I understand what you are going through. My family is finally getting a little better but they still have a long way to go. I have finally just stopped doing when I'm tired. I don't clean, cook, or entertain (I do feel guilty though, I'm still working on that). My house is usually a mess and when one of the kids needs clean laundry, I just ask "When was the last time you helped me, I have to much to do and I haven't gotten to that yet". They still don't help much but the picture is getting a little clearer to them. My kids are great kids too! I'm not sure that they are mature enough to understand it all (they are 10, 13 and 15 - and yes they are old enough but I'm not sure mature enough). My husband on the other hand, well he's not mature either. He really has been trying to be helpful. He has been researching fibro and doing a lot around the house (and yes I hate the way he cleans if you can call it cleaning) but he does not handle stress well, when he sees I'm sick he gets tense and usually snaps at everyone. Even though I know he really doesn't mean it the message to me is, I hate that you are sick, it is interrupting my life and I don't like it. I'm just taking it one day at a time right now. But I do know where you are coming from. My advice, just sit your family down and lay down the law. Fibro is for life and your life has changed. Your family needs to know how you feel. They will never recognize that you are crying unless you bring it to their attention.
I hope I don't sound to bitter (I guess I am a little, it's a sore subject). This forum has been wonderful for venting. I feel better, I don't feel so alone. I hope that things do get better for you. Speak up and make them listen!
Sue, please read Rule # 1. Thanks!
Post Edited By Moderator (Sherrine) : 8/22/2008 5:43:09 AM (GMT-6)