Hello Everyone, my name is Amber and I am 21. I have a 27 yr old sister who has epilepsy, panic-anxiety attacks, migraines, is bipolar and is a hypochondriac. She had a seizure at age 17 and then nothing for 7 years with no meds or anything. She had none of the problems listed here at that time or for the following yrs. We first started to notice that she lied alot, even to my mother. Not about important things just piddly stuff so we ignored it.
She has been married four times and has seemed pretty happy over these past yrs.
about two yrs ago, she claimed that our boss had been harassing her sexually and had made very indecent offers of money. Then she started having seizures again and they scared her husband, or she would black out. She got migraines nearly every day and had to go to the E.R. After that she divorced him because he was seeking love elsewhere where she was lacking. She then started having suicide thoughts and was put in a mental hospital on suicide watch for three days. They did nothing but drug her up for 3 days and send her home. They did find out she had all these other problems. She got put on alot of meds and couldn't function well. So she quit taking them.
Well, to the future. She is now still having many problems but they were under control for a while. We don't know why they have come back. She has an alcoholic boyfriend and he is only with her because he can treat her any way he wants and she will put up with it because she isn't right. She has a son with numerous behavior and mental problems and lives with a foster family, but still comes to visit her. He is 11 years old. She also has two girls, 7&9 years, who live with her. Her boyfriend, who lives with her, also has a 7 & 9 year old. They argue alot and cause stress. He argues with her and then leaves her with the kids, knowing she will have a seizure, he doesn't take her to the hospital or even keep her kids( or his for that matter ) if she has to go. When she has a seizure the kids get scared and call 911. Then the EMTs call us to go get her kids. My mother and I have both missed work to take care of her. We can't even make plans to do things because they get ruined. She is at the hospital 1-4 times a week and we can't live like this anymore.
Today, she called me to take her to a hospital in another city. My mom had hand surgery this morning and after working untill 4 am I had to drive her for 2 hours to Indianapolis and back. When we got back at 1:00, I had to take my daughter to have her immunizations.
I slept for a while when we got back and 5 minutes after I woke up she was on the phone begging me to take her to the hospital. As you can tell, I was in no shape to drive. I offered to take her kids and let her b/f drive my truck and she said he wouldn't. I found her a ride and when I went to pick her up, I told her the kids were coming with me. She said no, he would keep them. I told her they were coming with me if I had to call the police. Her b/f came out and tried to butt in and I was so mad that I called him a drunken b**tard. I got her and the kids in the truck and told her that she wasn't taking care of them. I would take them if I had to.
I don't know what else to do to try to get her to help herself. She doesn't realize what she is doing to the kids or anyone else in the family, she is only thinking of herself right now.
If anyone can help me in any way, I would greatly appreciate it. I am at my wits end and don't know if I am doing the right thing or not.
Any advice about
controlling seizures, panic - anxiety attacks and migraines is totally welcome.
Thank You All !