I can't really help you with the absence epilepsy. I was hoping someone would respond, but I guess mostly children have those. I did search back through some old posts and found something on page 10 from QueensMom from 7-26-2006. That might be a start for you. We are definitely here to support you.
I am currently 21 and was diogniosed with epilspsy when I was 19. I have absense seizures. I have other types of seizures also. It's been a long road to figure out how to control m seizures but my doctor is switching me over to a new medicine and so far I have had less seizures. So as far as what to expect I would say that you should expect for your child to appear to be "spacing out" from time to time. I think that with any kind of seizure it just takes time to figure things out. But once things are figured out I know that things will be ok. My day to day life to pretty normal. I am going to college, I have a job for the summer, I spend time with my friends... I am not sure if this is what you were asking for my this is a little view of how my experence with absence seizures has been.
1mother2, I would look for another doctor. The brain is such a tricky thing. I would definitely not accept what that lady told you. I really don't have any answers for you, other than some of our situation is similar. I am 56 and had to stop working last summer after being diagnosed with epilepsy. I live in KY and am about 1 1/2 hours away from Vanderbilt University Hospital, which is great. I did the four day EEG there last August and they captured myoclonic seizures. Since that time I have had other types of seizures and I have also been diagnosed with tinnitus and hearing loss in both ears. The tinnitus causes a ringing in my ears that for me sounds similar to crickets chirping. It is louder at night when everything is quiet and I am trying to go to sleep. Does any of this sound familiar to you? I am going back in to see my neurologist later this month because I still do not have the seizures under control. I am still having a hard time tolerating loud noises in restaurants, not able to go to church because of the music, etc. I have to be 90 days seizure free before I can drive and haven't gotten there yet. I can't believe they have actually taken your license completely away without really having a solid diagnosis. You really do need to get in with a good neurologist that specializes in epilepsy. If anything I have mentioned triggers any questions, feel free to ask.
I totally understand about this epilepsy thing turning your life upside down, believe me. I've been trying to come to terms with it since last August. As I've mentioned before, I still don't have my seizures under control. I do have an excellent neurologist down at Vanderbilt and I'm going back down so see him next week. It doesn't sound like you have a doctor who will really listen to you yet. That has to be very frustrating on top of what you are already dealing with. Not being able to drive is enough to deal with. Please feel free to email me any time.