Firstly, let me say, it is just outrageous that ANYONE would have the nerve and arrogance to say "who are you going to sue" to someone who has come to the emergency room looking for HELP. That is a bunch of baloney! An attitude like that is what makes patients want to slap a doctor in the face ( I'm too nice to say more than that).
That attitude isn't even about being unkind... it's the fact that the emergency doc decided to pass judgement on you and then give you what he thought you deserved- he decided the joke was on YOU! Humiliation has always been a technique used over the years to try to break people's spirits. Sounds like it was tried on you too.
Secondly, you feel bitterness and anger- and rightly so. It hurts to feel so betrayed when you thought your own doctor was there for you and now you are up in the air. But, you can also make the situation work for you too. Don't misunderstand me. The very same doctor that said you weren't disabled and could go to work may not be aware of the exact situation that you are feeling and going through. Most of the time, it is the communication and bond with your doctor that makes things happen FOR you. Most doctors that have an ounce of empathy will respond if approached in the right way- after all, they are people too. Before you give up on your doctor, you might want to try again... tell him what YOU are going through....his eyes might open...
Thirdly, you ARE a survivor, bigmomma. Don't EVER give up... (((HUGS)))