Sorry to hear about your pain & migraines. Last week I went through 4 days battling migraines and nausea-so I know how much they suck.
OK, I am probably gonna go off on a rant here, so I apologize ahead of time. Why do guys always give us a guilt trip and/or make us feel like crap when we are so obviously sick? I don't have a husband or boyfriend, but I do have a guy "friend" who is the biggest baby! Actually, we aren't even talking right now, because I told him that I wouldn't speak to him until he could give me the respect that I deserve. I am so tired of everything always being about him! Even when I try to tell him how painful and sick I feel, he turns it around and tells me how that makes HIM feel. I am just DONE with his attitude.
Alrighty, sorry about that. I am not saying that your husband is anything like this, but he sounds like he sends you on enough guilt trips for you to qualify for frequent flyer miles. I hate when guys are passive aggressive like that. LOL-sorry, I'm starting to go off again. I think it's because I'm really hurting today and going through a similar situation.
Anyway, I really do hope things get better for you.
I have to tell you I cried as I read your post. Everything you said is true and I just haven't wanted to accept it. I have always been the person who holds the family together, not show emotion, have the family party and take care of everyone. I can't do it anymore and it hurts, my heart is breaking just thinking about what I have lost. I really do have a wonderful family but they don't get it. My husband can take care of himself and for the most part so can my girls.
I can honestly say that I have been doing much better since joining the forum. Having someone to talk to that understands has been wonderful. Some of the pressure has lifted and I am learning a lot. I have a long way to go but I know with the help of my new friends I can do it. I do know that I am going to print your post and read it everytime my family makes me feel guilty for letting them down. I was a strong person before Fibro and I will become a strong (different but strong) person again, it's just going to take time.
Thank you for being there for me!
Karen, your strength gives me hope and determination. I feel like you are describing my life and I am at the point now when you had slowed down from the pain. I worked very hard to lose 65 pounds and then fibro hit and I have slowed down. I have gained 23 pounds (maybe more but I don't want to step on the scale) and just feel down and ugly. Putting on make-up (I'm a bare minerals lover too, have more than I need) helps me feel a little better but somedays nothing helps (maybe I need to buy more makeup, ha ha). I am so happy that I have everyone here to help get me through this.
I was happy to hear that you had a good visit with your mother. It sounds like she really wants to try and be more helpful. It's just so hard to let loved ones down but you are proof that you can say "No" and things will be ok. I don't know how many times I need to repeat that to myself but eventually I will get it.
Karen, write as much as you want. I enjoy your posts and find them very helpful. I feel like you are inside of my head (strange I know). We must have very similar personality types. Anyway keep talking, it helps all of us.
Lisa, you sound like my 13 year old daughter Em. She will do anything to get a horse. I think it is great incentive to keep moving. Em is cleaning my house everyday, except Mondays (she goes to the barn to work for the day) and I am paying her three dollars for everyday she cleans. It has been such a big help and gets her one step closer to her goal. Right now that is to get more riding lessons. I told her we both win.
Everyone have a wonderful day!
I ordered the Obus Forme back support with a connecting "seat" I believe it is the third link down on the left for back and seat supports. I think it costs $109 -- worth every penny.
I also have a "Soma" chair for my computer at home. It is a very ergonomically sound chair - make sure the rest of your set-up is as well. I hurt myself from having a horrible work station graphic designing. It's gone from bad to worse ever since. Fortunately, workman's comp had to pay for the chair, as it costs around $800.
I know I had more to say, but.................I forget (happens quite a bit).
Well, I'm going to lay down and rest before my "phone appt." with my Pain Person - thank heaven for her!!!
Lisa, I don't know what you did either but I cut it out for you.
Post Edited By Moderator (Marlee2) : 7/29/2008 1:46:14 PM (GMT-6)
I wasn't offended, I just wanted to make sure that you know that it was meant to be a compliment. I have been lucky so far, both of my teenagers have not been much of a problem. They still like me .