bhappy
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Date Joined Nov 2004
Total Posts : 163
   Posted 12/18/2004 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Randy ,you can vent any time you want with me.When I got married at the age of 41 I had never been married before. My wife already had epilesy and a 18 yr old son that moved in with us .Her oldest son had comitted siuicide. She had to have her youngest son with her. That was for one and a half years.He was dx at a young age of having ADHD. From what my wife will says he did self medicate himself alot to try to stay focused.As for being bipolar I stick to what my Dr gives me and talk to the case workers they send to my home.You also have to learn how to deal with the syptoms. With my bipolar I will at times here voices for me if I rhytme the voices back they will stop. These are not voices you hear with your ears you hear them with your mind. This is just an example . What your son is going through is very very really even if he looks so normal.Sleeping is getting away from all the syptoms and side effects. But as my wife does for me and I do for her know matter how bad we feel we can't give into it. There are times that my wife just has to stop it all and sleep after a seizure. On occasion I will just stay in bed. Neither of us can work so it is important to get exercize whether you want to or not. you feel better being bipolar if you do get your butt out of bed and cut the grass or go for a really long walk. Hope I gave you just a little insight. You can vent to me any time. If you want I will just let you know got you and not say any thing else. Scott (keep in touch)

RanMan
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Date Joined Feb 2003
Total Posts : 665
   Posted 12/19/2004 12:52 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Scott,

Thanx for the reply.

You're right, I do feel much better if I keep myself occupied both mentally and physically. Since I went on disability retirement, I exercise daily and I'm out every day and walk the dog every day and cut grass and shovel snow for myself and the neihbours(sp).

As for my bipolar son - that's a different story. No matter how hard I try, I can't get him out of bed before 2 or 3pm. When I try, he gets very violent with me. He's even threatened to off me in my sleep.(see my post on the bipolar board "father needs help")

I feel like a stranger in my own home. If things don't go his way, he beats the crap out of me.

With that being said, how am I supposed to keep my stress level down - (major trigger for epilepsy).

Randy 


Diagnosed with epilepsy and ulcerative colitis in 1979,
Been on meds ever since.
 
275mg-dilantin/day
120mg-pheonobarb/day
3,000mg-Mesasol/day


try2bhappy
Regular Member


Date Joined Nov 2004
Total Posts : 163
   Posted 12/21/2004 10:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi! Jen, I do have bipolar but i've been talking with Randy. Mary got a call today to go to the epilepsy clinic in AnnArbor, Michigan for tomorrow. that is quick for an appointment there. Her neurolgist just could not get her seizures under control. This is suppose to be a good clinic. All the doctors there only work on seizure patients. She was having way to many which made it very hard on me.I love her alot and hate to see her go through this. I was having to give he the diastat once a day to stop her seizures. Maybe these doctors can find a combination of medicines to slow these bad boys down. She is so affraid to have surgery but she has to keep that as an opption. Scott
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