I am the same way as you, I hate to disappoint my family. I do so many stupid things that just get me into trouble. But how do you look into the faces of your loved ones and say no. It's hard to change a whole lifetime of behavior. We are caretakers and we need to see the joy on the faces of our loved ones. It makes us feel needed and loved. Even though you had a busy weekend, it sounds like you made some great memories. Next time, pace yourself and let your daughter know that you need to get to bed at a respectible hour so that you can be more productive the next day. And if that doesn't work, we are always here to listen. I hope you get some much needed rest.
Hi Karen, I to feel like I let my family down. My daughter goes to tech college and all her friends mothers drive them, no me. She doesnt really say anything but I feel it. That is just one example. Everyday there are heaps. I feel a failure totally because none of the extended family understand and still expect things the same, in fact so do my own family. I just try be there for my daughter to talk to now , thats one thing I can still do. Dont think the guilt ever totally goes, lets face it we have basically lost the person we were and we moarn for that person. But how you did all that with the grandkids ect , Welll done.. Our husbands can be like little kids themselves for sure. hugs feel good about what you accomplished. susez2
That was one of the most beautiful, sincere, honest posts I have read in a long time. Thank you for sharing that with us, even though I know just typing it and revealing your heart, fears and hopes had to have worn you out.
Alot of what you said sounds like me. I miss my grandkids because I cannot drive that far and they are so busy. BUT, they know their Gigi (thats me! lol) loves them so much and I know they love me and that laughter and giggles truly is priceless.
Again, thank you for sharing that. I hope you get your much needed rest and hopefully get back to YOUR LEVEL of YOUR WELLNESS as soon as possible.
I overdid it Tuesday as it was my youngest son's birthday and people were coming over in the evening for cake. Getting myself cleaned up, many errands, getting the house ready and did not pace myself at all. Not good! Talk about pain in my legs yesterday!!! I felt that he deserved a nice birthday. So on these occassions I feel it is worth it.
Please be kind to yourself for a couple days now and try not to do too much. And you do know if family doesn't understand- WE do! GamJill
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