Hello, I am new here also, and your post was the first I read. I became epileptic after a virus attacked my brain also, but it was many years ago now.... 22.
It's a nasty condition. Sometimes I say "it has eaten up and taken over my life". But then I look and examine and find the small things I enjoy.
Violarose, take what you can from this life. Your dear father has gone but you have children. I can still look at my grown sons and be thankful for the joy I get from them. My condition has led to some frightening times for them over the years, but it's not my fault, and it's not theirs. And I have been a good mother while being epiletpic. And you can also.
I am lucky enough to be able to work at a job I enjoy, but as the medication I take gets stronger and stronger, and as menopause approaches... I wonder how long that can go on. If I lose it, I will have to find something else. We just have to keep being strong and enjoying what we can out of life.
Stay away from bright flashing lights and any situation that may cause a seizure. Examine your life and what causes seizures. Foods? music? Let anyone around you know of your condition and help them be prepared for a seizure.
Violarose, epilepsy is not an end. It's just a very harsh turn in the road.